Skinnyminnie Posted March 26, 2015 Posted March 26, 2015 Just want a general consensus about this topic. Has anyone ever been broken up with with the line, "I don't love you anymore," and moved on successfully? Has the dumper regretted saying this (that you know of)? Can the dumper ever re-fall in love with the dumpee? Last, how have you moved on yourself? tips?
esmith825825 Posted March 26, 2015 Posted March 26, 2015 I think its possible. My significant other at the time said she did not love me anymore. We broke up then she came back to me weeks after. 2
Jimmyjackson Posted March 26, 2015 Posted March 26, 2015 My opinion is that words don't really mean anything. People say things all the time they mean and don't mean in certain situations, things they feel at the time but might not feel a day or two later. Judge people by their actions not their words, I know I've said things in the past to people when I've felt emotional or something and the next day I've no longer felt that way. People can say anything, and whether they mean it or not only they know... 4
lumberjac Posted March 26, 2015 Posted March 26, 2015 I would say, never say never, and anything is possible. It's just the matter of, does it worth it? 1
BlackbirdSong Posted March 26, 2015 Posted March 26, 2015 My opinion is that words don't really mean anything. Judge people by their actions not their words THIS. 10chars 2
Jonp219 Posted March 26, 2015 Posted March 26, 2015 My ex told me the same thing. Yet when I told her lets meet up and close this out she said, "No, I don't want feelings to start rushing back". A month later she's still tweeting about us/me, she still has resent towards me, and has no interest in dating at the moment. So yes, words don't mean a thing. She even cried when I told her I still loved her, in her part it was kind of a "forced break-up" she knew it was right and she was sick of the toxicity. 1
smellysocksuni Posted March 26, 2015 Posted March 26, 2015 I think it depends on the individual situation and the person, there is no general answer. 2
LYNNLH Posted March 26, 2015 Posted March 26, 2015 Just want a general consensus about this topic. Has anyone ever been broken up with with the line, "I don't love you anymore," and moved on successfully? Has the dumper regretted saying this (that you know of)? Can the dumper ever re-fall in love with the dumpee? Last, how have you moved on yourself? tips? The person said this to me when he blind sided and broke up with me. I believe he meant it and I have let go..I know , swear and hope I will never see nor speak to him again for the rest of my life..that is how much he has hurt, messed up and betrayed me. How do I move on?..I'm not there yet but in the process and progressing well (even if it's only 2 months plus..) but I keep reminding myself these exact words this person said to me (I don't love you anymore). I no longer have memories as well because I have forgotten the past. The past is too rotten for me to reminisce.. 2
todreaminblue Posted March 26, 2015 Posted March 26, 2015 Yes anything is possible ...what remains to live though is the hurt caused from words.....it has a heartbeat... hurt..and that heartbeat has a memory..so when people get back together....the hurt is still there....wondering if when things arent all peachy and blue skies ...will it happen again?...... I have a theory that going backwards reengaging an ex..... is sliding into all your past mistakes...that were never dealt with properly enough that it split you up once already or twice or three times...however many times you try it again........sometimes it works out....sometimes it doesnt..depends on the amount of hurt....and the people who are involved.....actions are far more reliable than words.......deb 1
marky00 Posted March 26, 2015 Posted March 26, 2015 My opinion is that words don't really mean anything. This. Me ex of 10 years dumped for another guy last month. I asked her to tell me to my face that she didnt love me, she couldn't but she did say "If I love you but want to start a new relationship, what does it matter". Fair enough I guess. When I told her what would she do if she realises this new relationship is a mistake, she actually stipulated that she was unlikely to consider me down the line as her feelings for me would no doubt change. This really was a silly statment. I mean it was a 10 year relaionship, the sex etc was good up to the end. The love may not have been as strong but to look in a crystal ball and say 5 years down the line, I won't love you again is only words. Although statitics show its most likley to be true, they are still only words. Relationships fail because 1 person no longer wants to try or finds something else they perceive as being better. One day that person may relize they see the benefit of putting that effort back in. Sadly the dumpee has long moved on. But yeah, I don't listen the words at all. A few years back my girlfirend borke it off and I flew overseas the next day and got it back on track. Never say Never but know when you have to walk away. 1
d0nnivain Posted March 26, 2015 Posted March 26, 2015 I think its possible. My significant other at the time said she did not love me anymore. We broke up then she came back to me weeks after. I would not accept it. I can't stand wishy washy indecisive people. If someone said he doesn't love me, he doesn't love me. If he was on the fence he should have stayed silent until he knew his own mind. The fact that he may have changed it a few weeks later makes him look like an idiot in my mind & I don't date stupid people. there's also a big difference between I don't love you any more & I'm so furious at you right now I can't stand looking at you. The later is temporary. So no I could not and would not come back from something like that. 2
DJOkawari Posted March 26, 2015 Posted March 26, 2015 They're just words. Strong words but still words that are based on the past (most likely the recent past). They have nothing to do with anything beyond the near future, within the paradigm you two currently interact in. Get out of that paradigm (NC, work on yourself, get over it) and no one can tell what the future would hold. 1
KatZee Posted March 26, 2015 Posted March 26, 2015 Of course you can come back from it. You walk away from that person, and you find someone who DOES love you. Just because one person doesn't love you, doesn't mean there aren't tons more out there who could/would. 3
stillafool Posted March 27, 2015 Posted March 27, 2015 I think it depends on the situation. If two people are angry and in the middle of a fight one may say "I don't love you". This person may come back and regret saying those words in the heat of an argument. However if someone isn't angry and is rather calm telling you they don't love you anymore I think they mean it. When someone tells you they aren't in love with you anymore and within weeks have moved on to someone else. I think they had probably fallen in love with someone else and won't be back.
guest569 Posted March 28, 2015 Posted March 28, 2015 I thnk actions speak louder. Walking away says it all. Depends on the circumstances of course, but I wouldn't think it very genuine to hear "oh wait, i do actually love you"
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