Going on a date with a friend

[windows]

Hey,

I wanted to ask this question because I don't see many places online which address this situation. Contrary to the advice I received on here a while ago, I decided to ask a friend of mine out on a date, and she told me she would think about it. So until she gets back to me with a 'yes' or 'no', I was thinking about what it would actually look like to date a friend you've known for a while.

 

A few things to note:

1. We've known each other for a few years already - and we get on quite well. But she's not my 'best friend' nor do I have a major crush on her, so I can't really relate to those "I'm secretly in love with my best friend" scenarios.
   
2. Even though I'm acting really candid about it all, I do genuinely find her attractive.
   

 

A lot of the get-to-know-you stuff doesn't really apply anymore if you already know them, right? So what would you do when going on a date with a friend?

[PegNosePete]

until she gets back to me with a 'yes' or 'no'

All the rest of your post is moot. You have your answer already. Anything other than "yes", means "no".

 

She didn't refuse to answer because she needed to think about it... she refused to answer because she needs to think of a way to let you down gently and not ruin the friendship.

[windows]

Okay, let's not make this about her then. I am well aware she could just say "no" or reject me or whatever, and I'll just be looking around again. I am not asking any of you to read her mind as to whether she will say 'yes' or 'no', because that's a pointless exercise. I'll find out eventually.

 

But I still want to know about people who have gone out on dates with friends.

 

Shall we talk about that hypothetical instead? The question was, 'What would you do if you went on a date with a friend?'

 

Edit: I'm also asking because, just in case this doesn't work out, I'm also asking for the 'what if' scenario if I ask out and date another friend of mine in the future.

Edited March 27, 2015 by windows

[Rko28]

I dated a friend I really fancied for years, a friend through work I may add.

 

We went out about 4 or 5 times and I bought her flowers on her birthday but we never kissed. I wasnt sure if it was dates we were going on or just friendly hangouts so never initiated anything.

 

We then stopped dating all of a sudden and i noticed she was dating another guy.

 

We spoke a few weekends ago about it as this was 2 years ago, she said she really liked me and they were dates in her eyes but it seemed all I wanted was a friendship so she moved on.

 

My advice if dating a friend? make sure from the outset that they know its more than a friendly meet and it is a date, and please make a move.

 

I missed out on a really great girl because of my actions

[Diezel]

She said she had to think about it?

 

Anyway, if I went out on a date with a friend, I'd treat it like a date.