littlesmurf Posted March 26, 2015 Posted March 26, 2015 (edited) We broke up on Sunday and I told her to leave me alone. She wrote an email today to me saying: how she loves me and misses me like crazy and is dying without me. She wish that we were meant to be together. She loves me and she will never forget about me. God help her she feel like she will go insane. And to never forget about her... I answered to her "What is the point of sending me a mail like this? Unless you want reconciliation with me you shouldn't write to me at all. You are now sending me how you love me but you had a choice of choosing to be with me on Sunday and you said yourself "Goodbye". You also said how you "love me but you're not in love with me" which made me laugh so much in following days! Why? Because "being in love" is basically honeymoon phase and that goes away after like 6 months of relationship, but loving someone is for life!!!! So is this an ego-boost because it's hard or you truly love me?" She hasn't responded to my mail at all today and if she doesn't I will never respond to her again. What do you guys think? PS. I broke up with her on Friday and called her on Sunday to break it off completely with basically NC. Also ONE important fact!!! We started with breakups on around November and by now we had like once or twice a month a breakup. She would ALWAYS come next day and beg me to take her back, basically. So we by now have a pattern of breakups that I got tired of. Edited March 26, 2015 by littlesmurf
OneBigIdgit Posted March 26, 2015 Posted March 26, 2015 What caused the breakups? You obviously love her. You have her wanting to reconcile. Something is missing from your story. Why so many breakups?
Author littlesmurf Posted March 26, 2015 Author Posted March 26, 2015 (edited) What caused the breakups? You obviously love her. You have her wanting to reconcile. Something is missing from your story. Why so many breakups? Well she obviously doesn't want to reconcile since she didn't responded to me whole day long and probably won't at all. If she wanted it she would want to respond and even apologize. But then again, what's the point of even writing to me? Well this breakup, I felt like she did something that I found very disrespectful and I broke up as a result. Most of the breakups were because of fights that went of the scale. Edited March 26, 2015 by littlesmurf
mightycpa Posted March 27, 2015 Posted March 27, 2015 You have an uncommon amount of good sense. If it still hurts, cut off all contact, and cut off all avenues of contact to you. Clearly you can see that she's an unreliable and unfit partner for you. You don't need her, and you don't need the aggravation. Well done. Compared to what most stories are like around here, you are light years ahead of the game. 3
Author littlesmurf Posted March 27, 2015 Author Posted March 27, 2015 (edited) You have an uncommon amount of good sense. If it still hurts, cut off all contact, and cut off all avenues of contact to you. Clearly you can see that she's an unreliable and unfit partner for you. You don't need her, and you don't need the aggravation. Well done. Compared to what most stories are like around here, you are light years ahead of the game. Thank you so much for nice words! I don't understand her behavior but I am so sick of games and manipulations under disguise of "I love you". Edited March 27, 2015 by littlesmurf
wizer Posted March 27, 2015 Posted March 27, 2015 Well this breakup, I felt like she did something that I found very disrespectful and I broke up as a result. Most of the breakups were because of fights that went of the scale. Maybe you need to be less reactive and learn to communicate more effectively. If you don't change your behavior, you may very well find you're going to be in for a boatload of stormy, short term relationships going forward. I'm curious what she did that was so disrespectful that you broke up with her. I'm thinking you over reacted to whatever it was.
Author littlesmurf Posted March 27, 2015 Author Posted March 27, 2015 (edited) Maybe you need to be less reactive and learn to communicate more effectively. If you don't change your behavior, you may very well find you're going to be in for a boatload of stormy, short term relationships going forward. I'm curious what she did that was so disrespectful that you broke up with her. I'm thinking you over reacted to whatever it was. Kinda complicated, but she was ignoring me that day because of something I did and apologized (I got mad in-game and started raging). It wasn't a massive deal what I did, but she didn't accepted my apology since she gave me nothing but silence. And on that evening she accepted a friend request by one guy, which she previously removed. She said he added her and she just accepted. She removed him because I said I want him off her list because he insulted me in a way. I removed anyone who would insult her in any way, but she obviously couldn't do the same for me. That kinda showed me that she doesn't care for me as her boyfriend. Now she is spending almost all the time with him playing. Maybe to make me jealous, maybe she had eye on him. I confronted her about it on Sunday and she said she is just playing with him and he has a girlfriend and he is apparently engaged. Ofc, I didn't trusted her on that a single bit. But if she is ready to jump from one LDR to another, she is nuts... All of this is Steam (game app) friends that I am talking about. Edited March 27, 2015 by littlesmurf
wizer Posted March 27, 2015 Posted March 27, 2015 Kinda complicated, but she was ignoring me that day because of something I did and apologized (I got mad in-game and started raging). You have anger management problems. I suspected as much. Learn to control your temper. It's immature and unattractive. She removed him because I said I want him off her list because he insulted me in a way. I removed anyone who would insult her in any way, but she obviously couldn't do the same for me. Stop being so controlling. It's immature and unattractive. That kinda showed me that she doesn't care for me as her boyfriend. Sorry but I can see why. I confronted her about it on Sunday Stop confronting. Relationships aren't all about fighting. But if she is ready to jump from one LDR to another, she is nuts... Lots of people jump from one relationship to another. I've done it, and I totally get it. It's not healthy, but it's understandable and it doesn't mean the person is nuts.
Author littlesmurf Posted March 27, 2015 Author Posted March 27, 2015 (edited) You have anger management problems. I suspected as much. Learn to control your temper. It's immature and unattractive. Stop being so controlling. It's immature and unattractive. Sorry but I can see why. Stop confronting. Relationships aren't all about fighting. Lots of people jump from one relationship to another. I've done it, and I totally get it. It's not healthy, but it's understandable and it doesn't mean the person is nuts. You don't know the full story. You know only the parts of it. I do have anger issues, and she is the one who was making issues all this time and as a result I would have to be pissed of at her. I would be full of understanding and love but she would be just selfish and make problems that would make me super angry. Something that other guys would have left her in an instant. So don't judge a book by it's covers! You don't know all what happened by now. Also, it's not controlling to ask your own gf to remove someone who insulted you. That person insulted someone you love so you should also dislike that person! And I confronted her when it was already over. So there was no point in not confronting her about it. Edited March 27, 2015 by littlesmurf
wizer Posted March 27, 2015 Posted March 27, 2015 Also, it's not controlling to ask your own gf to remove someone who insulted you. That person insulted someone you love so you should also dislike that person! No, not necessarily the least bit true. You feel a certain way so you think your girlfriend should feel a certain way and that's just shortsighted, inconsiderate, and a very shallow way of thinking.
Author littlesmurf Posted March 27, 2015 Author Posted March 27, 2015 Also to add up. She was INSANELY controlling and she would think that I am cheating even when I would just go to clean my room. She would ask for pics and so on. I felt super depressed, controlled, down and I simply started losing my love for her in last 4 months.
Author littlesmurf Posted March 27, 2015 Author Posted March 27, 2015 No, not necessarily the least bit true. You feel a certain way so you think your girlfriend should feel a certain way and that's just shortsighted, inconsiderate, and a very shallow way of thinking. Ok man you know everything I won't doubt your super powers...
wizer Posted March 27, 2015 Posted March 27, 2015 Ok man you know everything I won't doubt your super powers... Look you're getting upset. Work on your reactivity. You lost your love for her, she's controlling and insane and you keep breaking up and she starts fights for no good reason. Sounds to me like you're better off without her.
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