BlueEyesWhiteDragon Posted March 25, 2015 Posted March 25, 2015 Urgh, I have resorted to this; I need to ask something here, and it's probably blatantly obvious to most that the answer is yes, but hear me out: So I met this girl on an online game and we got on ok, she was talking to some other dude, the guy and myself got on good, we all met each other today for the first time. So when they were talking, they were talking about Australian politics, something that I'm not familiar with, but in this case I held a decent conversation. Afterwards the guy added me on Valve Corporation's Steam Gaming Service, and the girl added me on Snapchat, Facebook etc since the guy had none of these and was a very isolated person in my opinion. So me and the girl got on fantastically, we spoke, we laughed, we had good jokes; then she started to flirt with me. Harmless, right? Well I thought so too at first, so I started just being a little flirty back, then I started to soon like it, like it more than I liked anything else at the time. So soon I was being smooth, and it was clarified by her that I was a smooth talker; cute; funny; handsome; and more things under the sun. When I asked "I really like you, I hope if we ever meet, something can become of us, I want to know now if I am not wasting my time in talking to you, is there any chance of us being together", she replied: "Of course! You're not wasting any time at all :)" She said she wanted me to come visit her, in Australia, where she lives, and she'd show me around; and as I recall I think I asked "If you're showing me around your house, is it okay if you show me around your bedroom?". We soon started talking naughty saying she wants to bed me and do all sorts, and eventually she sent a naked image of herself (and no you cannot see it, I am not a douchebag, before you ask XD) that I didn't even ask for but she said she was comfortable sending; she looked unbelievably amazing, like I don't think I've ever been turned on by one photo. So after that we were the same for about a week, until she went to Brisbane (she lives in Adelaide), to visit her friends since she just moved to Adelaide not so long ago. I said I'll talk to her before her flight takes off, and she said that was okay: "I'll be in Brisbane by like 11 your time?" - her. "Yes" - me. "alright alright alright" "I'll be wide awake for ya" "legend <3" "Only cause I adore you" "You're lovely <3" "I know and you love it" "I do :* " "Do you? That makes me happy :)" She sorta ignored me when she went there even though she said she wouldn't when I asked. But when we did talk she did talk like we usually do, but just often (obviously having a good time). Now after she came back from Brisbane, this is where it ****s up, she started giving me the cold shoulder; when I asked if she's okay she replies "I'm okay, don't worry; I'm just thinking about things and when I do that I usually distance myself from everyone", I don't know if she's playing me or not. I want to know if she wants me to chase her (which I think looks clingy right now) or leave her alone?! Or should I just give it up, and not play this game. The problem is, I don't know what to do; she drives me crazy and it's killing me on the inside. Some nights when I think about it , I cry a little. She's 16, and I'm 17 (Yes we're young), and I'm really confused. Thanks for reading, any advice would be great! I literally mean any that affects my situation of course! Thanks. - BEWD.
Toodaloo Posted March 25, 2015 Posted March 25, 2015 You two are about as far as possible as it is to get in terms of distance. You need to let this one go. It was just flirting and is not going to go anywhere. This girl has probably realized this and doesn't want to loose a mate that she has got to know on line... Sorry bub but that is just reality. Sucks like a dyson doesn't it. 3
PegNosePete Posted March 25, 2015 Posted March 25, 2015 It's all just banter, talking and playing around. Nothing is real until you meet. 2
Author BlueEyesWhiteDragon Posted March 25, 2015 Author Posted March 25, 2015 Alright thank you, I didn't really want to come to terms with this, but yeah you're right. It's time to stop fooling around. Thanks.
Author BlueEyesWhiteDragon Posted March 25, 2015 Author Posted March 25, 2015 You two are about as far as possible as it is to get in terms of distance. You need to let this one go. It was just flirting and is not going to go anywhere. This girl has probably realized this and doesn't want to loose a mate that she has got to know on line... Sorry bub but that is just reality. Sucks like a dyson doesn't it. However, another factor remains; should I remain in contact?
katiegrl Posted March 25, 2015 Posted March 25, 2015 However, another factor remains; should I remain in contact? No. She's just playing. That naked photo she sent probably wasn't even her. She's 16!! It was all a game dude. Move on. 1
Strength in Healing Posted March 25, 2015 Posted March 25, 2015 I would go ahead and report her for the distribution of child pornography considering she is under age sending nude pics of herself. 1
PegNosePete Posted March 25, 2015 Posted March 25, 2015 Yes, certainly DELETE that photo from all devices. As long as you know it's all a game and just fooling around, then you can carry on playing. Just realize that it's going nowhere and if you start to catch real feelings, or if it's preventing you forming real life relationships, then cut it off. It's fun to fool around with this kind of thing as long as it stays just as a bit of fun. 2
Toodaloo Posted March 25, 2015 Posted March 25, 2015 Yes, certainly DELETE that photo from all devices. As long as you know it's all a game and just fooling around, then you can carry on playing. Just realize that it's going nowhere and if you start to catch real feelings, or if it's preventing you forming real life relationships, then cut it off. It's fun to fool around with this kind of thing as long as it stays just as a bit of fun. Echo this. Its fun, you get along, so why not. But remember to keep it real. Keep seeing real people and spending time with people you can actually touch.
road Posted March 25, 2015 Posted March 25, 2015 So some man sent you a picture he got online. See my point you do not know what is real. And you want to date a girl half way round the world?
Author BlueEyesWhiteDragon Posted March 25, 2015 Author Posted March 25, 2015 Yes, certainly DELETE that photo from all devices. As long as you know it's all a game and just fooling around, then you can carry on playing. Just realize that it's going nowhere and if you start to catch real feelings, or if it's preventing you forming real life relationships, then cut it off. It's fun to fool around with this kind of thing as long as it stays just as a bit of fun. Thanks, I will take this advice.
d0nnivain Posted March 25, 2015 Posted March 25, 2015 Be very careful. I don't know about Scotland or Australia but in some parts of the US being in possession of a naked picture of a 16 year old constitutes possession of child pornography and is a crime. It doesn't matter if the 16 year old took the pictures & voluntarily gave them to you. Any girl that sends naked pictures of her self to a boy she doesn't know has very few boundaries and IMHO low self esteem. Where are her parents in all of this? Where are yours for that matter? You write with a great deal more maturity then the details of this post would lead me to expect that you have given your tender ages. That is good. But from the distance alone you have to assume this is a fantasy, nothing more because there is no realistic way for you to meet. Go date a more local girl. You will be happier until you have the money to travel probably after college. 2
devilish innocent Posted March 25, 2015 Posted March 25, 2015 The reason she's not talking to you could be as simple as she's got something else that interests her more at the moment. As much as you were getting caught up in feelings, you never claimed to be a couple. You were just friends flirting on-line. She's free to drop off at any time she likes. I can think of two reasons why you might want to stop talking with her. One is if your fascination with her is interfering with the rest of your life. The other is if she makes you miserable more than she makes you happy. If neither of those are the case, then I think it's fine to continue.
UsersAreHere Posted March 30, 2015 Posted March 30, 2015 I'm sorry that I have to be blunt with you, my friend, but it seems like this girl just wanted a bit of fun and now that she had some fun, she's moving on. I'd say just forget it all and go find yourself a nice girl that'll do anything to keep you. I'm just going to say one thing. If you find someone worth keeping, don't start flirting with other girls. Your new girl will become distrustful.
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