Bb4 Posted March 26, 2015 Posted March 26, 2015 I met this great guy online. We were non stop messaging each other and then decided to meet. We had a drink together and it felt like we've known eachother for a long time already! We completely hit it off. Now, we've ween eachother 3 times. We've made love (amazingly... He would not stop telling me how he can't believe how lucky it is that we met and such) he actually stopped midway and asked me to look in his eyes and he asked me if I would be his girl. And at that moment, I was in awe, but held back a bit because it is a little fast even though things were mutually wonderful to this point. I said yes. But now he has yet to respond to my messages (only sent 2 I'm not a creep lol) and I'm kind of starting to doubt myself now. What if he was just saying that about me being his girl to get me in his pants? I don't know... Just compared to how we were constantly talking before and it's just stopped I needed advice
PegNosePete Posted March 26, 2015 Posted March 26, 2015 Yes, seems like he got what he wanted and has lost interest. Either that or his phone ran out of credit. I would recommend you CALL (not text) and see what's going on with him. You will tell more from his voice tone than his actual words.
Author Bb4 Posted March 26, 2015 Author Posted March 26, 2015 Thanks for your quick reply I didn't think about calling him. I don't want him to think I'm some stalker lol: maybe if I don't hear from him by tomorrow I'll give him a call.
Redhead14 Posted March 26, 2015 Posted March 26, 2015 I met this great guy online. We were non stop messaging each other and then decided to meet. We had a drink together and it felt like we've known eachother for a long time already! We completely hit it off. Now, we've ween eachother 3 times. We've made love (amazingly... He would not stop telling me how he can't believe how lucky it is that we met and such) he actually stopped midway and asked me to look in his eyes and he asked me if I would be his girl. And at that moment, I was in awe, but held back a bit because it is a little fast even though things were mutually wonderful to this point. I said yes. But now he has yet to respond to my messages (only sent 2 I'm not a creep lol) and I'm kind of starting to doubt myself now. What if he was just saying that about me being his girl to get me in his pants? I don't know... Just compared to how we were constantly talking before and it's just stopped I needed advice A man who tells you he wants you to be his girl after three dates and intimacy and drops off, just plain wanted sex. You didn't know him well enough to know his true intentions. If you had simply dated him for a couple of months, had a casual conversation about what each of you wanted for yourselves out of your dating experiences, you would have know before you slept with him that it wasn't going to be what you had hoped.
PegNosePete Posted March 26, 2015 Posted March 26, 2015 Camping outside his house with a ladder and binoculars makes you a stalker. Following him to work every day and installing spyware on his PC makes you a stalker. Sending 20 texts and calling 50 times in 1 hour makes you a stalker. But calling him to talk? No, calling someone does not make you a stalker.
Author Bb4 Posted March 26, 2015 Author Posted March 26, 2015 I guess I should have ask I don't want to seem needy
fitnessfan365 Posted March 26, 2015 Posted March 26, 2015 (edited) Kind of sounds like what happened with the woman that I am seeing. She's one of a kind, and even though it's only been three dates, it just feels right. I even reached out to the other women in my life and said I was no longer interested because I can see how special she is and don't want to focus on anyone else. But I'm a realist and would never put pressure on her by saying I want a relationship this soon. Granted, I don't think she'd mind. The other night she says "Tonight was perfect and I don't have to be winded and dined. If it was our eighth date and we went indoor rock climbing with burgers after that would be enough". So she's mentioned future tense and isn't the type of woman to sleep around. However, since I am confident and secure in how she feels, I don't need to lock her down with a label. In a few months if we're still seeing each other we'll just confirm what we already knew. Edited March 26, 2015 by fitnessfan365
Redhead14 Posted March 26, 2015 Posted March 26, 2015 I guess I should have ask I don't want to seem needy You wouldn't have to ask, you simply make a statement about what you want for yourself in general and let him talk. There is nothing needy about making sure you are on the same page when dating someone. And, you really wouldn't have this kind of conversation necessarily by the 3rd date, but somewhere between then and say the 5th date at least. Just a casual talk, not specifically with each other.
Gaeta Posted March 26, 2015 Posted March 26, 2015 Bb4 welcome to online dating. Put your seat belt on it will be a bumpy ride. Men will tell you they only have long term in mind, they are serious about you, and they won't mean one word of it. You have to be smart and observe their actions if it matches their words. If you decide to jump into bed fast then do it for fun, nothing else and understand it does not mean in any way you and him are 'together' or are going to grow into being 'together'. Look out for yourself, no one else will. 1
Author Bb4 Posted March 26, 2015 Author Posted March 26, 2015 I don't know about that. Why would he stop midsex and get me to look at him an ask me that? He's already in my pants any way lol that's why I'm just confused.
Author Bb4 Posted March 26, 2015 Author Posted March 26, 2015 I'd understand more so if he said it and THEN we had sex. Then i would know this was just to get me in bed. But saying it during in the way he did and now nothing is just a mind fuxk for me.
Gaeta Posted March 26, 2015 Posted March 26, 2015 I don't know about that. Why would he stop midsex and get me to look at him an ask me that? He's already in my pants any way lol that's why I'm just confused. He was in the moment and didn't think! Some men are just passionate lovers in bed and will say things like this. I was told ILY very early on during sex, I knew it was just a mix of beer and testosterone.
Gaeta Posted March 26, 2015 Posted March 26, 2015 I'd understand more so if he said it and THEN we had sex. Then i would know this was just to get me in bed. But saying it during in the way he did and now nothing is just a mind fuxk for me. You have to remember men do not think and feel like us women. It does not make sense to you and it's normal. Another man will understand that your guy was simply talking in the heat of the moment and nothing else.
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