Author smg15 Posted March 26, 2015 Author Posted March 26, 2015 And how's she supposed to know that? I knew a guy once - he would flirt with women on dating sites all day at work. But when he went home after work he turned his phone off. That way his girlfriend thought she was his only priority yet when back at work in the morning he would resume with numerous women all day long. His girlfriend never suspected because he wasn't in his phone at home. Yet he could help but need the ego strokes from other women. But was weird was she wanted to text while she was in BED-lol Once I get in bed for the night I check my email for the last time and FB and then get ready for bed. Not lay under the blanket and send text messages
Redhead14 Posted March 26, 2015 Posted March 26, 2015 I met this girl off a dating site today and we exchanged numbers so I figured when she arrived home from work she would call or atleast text me once to let me know she is about to call. But I don't text at home with the TV and Computer in front of me but I want to know how can I communicate that to her? She is sending text after text and it would be fine if I was at work but why not just call me? There is no way a text can compete with my lap top and cable tv CALL her and explain it to her PERIOD.
Gaeta Posted March 26, 2015 Posted March 26, 2015 But was weird was she wanted to text while she was in BED-lol Once I get in bed for the night I check my email for the last time and FB and then get ready for bed. Not lay under the blanket and send text messages You need to make a choice. Do you want a girlfriend OR you want to keep your silly little routine intact? Sorry, to me those rules are silly rules. When you start seeing someone you will have to bend several of your personal little rules so better start now. 4
xxoo Posted March 26, 2015 Posted March 26, 2015 I have 2-3 Phone conversations and meet after a week. 1. 1st phone call, touch base see if we click 2. 2nd phone call gather some more info and set up the date 3. 3rd phone call....confirm plans for the meet All before meeting? 1 and 2 can be combined. Grab the moment and set up a date. Texting is ideal for #3. I think the issue may be that, while you don't text at home for your own reasons, other people don't like chatting on the phone for their own reasons. We'd rather talk in person, and receive info via text otherwise.
Male Posted March 26, 2015 Posted March 26, 2015 . You can't expect a woman that doesn't even know you to consider you phone call material. But hugging women you never met before is OK?
fitnessfan365 Posted March 26, 2015 Posted March 26, 2015 But hugging women you never met before is OK? If you've built good rapport going into the first meet, a brief friendly hug is an introduction. That's it. Maybe you like shaking a woman's hand and sending the vibe that you're there to conduct an interview. But as I said before, if you're too scared to even hug a woman hello, how would you ever defend her? A woman isn't going to feel safe with a man that's afraid to touch her.
Male Posted March 26, 2015 Posted March 26, 2015 If you've built good rapport going into the first meet, a brief friendly hug is an introduction. That's it. Maybe you like shaking a woman's hand and sending the vibe that you're there to conduct an interview. But as I said before, if you're too scared to even hug a woman hello, how would you ever defend her? A woman isn't going to feel safe with a man that's afraid to touch her. You are hilarious how caught up in your own reality you are. Even when the majority of women commented that they wouldnt like to be hugged you refute their opinion and keep going full steam ahead, regardless of what the woman thinks. You truly do not care at all about their side of it. 1
fitnessfan365 Posted March 26, 2015 Posted March 26, 2015 You are hilarious how caught up in your own reality you are. Even when the majority of women commented that they wouldnt like to be hugged you refute their opinion and keep going full steam ahead, regardless of what the woman thinks. You truly do not care at all about their side of it. Haha.. So your basing your sense of the entire female population on the opinions of a handful on a dating forum? Maybe since you don't date that much, a few women seems like a general consensus. But it isn't. Also, read closer. Most of those women said they were basing it on bad past experiences and feeling uneasy going into the meet. If they talked with a man that was social, confident, and fun on the phone that put them at ease right away, they'd feel differently. I mean do you know how many women I've dated that say "I don't usually kiss on the first date"? It's all based on the individual. When a woman interacts with me, she can tell that I'm not a socially awkward beta male. That's why 95% of the women I meet online are standing when I arrive and approach me with a huge smile and start to extend their arms to welcome a friendly hug. But common sense is paramount. So on the few rare occasions where a woman is more gun shy on the phone, or she's sitting down when I arrive, I just start the date by sitting next to her and engaging her in conversation.
MidwestUSA Posted March 26, 2015 Posted March 26, 2015 If Im at work from 9 to 5, cool, once I am home I won't text because it can't compete with the Internet or Cable see at work I don't have the internet or cable at my desk so TEXTING WINS LOL Aren't you supposed to be WORKING at work? Maybe she works the same hours, and doesn't waste her employer's time and money doing personal stuff. Something tells me nothing will ever compete with your internet and cable. I hope you don't own a dog or a cat. 6
MissBee Posted March 26, 2015 Posted March 26, 2015 (edited) But a text is not like instant messaging so I won't be sitting there waiting for a reply. So in between texts I am on the lap top typing or on you tube and watching tv. So that's why the phone is better because it eliminates the computer and then it's just the TV and Phone. But there is no way a text can compete with a laptop because the responses are delayed This makes no sense to me. Many people in the world, not just you, have tv, lap tops, ipads, cell phones, kids, dogs and the rest. If I am watching tv or am online or doing any number of things my phone beeps and alerts me that I have a message and I respond. If I like the guy and am into him I am waiting for his reply and will hear when it comes in and will be glad to answer....I therefore do not understand the idea that texts need to "compete" with the tv or computer. If I am genuinely busy (watching tv IMO is not being genuinely busy) then I won't necessarily get to my texts quickly or if I'm not by the phone, but if I am by my phone and am just online or watching tv, it takes no effort to pause and respond especially if it's a guy I am interested in. Like I said, many women will not like this. The problem seems to be you being absolutely sucked into your tv or internet that it would prevent you from answering your messages. I understand someone replying to texts late because they're doing other things and that is one convenience I suppose of texts, but if their reason is "sorry I'm too into my tv and computer so texts cannot compete as I cannot possibly peel my eyes away to respond...." it seems a bit silly. I'm just gonna be frank, a grown man who seems so addicted to tv and the internet that he can't even reply to a message and has the idea that a woman must compete with the tv and internet for his attention won't be a hot commodity. It just seems juvenile...like really ...you're sooooo busy doing what? Watching tv? Playing online? You just can't respond...they should message you AT WORK when you'r working...yea it doesn't sound good. Edited March 26, 2015 by MissBee 4
Haydn Posted March 26, 2015 Posted March 26, 2015 This sounds a bit like a book i read for GSCE, can`t remember the title. `When i`m in, i`m out.` `When i`m out, i`m in.
Diezel Posted March 26, 2015 Posted March 26, 2015 Another thread from smg about how he wants things to go all his way and the easiest way possible with no effort involved. 6
GTR King Posted March 26, 2015 Posted March 26, 2015 TV/Laptop over talking to a girl is a stupid idea..... They will get bored every quickly 2
Gaeta Posted March 26, 2015 Posted March 26, 2015 OP: I have this little program on my laptop that allows me to text from my pc. While people type on their tiny phones I text from my pc keyboard. Maybe that is something you should look into.
acapelo_dp Posted March 26, 2015 Posted March 26, 2015 Sorry, but why would you have no problem texting while at work but find it a bother while you are just sitting at home with your phone in front of you? That doesn't make sense to me. I'm on the other spectrum, I hate phone calls unless it's a quick call to explain something that is too long for text or to confirm plans. I understand if you don't want to have a texting marathon but you might have to compromise a bit. Just tell her you aren't a huge texter. 1
elaine567 Posted March 26, 2015 Posted March 26, 2015 smg15, do you actually want a date? Seems anything and everything gets in the way of you actually communicating with the women you meet or you arrange to meet up with. Why set up dates when whatever they do seems to rub you up the wrong way? Texting by a potential date is BAD??? Saying it is competing with a laptop or a computer or a TV or your bedtime, is just madness. Set in your ways is an understatement. How old are you? 90? 5
Author smg15 Posted March 27, 2015 Author Posted March 27, 2015 You need to make a choice. Do you want a girlfriend OR you want to keep your silly little routine intact? Sorry, to me those rules are silly rules. When you start seeing someone you will have to bend several of your personal little rules so better start now. Of course but I will never be a person who texts in bed since I am in position to go to sleep.
Author smg15 Posted March 27, 2015 Author Posted March 27, 2015 Aren't you supposed to be WORKING at work? Maybe she works the same hours, and doesn't waste her employer's time and money doing personal stuff. Something tells me nothing will ever compete with your internet and cable. I hope you don't own a dog or a cat. I control the flow of my day and can text off and on every 5 to 10 minutes. Actually that is the norm now when I walk past everyone's desk, they all have their phone out.
Author smg15 Posted March 27, 2015 Author Posted March 27, 2015 This makes no sense to me. Many people in the world, not just you, have tv, lap tops, ipads, cell phones, kids, dogs and the rest. If I am watching tv or am online or doing any number of things my phone beeps and alerts me that I have a message and I respond. If I like the guy and am into him I am waiting for his reply and will hear when it comes in and will be glad to answer....I therefore do not understand the idea that texts need to "compete" with the tv or computer. If I am genuinely busy (watching tv IMO is not being genuinely busy) then I won't necessarily get to my texts quickly or if I'm not by the phone, but if I am by my phone and am just online or watching tv, it takes no effort to pause and respond especially if it's a guy I am interested in. Like I said, many women will not like this. The problem seems to be you being absolutely sucked into your tv or internet that it would prevent you from answering your messages. I understand someone replying to texts late because they're doing other things and that is one convenience I suppose of texts, but if their reason is "sorry I'm too into my tv and computer so texts cannot compete as I cannot possibly peel my eyes away to respond...." it seems a bit silly. I'm just gonna be frank, a grown man who seems so addicted to tv and the internet that he can't even reply to a message and has the idea that a woman must compete with the tv and internet for his attention won't be a hot commodity. It just seems juvenile...like really ...you're sooooo busy doing what? Watching tv? Playing online? You just can't respond...they should message you AT WORK when you'r working...yea it doesn't sound good. Because I can be doing numerous things on the internet like youtube loveshack sports chat Disquis And may not notice the text right away but if the phone rings I will hear the phone and put the internet on PAUSE and talk to her.
Anela Posted March 27, 2015 Posted March 27, 2015 This is hilarious. If you don't like her enough to text her when you're home, this is never going to work. I'm also sure that she wouldn't like to know that a television show trumps any contact with her. 2
Author smg15 Posted March 27, 2015 Author Posted March 27, 2015 TV/Laptop over talking to a girl is a stupid idea..... They will get bored every quickly TV/Laptop over talking to a girl in person.........Can't compete TV/Laptop over talking to a girl over phone........Can't compete TV Laptop over talking to a girl over text......Cable/Internet wins every time
Author smg15 Posted March 27, 2015 Author Posted March 27, 2015 OP: I have this little program on my laptop that allows me to text from my pc. While people type on their tiny phones I text from my pc keyboard. Maybe that is something you should look into. Yeah that may work I never heard of that.
Author smg15 Posted March 27, 2015 Author Posted March 27, 2015 Sorry, but why would you have no problem texting while at work but find it a bother while you are just sitting at home with your phone in front of you? That doesn't make sense to me. I'm on the other spectrum, I hate phone calls unless it's a quick call to explain something that is too long for text or to confirm plans. I understand if you don't want to have a texting marathon but you might have to compromise a bit. Just tell her you aren't a huge texter. Because at work you need that BALANCE instead of working non-stop
Gaeta Posted March 27, 2015 Posted March 27, 2015 Because at work you need that BALANCE instead of working non-stop I would love to see you explain this to your boss haha!!
Author smg15 Posted March 27, 2015 Author Posted March 27, 2015 smg15, do you actually want a date? Seems anything and everything gets in the way of you actually communicating with the women you meet or you arrange to meet up with. Why set up dates when whatever they do seems to rub you up the wrong way? Texting by a potential date is BAD??? Saying it is competing with a laptop or a computer or a TV or your bedtime, is just madness. Set in your ways is an understatement. How old are you? 90? I prefer the HUMAN CONNECTION, which is over the phone and sound of voice. Not sure if you knew this or not but texting keeps people at a distance
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