ammsnnt Posted March 28, 2015 Posted March 28, 2015 I've been dating with a guy that i've met from tinder. So for the first day we went out for lunch and just iceskating together,it was so much fun and he was so nice and just kiss me before we leave Then we decided to went out again in the next day and yes he said that i'm so happy when i'm with you and so do i. But after the couple days he had to fly back to his hometown for work but he'll be right back in the next 2 weeks. Now it has been for week we always talk but not much because sometimes he's busy. So yesterday he told me that he went out to the club and just got home and he sent me a picture of he brushing his teeth and said babe i'm going to bed now then i'm about to respond but in the same minute he said Hi and Wanna Facetime? So i think that he sent it to the wrong chat :l Don't you think that he was talking with someone else? I don't wanna ask him in a straight way because i don't wanna fight with him but i just really can't stop thinking about his ... What should i do?
ExpatInItaly Posted March 28, 2015 Posted March 28, 2015 Girl, grow a backbone and just ask if it was meant for you. Don't be so afraid of honesty. I don't see why this would start a fight. You barely know him, from the sounds of it. If I read your post correctly, you've only been out once or twice, right? It's not unreasonable that he's seeing other girls. If that's the case, it's better you learn that now instead of thinking you're seeing each other exclusively when he's not on the same page.
Redhead14 Posted March 28, 2015 Posted March 28, 2015 I've been dating with a guy that i've met from tinder. So for the first day we went out for lunch and just iceskating together,it was so much fun and he was so nice and just kiss me before we leave Then we decided to went out again in the next day and yes he said that i'm so happy when i'm with you and so do i. But after the couple days he had to fly back to his hometown for work but he'll be right back in the next 2 weeks. Now it has been for week we always talk but not much because sometimes he's busy. So yesterday he told me that he went out to the club and just got home and he sent me a picture of he brushing his teeth and said babe i'm going to bed now then i'm about to respond but in the same minute he said Hi and Wanna Facetime? So i think that he sent it to the wrong chat :l Don't you think that he was talking with someone else? I don't wanna ask him in a straight way because i don't wanna fight with him but i just really can't stop thinking about his ... What should i do? So what if he's talking to someone else? You only went on two dates with him. He isn't your boyfriend and you shouldn't be fighting about anything with him now. And, maybe, he just changed his mind about going right to bed and wanted to Facetime with you. If anything, you should have responded and said, "hey, did you mean that last text for me? and left it at that. What should you do? Stop thinking about it. Just because a guy goes on two dates with you, it doesn't mean he owes you anything yet. He can and should be talking/dating other people and so should you. 1
d0nnivain Posted March 28, 2015 Posted March 28, 2015 From that I got that you were apart & he was thinking about you. Where on earth did you get the idea that you thought he walk talking to someone else? You need to stop being so insecure; it's not healthy for you. As RedHead14 pointed out though, after 2 dates you have no expectations or entitlements to exclusivity so try to relax.
GoldenGirl2015 Posted March 28, 2015 Posted March 28, 2015 I would just let that one go, its not that big of a deal.
devilish innocent Posted March 28, 2015 Posted March 28, 2015 Just because you had two dates that went well doesn't mean he's stopped meeting other women. Many people multidate until they're in an exclusive relationship. You don't really know this guy yet, so try not to take anything too seriously. He could be gone tomorrow. Keep busy with other areas of your life to take your focus off of him.
MLAZ1990 Posted March 28, 2015 Posted March 28, 2015 I've been dating with a guy that i've met from tinder. So for the first day we went out for lunch and just iceskating together,it was so much fun and he was so nice and just kiss me before we leave Then we decided to went out again in the next day and yes he said that i'm so happy when i'm with you and so do i. But after the couple days he had to fly back to his hometown for work but he'll be right back in the next 2 weeks. Now it has been for week we always talk but not much because sometimes he's busy. So yesterday he told me that he went out to the club and just got home and he sent me a picture of he brushing his teeth and said babe i'm going to bed now then i'm about to respond but in the same minute he said Hi and Wanna Facetime? So i think that he sent it to the wrong chat :l Don't you think that he was talking with someone else? I don't wanna ask him in a straight way because i don't wanna fight with him but i just really can't stop thinking about his ... What should i do? Maybe I'm crazy, but I would kind of be upset. "Multidating" is some BS! How do you go on a date with more than one person in the same period of time?
fitnessfan365 Posted March 28, 2015 Posted March 28, 2015 Hmm..If you had replied to his "teeth brushing" text, I could see him bring up face time. After all, he'd probably assume you weren't available to talk, and then when he found out you were up, he wants to talk more. But in this case, him sending the text, and then sending the face time request right after with no response from you is a bit weird. BUT...you had two dates with the guy and he doesn't owe you anything. Since he isn't your BF, you don't really have a right to be upset IMO. However, if a guy is going to multi-date it helps when he doesn't make stupid mistakes like that..LOL
Gaeta Posted March 28, 2015 Posted March 28, 2015 But after the couple days he had to fly back to his hometown for work but he'll be right back in the next 2 weeks. So this guy does not live or work in your city? why was he in your city? Why would look for a girl that lives at a flight distance from his home and work! I smell a player.
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