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Recently an old high school friend and I started communicating again. She and I were best friends in high school. Growing up she was really poor, I remember her never having money for lunch, I was the opposite I was very spoiled and basically my parents would pay for her to come out with my friends and I. At her house, the only food they had was bread, peanut butter and jam. But she was never scandalous.

 

She turned out to be a hustler, she dropped bombs on me. She explained to me that she has escorted up until she got pregnant, her baby was just born. She married a guy for ten grand even tho she had a boyfriend. She wants to hang out but I'm scared to bring her around how do I know she won't rob me? They say you are a reflection of your friends, I'm not worried about that I know who I am my only concern is if she has good intentions towards me.

 

I've spoken to one of my friends and he says to stay away from that.

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I've spoken to one of my friends and he says to stay away from that.

 

Listen to your friend.

 

Life has made this woman "hard".

 

She probably isn't a bad person, but she will do what she has to do to survive. If that means trampling on you then she will.

 

Arms distance.

 

She needs to figure out her own way and find her own path.

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Dunno, meet her somewhere neutral? Sometimes mates go off and muller up their lives. Can happen to anyone. Maybe she just needs a mate? Or maybe not. I've met messed up mates before after a long absence. Some needed a leg up. Some were too far gone and did want to rip me off.

 

Tricky.

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What ever you do be careful OP.

 

While I think this woman could actually do with a break in life, like Hyden its gone both ways for me when I have offered that break to people.

 

Thats a whole bucket of mess she is in.

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I don't know whether you can trust escorts in general, although I suspect not. Solely from what you have posted, you cannot trust this woman. Listen to your friend & steer clear.

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The way you describe her makes her sound like she's a middle or lower tier escort. Generally they're not the sort to be trusted, no. You can expect some degree of professional discretion and courtesy from upper tier escorts, but that's about all.

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Nothing in those few lines you wrote about her make her sound like a person I'd trust. I don't know about other escorts but this one I'd stay away from; women going down the path of prostitution generally have issues. You don't sell yourself voluntarily without giving it some thought first you know.

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eh.

 

it's just a sex work.

you can either deal with that or you can't.

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My sugar baby was originally an escort and she is an extremely trustworthy person. She has always been honest. She has a key to my apartment. She knows where my money, wallet, and credit cards are kept. She takes care of my cats when I'm gone. And I haven't used a condom in over two years. In fact I would and do trust her with my life.

 

I don't think being an escort has any bearing on the quality or trustworthiness of a person. They are just people like everyone else. At least this has been my experience with top-tier escorts. And I have remained friends with a few that I saw before I met my sugar baby.

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Listen to your friend.

 

Life has made this woman "hard".

 

She probably isn't a bad person, but she will do what she has to do to survive. If that means trampling on you then she will.

 

Arms distance.

 

She needs to figure out her own way and find her own path.

 

I'm sorry, but I beg to differ...

 

We all come from bad circumstances, but how we handle them speaks to our character, values, and morality.

 

I grew up piss poor. We slept with water leaking through roofs, on cardboards instead of mattresses with bugs and what not crawling all over us. We wore clothing from church hand-me-downs. On/off it was my grandparents - especially my grandmother from my dad's side who saved us.

 

When I got old enough, I cleaned houses, tutored, studied hard (graduated top 10% of the whole school - despite Spanish being a second language to me) and I was getting ready to join a "tech" university (where math was emphasized and I passed the test, but couldn't afford tuition).

 

I had no choice but to leave my home with $20.00 in my pocket and joined the military.

 

Did I think of doing something in the sex trade? Yes, I actually went to a stripper place and when the woman told me to get naked so she could check me out, I said "no thanks".

 

I've heard other stories of people who call my fav podcaster. One girl, she asked her high school if she could work as a janitor and do odd stuff and they let her do it. She lived with grandparents in an environment full of drugs, abuse, and lack of encouragement. So, she took a job where other kids in school might ridicule her, but she didn't care. She wanted to work hard, finish school and make something of herself.

 

There are other stories I'd have to drum up, but point is, someone who jumps into the sex trade to make an "easy buck" doesn't get my sympathies. Even "if" you started in that, look at the OP's hustler friend....she hasn't done one thing to take herself out of the situation.

 

I've seen on shows where some Asian women who were forced into the sex trade as kids grow up to get out of the biz and even start support groups to help other women get out of it. The OP's "hustler" friend hasn't done a thing to improve herself, therefore, her entry into the sex trade isn't/wasn't a matter of circumstance, but lack of character/morals/values.

 

But, I'm sure she's already trying to spin that story on him and/or other guys - which is "now she is going to school to be nurse and is changing her life, and if he could only support her"...booo freakin' hooo:rolleyes:

 

And, as you can see, these people's character doesn't change. The OP says she moved on to get paid to marry a guy and dragged an innocent child into her horror of a life.

 

That religious guy that I posted about a month ago talked about how sex is not just a "physical act" and how sex connects to our souls/core. For someone to give up their body for a quick buck is someone who has issues and/or does not place any value on themselves.

 

So yea, trust them all you want. You'll end up dead, in jail, broke - or all three.

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A former friend of mine was an escort for around 15 years, she'd started in the business not long after I met her and says she got into because she wanted to.

She felt that she had "power" in selling herself.

She was in an exclusive relationship with a man who thought she was going to work as a nurse aide, & would leave for "work" in a nurses uniform.

She wrote an autobiography about her days of whoring & claims in it that "all of her partners knew she was a working girl". I know for fact this partner had no idea what she was up to.

I wouldnt trust one!

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There's a good chance she's on drugs. Most sex workers have to do something to dull themselves down in order to keep blowing guys they don't know for a living. Obviously, money is her #1 priority, so not sure why you'd want to befriend her at this point.

 

And the other thing is she will likely whisper in every guy's ear you know "I can make you feel real good, and your wife never needs to know."

 

So you certainly can't trust her around your male friends.

 

Sex workers are all golddiggers. They all have their "story" that a lot of their customers want to hear to make them feel like she's just a nice normal girl and by paying her for a blow job they are helping her out of her terrible circumstances. They all use their story to get sympathy from everyone and try to pretend they're not golddiggers. They're all golddiggers and most of their stories are totally made up. They don't want your emotions. They want your money.

 

I say steer clear of her.

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And I thought we were going to talk about Ford Escorts! No car talk here, so I shall simply answer:

 

Hmmm....escorts and politicians are rather similar. both cheat, steal, lie, and screw the public , and then somehow get paid to do it :) Something to be said for that....

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And I thought we were going to talk about Ford Escorts! No car talk here, so I shall simply answer:

 

Hmmm....escorts and politicians are rather similar. both cheat, steal, lie, and screw the public , and then somehow get paid to do it :) Something to be said for that....

 

There are probably politicians who would like to legalize it to cash in on the revenue. Literally "tax that ass". Sliding scale of course based on which sex act is committed.

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There are probably politicians who would like to legalize it to cash in on the revenue. Literally "tax that ass". Sliding scale of course based on which sex act is committed.

 

They have in my country! Legalised prostitution that is.

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This woman sounds more like a con woman than an escort. I would be very very wary.

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I've known a few escorts both, ahem, professionally and also personally. One I would have trusted with my life. Much like other professions I'd suggest - some honest, others less so.

 

But, from what you say, there are reasons to doubt her. But again, she's an old friend. Me, I'd meet, but probably away from home. And decide before you meet how much help you are prepared to give if she asks for it, and stick to it. Remember, people change, she may no longer be the kid you knew when you were young.

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This woman sounds more like a con woman than an escort. I would be very very wary.

 

Con people and escorts are one in the same....

 

Their job is to "trick" you into spending money on them. Hence the urban slang "trick" comes from.....

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I've spoken to one of my friends and he says to stay away from that.

I think your friend is very wise

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i am ex escort ...i dont steal.....i got offered money to marry a guy in india when i was an escort..but it was thirty grande...didnt go through with it......doesnt make me a bad person or a thief .....i am not hard either....and i never used drugs....

 

i guess unless you have been in a position of total despair or had to hock your box....as it is politely known as........you dont understand that it makes you more vulnerable and insecure not confident and cocky......she allowed you to know her history ....why....i dont know...obviously you are not that good a friend to her......silly girl...if she were a good grifter she wouldnt have let you see her hand...obviously she isnt that sneaky

 

for what you have written dont have her around at your house...not for the fact i think she would steal from you..she trusted you enough to share history...dont invite her around because if something were to go missing she would cop the blame from you...........deb

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Hmmm....escorts and politicians are rather similar. both cheat, steal, lie, and screw the public , and then somehow get paid to do it :) Something to be said for that....

 

 

And you would know because you have spent so much time with escorts, right? If so, why do you hang with cheats and liars?

 

 

Why do you post nonsense like this? You have no idea what you are talking about.

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i am ex escort ...i dont steal.....i got offered money to marry a guy in india when i was an escort..but it was thirty grande...didnt go through with it......doesnt make me a bad person or a thief .....i am not hard either....and i never used drugs....

 

 

Sorry Deb, Tayla says otherwise.

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It is noteworthy that Deb is widely considered to be one of the nicest people here, regardless of those who would make false accusations based on personal bias and meanness.

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Con people and escorts are one in the same......

 

Bull. It is a business arrangement. After seeing about twenty escorts, I only have one complaint. One was a con artist. One out of about twenty.

 

I think you are just saying this because you are threatened by escorts. And I think this accounts for most negative comments about escorts.

 

 

But I do have to add that my experience is only with top tier escorts.

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OP I don't know if you're male or female so it's hard for me to read what this woman's intentions might be. If you're a female, then maybe she is regretting her choices and she is looking for a friend to talk to. That's the first thought that comes to me.

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