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I beginning to understand the whole concept of NC. At first I couldn't grasp what the point of it is. I knew what it meant on the dumpee part. It was meant to take away the longing and the urgency and the feeling of desperation to contact your ex. It makes you feel empowered and gives you self respect that you so desperately need....that I needed. I still miss my ex but I feel each and everyday like Im getting stronger. What I dont get with NC is that I noticed that a lot of people on here feel anxious whenever they haven't heard from their exs and I thought the whole point was for your ex to contact you first but its called bread crumbs. Oh well maybe I will have my light bulb moment with that too. Ya'll dont give me a hard time please for not getting NC..I had to see it on my own. You see I ran into him at work after avoiding him for weeks. He asked me how my son was doing and I said he is doing fine..I kept it short and kept moving.

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I have always implemented NC after a breakup. It is to protect yourself from being more attached and helps with the detaching and grieving process so you can move on faster. It shouldn't be done just to tempt yourself and get your hopes up that your partner will come back to you. It's so so hard but I think it's always the right thing to do. I recommend the book "ignore the guy, get the guy" which discusses Nc in depth

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I have always implemented NC after a breakup. It is to protect yourself from being more attached and helps with the detaching and grieving process so you can move on faster. It shouldn't be done just to tempt yourself and get your hopes up that your partner will come back to you. It's so so hard but I think it's always the right thing to do. I recommend the book "ignore the guy, get the guy" which discusses Nc in depth

 

I would love to read that book. Is it sold every where.?

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I would have to block my ex's number to go NC, not for the fact so she couldn't message me....but so I couldn't message her.

Man NC is SO freaking hard!

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Apex,

I know what u mean about it being hard.Its the weekend that makes it hard for me because thats when my ex and I would get together. I kind of dread when that day comes but Im happy too because its the weekend so I guess its bitter sweet. I have lots to do but don't have the energy. NC is hard because as I said before its for my protection against myself but the part I really want is for him to reach out. Heartbreak is hard.I just wished that I didn't care....it would make it so much easier. Peace!!

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Apex,

I know what u mean about it being hard.Its the weekend that makes it hard for me because thats when my ex and I would get together. I kind of dread when that day comes but Im happy too because its the weekend so I guess its bitter sweet. I have lots to do but don't have the energy. NC is hard because as I said before its for my protection against myself but the part I really want is for him to reach out. Heartbreak is hard.I just wished that I didn't care....it would make it so much easier. Peace!!

 

i know what you mean mate the weekends are the worst for me :( that was 'our' time. now she uses the weekends to party :'( i use to party on the weekends but some nights i would have a terrible night because im scoping around clubs looking for her and always hoping i would see her so i stopped putting myself through that. now i stay home in the weekends and i miss her so much :( i dont think im ready to party until im over her atleast :(

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i know what you mean mate the weekends are the worst for me :( that was 'our' time. now she uses the weekends to party :'( i use to party on the weekends but some nights i would have a terrible night because im scoping around clubs looking for her and always hoping i would see her so i stopped putting myself through that. now i stay home in the weekends and i miss her so much :( i dont think im ready to party until im over her atleast :(

 

Its almost over...depending on what part of the world youre at. I got through it. I work nite shift so Im mostly too tired to really think about things...its just we would make time for each other no matter what. For now I plan on going solo for awhile until I can get a better outlook of things. Stay strong!!!!!

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