Skinnyminnie Posted March 27, 2015 Posted March 27, 2015 I've been very upfront and vocal about how I'm doing post breakup. It's been 3 months and I can say, it's gotten easier. I'm in therapy and taking medication because it got to a point where I was very low and couldn't really function. Therapy has a BIG help. Yesterday the therapist told me that my partner was passive aggresive, narcissistic, and codependent on me, a codependent. That's a new one for me. I did some research and it made perfect sense! It was like a weight was lifted from my chest and everything clicked. My ex moved on after 12 years within a month. He has a new girlfriend that he already introduced to his mom. Mom is his counterpart. The apple didn't fall far from the tree I'd like to add. I wondered if he'd return because I truly loved him and I wanted him back so badly. There is love there for sure on my part, but not from him. He wished me good luck and happiness. It was a stab to the back. At this point I'm sure there is nothing holding him back from his new life. I don't get him. He LOVED my family. He loved being at home with me and loved going out and doing things. I don't know if he met this girl and maybe felt that rush that he wasn't getting with me. I'm not sure and I won't know because even though I'm doing no contact, I really have no desire to see him or talk to him. I'm codependent. I truly am and I want to do everything in my power to move forward. I don't want to think about my ex or even cross his path. I just still have the same dang question that I've had since day one... Will he ever regret his actions and leaving me out of the blue? He's not a terrible guy. I'm not trying to justify him. Not in the very least, but I can give credit where credit is due. I can't say he's a full on narcissist, but he definitely has a lot of the characteristics, but I enabled him. That's my fault. I miss him. I miss him everyday, but now I wonder if it's the codependency that won't let me move on. Anyone's input is much appreciated. Thanks for reading!
elaine567 Posted March 27, 2015 Posted March 27, 2015 You may want to read this. The Dance Between Codependents & Narcissists | World of Psychology
Author Skinnyminnie Posted March 28, 2015 Author Posted March 28, 2015 Thanks for the article. As I read it I recalled many events that have occurred in my relationship. That was us. He wasn't controlling and I won't dare say abusive, but he had MANY characteristics of a narcissistic individual. I'm definitely codependent and I never in my life want to fall down that path again. Great recommendation!
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