CalvinM Posted March 26, 2015 Posted March 26, 2015 We've been seeing each other exclusively for a little over a month, seeing each other almost two (it'll be closer to three in a couple weeks). Today she asked me if I wanted to meet her parents for Easter brunch at their house. She's already told her twin sister (and her sisters husband) about me. Beyond the "just be yourself" advice, does any one have any tips? They're Francophone, and neither of her two previous long term boyfriends made any effort to speak French. I on the other hand am at least going to speak it as much as I can. I know there's no rule of thumb, but is two months in a bit soon to be meeting the family?
losangelena Posted March 26, 2015 Posted March 26, 2015 I know there's no rule of thumb, but is two months in a bit soon to be meeting the family? You're right that there's no rule of thumb. I think it all comes down to what you're comfortable with, or at least are willing to do. Last year, a guy I was dating a little over a month refused my offer to meet my mom when she came to visit. For me, it was fine that he wasn't comfortable. However, my current BF of almost seven months just now met my mom for the first time about two weeks ago. It was easy, natural, and not a big deal. That's because my mom and I are also good friends, and she was more curious to finally meet the guy I've been talking so much about, and was not about her grilling him about his intentions toward me. That being said, I doubt he would have been comfortable meeting her any earlier. On the other hand, his parents, who are traditional Indian parents, don't even know I exist, and it will be a MUCH BIGGER DEAL for me to meet them if and when I do. So, I'd say, if they're meeting you simply under the auspices of meeting the guy their daughter is dating, and there isn't a lot of pressure, then by all means, two months isn't too soon. Have fun and enjoy! And points for trying your best to communicate with them; I'm sure that won't go unnoticed. 1
d0nnivain Posted March 26, 2015 Posted March 26, 2015 Bring a bunch of brightly colored tulips or an Easter lilly. Ask if you can bring dessert or a bottle of wine, French of course. If you & your GF are drinkers, bring the wine anyway, without asking. Dress up, even if she tells you it's casual put in that extra effort. If you have major food allergies (I'm talking life threatening / carry an Eppi pen) ask your GF to pass those along, otherwise just eat was is served or take very small portions & play with your food. If you are vegan / vegetarian just eat the veggies but don't make them make a fuss. Know something about French current events (other than the horrible airline disaster) so you can participate in the conversation. 2
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