Author kaylan Posted March 28, 2015 Author Posted March 28, 2015 IMO over this, no. Its really your call though as to what you find you can sweep under the rug and just be able to carry on as before. You are not bf/gf and from the sounds of things wanted to keep it that way for another 5-6 mths. If that's the case,then I wouldn't worry about it and let it effect an otherwise enjoyable casual relationship. If you are going to have the urge to keep double checking things on her or its going to effect your level of passion/fun for her well then you might as well call it quits. As you have seen on threads on LS, many women are going to avoid talk of their past sex life outright or shame you for asking, or are happy to lie on the principle that its does not define them or is irrelevant to the relationship, so other women in your future wont get tripped up on this, like your open book fwb lady. I know quite a few people will consider that there is less onus to be fully honest in a casual relationship than there is for a serious 'I want a long term future' relationship. Also I might have missed it but I didn't see where she gave you a legit reason to snoop through her phone. With no good reason and in a casual relationship I think she she deserved to be annoyed you were rummaging for info imo. My thing is this: either be honest, or dont bring things up. I didnt originally ask about her past partner count or her escapades. She mentioned them herself and the door was open so we just started sharing. And I was ok with that. Im not ok with lying, especially about something like condoms, when I was already told they were not used. It was literally a dumb lie. It accomplished nothing good. Personally Im just an open guy, with no need to lie about my past. Things are casual with this girl, but she made it clear not long ago that she thought there might be some longevity to this. So lying doesnt help things. And she didnt give me a legit reason to snoop. That was all my lack of trust, and being suspicious of how she said certain things during a conversation. I can be rather perceptive regarding how people say things. So yeah, she could have been more upset about my snooping and I surprised she wasnt. Though based on a couple of things she asked me last night before bed, Im not thinking shes not gonna eventually express being upset over it.OP I really feel like you are just looking for us to tell you you should dump her over this. You are either not interested in her or not ready to get involved - it almost looks like you went looking for a reason to end things. You didn't look at her phone without her permission out of curiosity. So just dump her already. I admit I looked because I was curious and to also confirm some things I thought she may have not been honest about. Whats weird is that through our conversation over what happened, she even took it upon herself to honest about how she got a skin condition on a small part of her body. She originally told me its something she always had, out of embarrassment, but leveled with me and told me how it developed several years ago. So I do also give her credit for being honest about that...though she didnt have to. I can understand how certain medical things can be embarrassing.
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