My Ex-boyfriend told me to F off, is he justified in being mad?

[fred123]

I totally agree with peoples posts on here. Iv had it done to me where i thought a girl liked me and she knew very well i was into her and when we met instead of her saying to me she doesnt like me or only sees me as a friend she got a random guy at the bar to text it to me from her phone! Exactly what george did!

 

It is very cruel and humiliating. Why cant people be just mature and tell them/talk to them in person and give them the respect and human decency they deserve

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[Mrlonelyone]

Yes he was justified. You have described 2 1/2 years of you breaking up with him and making him chase you. He was patient since your youth means you will be a bit immature about relationships....he simply ran out of patients.

 

 

You need to either come to him and dedicate yourself to working on a mature no BS breaking up all the time relationship with him.

 

OR

Leave him alone and go NC. Move on to a younger man or better yet just live life and gain maturity and perspective with some age.

 

 

 

You did the "worst thing ever" because you dumped him and then you toyed with him cruelly.

It was just a huge ego boost for you, you liked he fact he was always trying to win you back and you gave him cause to think he was in with a chance, then you would whip the rug from under his feet.

YOU taunted him with other guys and treated him dreadfully.

So bad that eventually he had to tell you to f*ck off. He doesn't want to be friends with a someone who acted like a b*tch towards him.

Grow up and learn to treat people better.

 

 

To learn to treat good people well....some people need to learn how hard they are to find first.

[Diezel]

I don't like drama.

 

This thread proves otherwise.

 

And if he is friends with his ex's and not with you, must say a lot about either:

(A): You

(B): How low he thinks of you.

[BlueIvy]

This thread proves otherwise.

 

And if he is friends with his ex's and not with you, must say a lot about either:

(A): You

(B): How low he thinks of you.

 

Well, the last time I saw him he said he had Many relationships and ours was the best in terms of how we got along and he will reminisce when he gets older.

[BlueIvy]

Yes he was justified. You have described 2 1/2 years of you breaking up with him and making him chase you. He was patient since your youth means you will be a bit immature about relationships....he simply ran out of patients.

 

 

You need to either come to him and dedicate yourself to working on a mature no BS breaking up all the time relationship with him.

 

OR

Leave him alone and go NC. Move on to a younger man or better yet just live life and gain maturity and perspective with some age.

 

 

 

 

 

 

To learn to treat good people well....some people need to learn how hard they are to find first.

If you read all the threads you will understand the dynamics more. He was the one who would push me away because he felt guilty being with someone a lot younger. I leave and then he lures me back in and I love him so I go back. It's not like I broke up with him for fun.

I loved him a lot..so then I date other guys or whatnot and he gets pissed ...he tells me move on and be with a younger guy and when I do he gets mad.

 

 

He mentioned marriage saying I'm his ideal marriage but then would say I'm too young for him.

 

So, we were friends meaning no sex. But he would still flirt or say how much he loves me but next breath tell me to move on or ask me out to dinner.

If he got mad, he would ignore me for a week.

 

This young man said I'm very beautiful and when we're alone, ex became insecure then mentioned my flaws.

 

I'm not perfect but I was not the one playing games.

[BlueIvy]

I totally agree with peoples posts on here. Iv had it done to me where i thought a girl liked me and she knew very well i was into her and when we met instead of her saying to me she doesnt like me or only sees me as a friend she got a random guy at the bar to text it to me from her phone! Exactly what george did!

 

It is very cruel and humiliating. Why cant people be just mature and tell them/talk to them in person and give them the respect and human decency they deserve

...?

 

I didn't tell George to speak on my behalf. I do admit I should have checked him but I didn't take it seriously. I'm very communicative in my relationships. Hence when George forwarded me what he told ex, I knew he was serious and contacted ex and tried to clarify. I told him it was George who said he needs to leave me alone.

[kendahke]

I think that you care so much because you have done absolutely NOTHING to sever communications with your ex. Your cheek is as firmly on the hook as the day you were when you posted your first thread about this. This has never ended for you two... you and he are continuing to kick a dead, bloated, maggot ridden horse corpse, as if doing that will reanimate it. All you've managed is to get more and more offal all over you and now you're wondering why it stinks so much.

 

GO NO CONTACT AND LEAVE HIM ALONE!!!! George, too, for that matter because all he serves is being a hook/reminder back to your ex.

 

You really need a new circle of friends and you need to leave your ex alone.

[kendahke]

I dumped him becuse .

 

why you dumped him doesn't matter now.

 

You dumped him. Period. Fin. End of this sad tale.

 

Move on and quit trying to be his friend.

[Diezel]

Well, the last time I saw him he said he had Many relationships and ours was the best in terms of how we got along and he will reminisce when he gets older.

 

It might have been the best relationship, but that doesn't mean that's the one with the best ending. Not in his mind at least.

[BlueIvy]

I think that you care so much because you have done absolutely NOTHING to sever communications with your ex. Your cheek is as firmly on the hook as the day you were when you posted your first thread about this. This has never ended for you two... you and he are continuing to kick a dead, bloated, maggot ridden horse corpse, as if doing that will reanimate it. All you've managed is to get more and more offal all over you and now you're wondering why it stinks so much.

 

GO NO CONTACT AND LEAVE HIM ALONE!!!! George, too, for that matter because all he serves is being a hook/reminder back to your ex.

 

You really need a new circle of friends and you need to leave your ex alone.

 

I do have friends,lol.

 

I have made effort but not strong enough. I deleted his # but unfortunately I still remember it. I haven't called him. Just sent a few texts but they weren't anything deep just like happy Easter and stuff.

 

I knew George longer than ex and we don't discuss my ex at all.

[kendahke]

Well, the last time I saw him he said he had Many relationships and ours was the best in terms of how we got along and he will reminisce when he gets older.

 

The operative verb in that sentence is "was". Past tense, not present tense or future tense. For him there is no future with you, especially after the stunt with George. He will forgive George, most likely, and they will continue to be frienemies because he didn't let George into a place of sexual intimacy as he has you. Big difference in the two dynamics if you think that there is none.

 

It also doesn't mean that he won't find something even better with a more emotionally balanced woman in the future. He has made it abundantly clear that with you, that ship has sailed.

[kendahke]

I do have friends,lol.

 

I have made effort but not strong enough. I deleted his # but unfortunately I still remember it. I haven't called him. Just sent a few texts but they weren't anything deep just like happy Easter and stuff.

 

I knew George longer than ex and we don't discuss my ex at all.

 

Blah blah blah...

 

leave them both alone and take up with the friends you do have whose relationships you haven't messed up yet.

[BlueIvy]

The operative verb in that sentence is "was". Past tense, not present tense or future tense. For him there is no future with you, especially after the stunt with George. He will forgive George, most likely, and they will continue to be frienemies because he didn't let George into a place of sexual intimacy as he has you. Big difference in the two dynamics if you think that there is none.

 

It also doesn't mean that he won't find something even better with a more emotionally balanced woman in the future. He has made it abundantly clear that with you, that ship has sailed.

 

Again, you don't know the relationship in its entirety. I don't see see him being wirh anyone else seriously. He's in his 50s and been 2wice divorced. Even George says he has bad luck in relationships, to which my ex state she doesn't know how to choose the right women.

 

He's not a bad person but my ex is shallow yet insecure. Everyone who knows him knows this.

[BlueIvy]

Anyway, thank you to those who gave me helpful advice in a respectful manner.

[Dork Vader]

Where to begin?

 

George is his friend not yours. That said you need to understand how inappropriate it would be for you to maintain a friendship with George. Exactly what your ex said.. Be honest with yourself how would you feel if your ex was continuing a relationship with one of your friends? Even if that friendship was platonic, and your friend had sexual attraction to your ex?

 

George is clearly trying to come between you and your ex. The guy wants in your pants. His advice is jaded and will never be good or fair.

 

No you should NOT be talking about your relationship experience with George or any mutual friends or any of his friends. If people ask just tell them you've both decided you're better off as friends, aside from that you're not going to gossip about it.

 

No George should not have told your ex to back off or end things. That is clearly between you and your ex. If it is was something you desired then you should have told your ex how you felt and taken meaningful action to end it.

 

As for George you can't blame your ex for not wanting to maintain a friendship with the guy anymore. He violated his friendship by sexting you! It shows clearly that George is willing to throw anyone under the buss when he wants something.

 

If you need someone to talk to that is what YOUR friends and family are for, not his. You should never ever involve third parties in your relationship, unless it is an LMFT and you are receiving licensed counseling/therapy.

[Dork Vader]

Blah blah blah...

 

leave them both alone and take up with the friends you do have whose relationships you haven't messed up yet.

 

And not only that just because it WAS the best relationship does not mean it was a good or healthy one. His past relationship could have been extremely extremely bad.

[BlueIvy]

Where to begin?

 

George is his friend not yours. That said you need to understand how inappropriate it would be for you to maintain a friendship with George. Exactly what your ex said.. Be honest with yourself how would you feel if your ex was continuing a relationship with one of your friends? Even if that friendship was platonic, and your friend had sexual attraction to your ex?

 

George is clearly trying to come between you and your ex. The guy wants in your pants. His advice is jaded and will never be good or fair.

 

No you should NOT be talking about your relationship experience with George or any mutual friends or any of his friends. If people ask just tell them you've both decided you're better off as friends, aside from that you're not going to gossip about it.

 

No George should not have told your ex to back off or end things. That is clearly between you and your ex. If it is was something you desired then you should have told your ex how you felt and taken meaningful action to end it.

 

As for George you can't blame your ex for not wanting to maintain a friendship with the guy anymore. He violated his friendship by sexting you! It shows clearly that George is willing to throw anyone under the buss when he wants something.

 

If you need someone to talk to that is what YOUR friends and family are for, not his. You should never ever involve third parties in your relationship, unless it is an LMFT and you are receiving licensed counseling/therapy.

 

Yeah, you are right. My friend told me to drop George too because she thinks he is a snake. Well, for future relationships I ain't telling friends nifty details.

 

The thing is George was attracted to me before I dated my ex. I use to intern for him and he was super flirty and I laughed it off because I was never interested.

[preraph]

You need some boundaries. Anyone could see this is a bad situation pitting two friends against each other. You shouldn't be leading George on if that's what you're doing, and you certainly shouldn't mess with him because he's your ex's friend -- and I wish I could say the same for George, who is a self-serving disloyal jackass who you'd be a fool to get mixed up with. Of course, this betrayal by both of you hurt your ex's feelings. I feel bad for the guy.

[BlueIvy]

You need some boundaries. Anyone could see this is a bad situation pitting two friends against each other. You shouldn't be leading George on if that's what you're doing, and you certainly shouldn't mess with him because he's your ex's friend -- and I wish I could say the same for George, who is a self-serving disloyal jackass who you'd be a fool to get mixed up with. Of course, this betrayal by both of you hurt your ex's feelings. I feel bad for the guy.

 

I wasn't pitting anyone against each other. Who said I was leading George on?

 

I actually knew George before I knew my ex. Me and George are still in contact, as we are acquaintances. As for my ex, I stopped contacting him and he has been doing the same. I don't miss him anymore or care to remain friends.