Author marie55567 Posted March 26, 2015 Author Posted March 26, 2015 Leave him alone. He had a life before you and will have one after you. "Hit me up" just means get in touch with me soon. It doesn't mean let's have sex. Anyway why would he say that in public when he knew it would be visible to you? Leave him alone. Yeah true that's another way of looking at it.
Wackkkk Posted March 26, 2015 Posted March 26, 2015 Yeah true that's another way of looking at it. As long as he hasn't done anything that makes you uncomfortable past feb.16 I personally wouldn't do anything. 1
Author marie55567 Posted March 26, 2015 Author Posted March 26, 2015 As long as he hasn't done anything that makes you uncomfortable past feb.16 I personally wouldn't do anything. Thanks. I feel in my gut I have nothing to worry about. 1
kendahke Posted March 26, 2015 Posted March 26, 2015 I don't think as a wife you should ask for passwords, that's when I'll be concerned about breakups. Since its early in the relationship you need to catch him early, if you feel something isn't right it usually is, catch him early on. If it's 4 weeks into the relationship and something isn't sitting right, WALK AWAY and find someone else. 1
kendahke Posted March 26, 2015 Posted March 26, 2015 I don't think as a wife you should ask for passwords, that's when I'll be concerned about breakups. Since its early in the relationship you need to catch him early, if you feel something isn't right it usually is, catch him early on. In marriage, transparency is needed as, when the officiator says they "join as one" during the wedding ceremony. That's the difference between someone you just met 4 weeks prior and someone you know well enough that you are legally binding your life to for the rest of your life. If you have something to hide from your spouse you're legally married to, then that marriage is going to be a very short one. 1
kendahke Posted March 26, 2015 Posted March 26, 2015 Usually, but it can also mean "When a girl wants a guy to f*ck her. Damn boy you can come over and hit me up tonight." Urban Dictionary: hit me up Unless I read wrong, OP's guy is a guy, not a girl... So these definitions from the UD dont' apply--they all refer to what women say, not men. When a man uses the phrase "hit me up", it means to call. To wit: What does it mean when a guys says "hit me up?" - GirlsAskGuys Flirting What does it mean when a guys says "hit me up?" If a guy says this at the end of a conversation, what does it mean? Hit him up, Hit his phone, get at him, holla the the kid lolBasically just call him/text him/message him on facebook/get in touch with him in some way shape or form 1
Author marie55567 Posted March 26, 2015 Author Posted March 26, 2015 Unless I read wrong, OP's guy is a guy, not a girl... So these definitions from the UD dont' apply--they all refer to what women say, not men. When a man uses the phrase "hit me up", it means to call. To wit: I knew this and yes I'm a girl.
Redhead14 Posted March 26, 2015 Posted March 26, 2015 I been with my boyfriend for a month now and things are going well but there is something I am kinda concerned about. I saw my boyfriend comment on a girl's picture saying "hit me up" and that made me uncomfortable. I noticed he commented on other pictures from the same girl and she had like pictures of us on his instagram so I wonder if she's a friend. We had made plans for the future so I don't want to come across as accusing him of something. How do I go about this? Also can another option be that I can keep an eye to see if he still continues to comment on this girl's picture for alittle while longer before saying anything? Thanks. I really need some advice Marie, at one month you are not likely boyfriend and girlfriend. And, if he's telling you that you are I'd be a wary. Nevertheless, even if you are boyfriend and girlfriend, you could simply say something like 'I'm not interested in dating others right now and I don't have an online dating profile (or anymore, whatever the case is) and then let him talk. But pay close attention to what he says. You two need to be on the same page in terms of what you each want out of your dating experiences. If you are looking for a long-term "boyfriend" and he is simply dating casually, you should bail on this one. 1
KatZee Posted March 26, 2015 Posted March 26, 2015 Exclusive or not, he had female friends before dating you, he will have female friends if he ceases dating you. I don't understand the mentality of: "If you're in a relationship with someone, now you're no longer allowed to have friends of the opposite sex." I have male friends. If I enter a relationship, I will still have male friends. I will still continue to hang out with said male friends. "Hit me up" means nothing. The only issue in this situation would be: A) She's an ex-girlfriend B) They have an extensive sexual past 1
elaine567 Posted March 26, 2015 Posted March 26, 2015 Unless I read wrong, OP's guy is a guy, not a girl... So these definitions from the UD dont' apply--they all refer to what women say, not men. When a man uses the phrase "hit me up", it means to call. To wit: Sorry, I misread. I thought the girl sent him a pic with "hit me up", but you are right, he commented on her pic. But even so, he is still asking this girl to call him. 1
fitnessfan365 Posted March 26, 2015 Posted March 26, 2015 If a woman is genuinely friends with a guy - family friend, co-worker, platonic male friend she never had sex with, etc that is completely cool. I'd rather be around her male friends that I can hang with than being stuck in some lame girl's night. But I'm also a bit of a traditionalist. So where I draw the line is when a woman wants to have an ex BF or old sex partner in her life. 1
Author marie55567 Posted March 26, 2015 Author Posted March 26, 2015 Marie, at one month you are not likely boyfriend and girlfriend. And, if he's telling you that you are I'd be a wary. Nevertheless, even if you are boyfriend and girlfriend, you could simply say something like 'I'm not interested in dating others right now and I don't have an online dating profile (or anymore, whatever the case is) and then let him talk. But pay close attention to what he says. You two need to be on the same page in terms of what you each want out of your dating experiences. If you are looking for a long-term "boyfriend" and he is simply dating casually, you should bail on this one. Well we are both looking for a long term relationship and we agreed to be exclusive.
Author marie55567 Posted March 26, 2015 Author Posted March 26, 2015 Exclusive or not, he had female friends before dating you, he will have female friends if he ceases dating you. I don't understand the mentality of: "If you're in a relationship with someone, now you're no longer allowed to have friends of the opposite sex." I have male friends. If I enter a relationship, I will still have male friends. I will still continue to hang out with said male friends. "Hit me up" means nothing. The only issue in this situation would be: A) She's an ex-girlfriend B) They have an extensive sexual past That's exactly true. I have male friends.
KatZee Posted March 26, 2015 Posted March 26, 2015 But even so, he is still asking this girl to call him. How else do friend's contact each other to get together? Make plans? 1
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