Wackkkk Posted March 25, 2015 Posted March 25, 2015 People have said guys leave me because I'm difficult, crazy, and my mouth is mouthy... No filter I speak exactly how I feel if I like you I'm not holding back- not a good thing, I get too excited and they run away. So with this new guy I faked everything , I let him text me first, call me first, I played hard to get ( although I just liked his attention, as I just got out of a relation****). He was someone I met last summer on vacation and we only started talking last month again because he had no way of contacting me though social media. He lives in a different country he lives in America and I'm in Canada!! Every night we talked till late night, he told me he was interested and he was willing to come to Canada in a couple weeks, he was always on my ass about that but I wasn't interested so I told him those dates wouldn't work for me. He pestered me a lot about it. This morning I see a girl leave a comment on his page, flirting with him. So I ignored him the whole day, I ignored his text and calls and he caught on that I was upset and here's the catcher.... He basically told me he was that I was a nice girl and that yes he started talking to this girl that posted a flirty comment on his facebook and that she was a potential girlfriend. I said thank you and that was it. But just yesterday he told me he liked me. Twenty mins later, his relationship status changed to 'in a relationship'. Bruh. What happened here?!
ExpatInItaly Posted March 25, 2015 Posted March 25, 2015 People have said guys leave me because I'm difficult, crazy, and my mouth is mouthy... No filter I speak exactly how I feel if I like you I'm not holding back- not a good thing, I get too excited and they run away. So with this new guy I faked everything , I let him text me first, call me first, I played hard to get ( although I just liked his attention, as I just got out of a relation****). He was someone I met last summer on vacation and we only started talking last month again because he had no way of contacting me though social media. He lives in a different country he lives in America and I'm in Canada!! Every night we talked till late night, he told me he was interested and he was willing to come to Canada in a couple weeks, he was always on my ass about that but I wasn't interested so I told him those dates wouldn't work for me. He pestered me a lot about it. This morning I see a girl leave a comment on his page, flirting with him. So I ignored him the whole day, I ignored his text and calls and he caught on that I was upset and here's the catcher.... He basically told me he was that I was a nice girl and that yes he started talking to this girl that posted a flirty comment on his facebook and that she was a potential girlfriend. I said thank you and that was it. But just yesterday he told me he liked me. Twenty mins later, his relationship status changed to 'in a relationship'. Bruh. What happened here?! You're in different countries and he probably realized it's not the most realistic of situations. I think he's probably been seeing her for a while and just wanted to see if you would be open to a little fun if he came and visited you. Bottom line, I don't think he wanted a relationship with you. He sounds flaky and he apparently has no problem being in a relationship and flirting with you at the same time. Not good. How old is this guy? 1
Author Wackkkk Posted March 25, 2015 Author Posted March 25, 2015 You're in different countries and he probably realized it's not the most realistic of situations. I think he's probably been seeing her for a while and just wanted to see if you would be open to a little fun if he came and visited you. Bottom line, I don't think he wanted a relationship with you. He sounds flaky and he apparently has no problem being in a relationship and flirting with you at the same time. Not good. How old is this guy? He is 30 with a kid, I'm younger then that, no kid. The girl he's in a relationship with he has known before me and also has a kid. Man he is a player! He said he still would like to be friends, please, I said no and wished him good luck. 1
Author Wackkkk Posted March 25, 2015 Author Posted March 25, 2015 I feel like I want to slap him. If I hadn't seen that comment on facebook he still would be talking to me all hours of the night. It's too much, then as soon as I find out his status changes. 1
Diezel Posted March 25, 2015 Posted March 25, 2015 He lives in a different country he lives in America and I'm in Canada!! I wasn't interested so I told him those dates wouldn't work for me. These two things happened. It's in your own post. 4
Redhead14 Posted March 25, 2015 Posted March 25, 2015 People have said guys leave me because I'm difficult, crazy, and my mouth is mouthy... No filter I speak exactly how I feel if I like you I'm not holding back- not a good thing, I get too excited and they run away. So with this new guy I faked everything , I let him text me first, call me first, I played hard to get ( although I just liked his attention, as I just got out of a relation****). He was someone I met last summer on vacation and we only started talking last month again because he had no way of contacting me though social media. He lives in a different country he lives in America and I'm in Canada!! Every night we talked till late night, he told me he was interested and he was willing to come to Canada in a couple weeks, he was always on my ass about that but I wasn't interested so I told him those dates wouldn't work for me. He pestered me a lot about it. This morning I see a girl leave a comment on his page, flirting with him. So I ignored him the whole day, I ignored his text and calls and he caught on that I was upset and here's the catcher.... He basically told me he was that I was a nice girl and that yes he started talking to this girl that posted a flirty comment on his facebook and that she was a potential girlfriend. I said thank you and that was it. But just yesterday he told me he liked me. Twenty mins later, his relationship status changed to 'in a relationship'. Bruh. What happened here?! No matter how we handle a dating scenario, there's just no way to control whether or not the other person will chose you over another dating interest. And, especially when you two hadn't met. Just because we follow a set of ground rules for ourselves -- "I let him text me first, call me first, I played hard to get" isn't about insurance. It's about approaching each dating scenario the same way, or basically the same way, each time to prevent or at least manage confusion and attract a man in a way that makes it clear to you as to his intentions. If he's approaching you, calling you and consistently pursuing you, then you have a better idea of his intentions and level of interest. If you're doing the calling and texting and pursuing, etc. (at least early) on, you begin to question his interest. I'ts not about manipulating. However, just because he's doing all these things it doesn't guarantee that he won't chose you over someone else. In addition, you say above that you FAKED it. You can't fake it and get away with it for very long at least. You have to truly embrace the principles in order for it to be effective on any level. Eventually your "true" characteristics would come through at some point. He may have sensed it or seen that about you during the summer and it was in the back of his mind even though he liked you. In the end, it's a matter of whether or not the two are compatible. And, bottomline, just be yourself always and attract someone who likes you just as you are. Use the basic ground rules, let the man pursue, call etc. for a while. This is not about changing who you are, it's just about not pushing someone away before they get to know you and decide whether they are interested enough to move forward with you. 2
kendahke Posted March 25, 2015 Posted March 25, 2015 People have said guys leave me because I'm difficult, crazy, and my mouth is mouthy... No filter I speak exactly how I feel if I like you I'm not holding back- not a good thing, I get too excited and they run away. So with this new guy I faked everything , I let him text me first, call me first, I played hard to get ( although I just liked his attention, as I just got out of a relation****). He was someone I met last summer on vacation and we only started talking last month again because he had no way of contacting me though social media. He lives in a different country he lives in America and I'm in Canada!! Every night we talked till late night, he told me he was interested and he was willing to come to Canada in a couple weeks, he was always on my ass about that but I wasn't interested so I told him those dates wouldn't work for me. He pestered me a lot about it. This morning I see a girl leave a comment on his page, flirting with him. So I ignored him the whole day, I ignored his text and calls and he caught on that I was upset and here's the catcher.... He basically told me he was that I was a nice girl and that yes he started talking to this girl that posted a flirty comment on his facebook and that she was a potential girlfriend. I said thank you and that was it. But just yesterday he told me he liked me. Twenty mins later, his relationship status changed to 'in a relationship'. Bruh. What happened here?! He took the path of least resistance. 2
kendahke Posted March 25, 2015 Posted March 25, 2015 He is 30 with a kid, I'm younger then that, no kid. The girl he's in a relationship with he has known before me and also has a kid. Man he is a player! . They have more in common, have known each other longer and live in the same area. He's not being a player just because he decided not to pursue you. He may not be someone who wants to be in an LDR--he may want daily in person contact with his woman. He said he still would like to be friends, please, I said no and wished him good luck well, there you have it. It just wasn't meant to be. 1
TouchedByViolet Posted March 25, 2015 Posted March 25, 2015 You definitely come across as crazy. If that was your attempt at normal you have a lot of improvement ahead of you. 7
Frank2thepoint Posted March 25, 2015 Posted March 25, 2015 So with this new guy I faked everything , I let him text me first, call me first, I played hard to get ( although I just liked his attention, as I just got out of a relation****) he told me he was interested and he was willing to come to Canada in a couple weeks, he was always on my ass about that but I wasn't interested so I told him those dates wouldn't work for me What happened here?! You were playing games with him. He showed his interest in you, but you did not show any in return. Replying to his messages does count as interest, just courtesy. He was slowly realizing he had no chance with you, so he sought out another woman that was willing to reciprocate interest. He is not a player, because if the situation was reversed, you would've done the same thing. 2
gaius Posted March 25, 2015 Posted March 25, 2015 Yeah, long distance doesn't work well for a lot of people. Even if you're the best an average warm body that's right next door can be tempting. You should stay crazy but just find a guy who knows how to deal with it. Crazy can be very sexy. 1
SawtoothMars Posted March 25, 2015 Posted March 25, 2015 He is 30 with a kid, I'm younger then that, no kid. The girl he's in a relationship with he has known before me and also has a kid. Man he is a player! He said he still would like to be friends, please, I said no and wished him good luck. It sounds more like you were playing too hard to get and he decided you were not very into him. 1
preraph Posted March 25, 2015 Posted March 25, 2015 Practice makes perfect. You can control yourself, but you can't control anyone else. He was going to do what he was going to do and it probably had very little to do with you. 1
edgygirl Posted March 25, 2015 Posted March 25, 2015 Have you thought about instead of "faking" not being crazy... work on yourself first so you become less crazy for real? Faking things doesn't work... people sense anyway. As someone said above you do sound a little crazy, so perhaps it's a good idea to work on your issues first so guys stop leaving you as you said. Try to find out why you get anxious about dating. If needed, do some therapy to help. 1
Satu Posted March 25, 2015 Posted March 25, 2015 Never fake anything. Be exactly the same person on the outside as you are on the inside. Anything else is nonsense.
Author Wackkkk Posted March 25, 2015 Author Posted March 25, 2015 Have you thought about instead of "faking" not being crazy... work on yourself first so you become less crazy for real? Faking things doesn't work... people sense anyway. As someone said above you do sound a little crazy, so perhaps it's a good idea to work on your issues first so guys stop leaving you as you said. Try to find out why you get anxious about dating. If needed, do some therapy to help. He didn't sense it at all! He thought I was so nice and seemed shocked about it. To be honest if I really liked him my true self would've came out, I'd ring him off the hook, initiate everything because i wouldn't be able to help myself, I don't get anxious I get super excited. This guy hurt my feelings tho, he tried playing me lol...smh. Thanks everyone. I took in everything yall said, it makes sense. 1
Michelle ma Belle Posted March 25, 2015 Posted March 25, 2015 You definitely come across as crazy. If that was your attempt at normal you have a lot of improvement ahead of you. My thoughts exactly. I'm not going to bash the long distance thing because I'm in an amazing LD relationship and they CAN work but only if you really want it to. As for the rest of it, there is a ton of game playing being done on both sides. What did you expect? 1
Frank2thepoint Posted March 25, 2015 Posted March 25, 2015 This guy hurt my feelings tho, he tried playing me lol...smh. You had a large hand in the outcome. You played games and you are surprised things blew up for you. 4
Diezel Posted March 25, 2015 Posted March 25, 2015 Every night we talked till late night, he told me he was interested and he was willing to come to Canada in a couple weeks, he was always on my ass about that but I wasn't interested so I told him those dates wouldn't work for me. This guy hurt my feelings tho, he tried playing me lol...smh. Um, no, look at what YOU posted. He was interested. You weren't. Looks like the real playa... (•_•) ( •_•)>⌐■-■ (⌐■_■) ...got played. 3
kendahke Posted March 25, 2015 Posted March 25, 2015 he tried playing me lol...smh No, he didn't. He expressed interest, you played him off, he took your message and dropped you off at the mall. Be authentic. No one likes a fake. 2
Author Wackkkk Posted March 25, 2015 Author Posted March 25, 2015 Um, no, look at what YOU posted. He was interested. You weren't. Looks like the real playa... (•_•) ( •_•)>⌐■-■ (⌐■_■) ...got played. Nah nah nah. He tried playing me, sassed me, said he liked me meanwhile having a thing waiting for him on the side. If I had played with his head ( as a player does therefore I am not one) he would've been inlove and I would've won I gave him to her.
Satu Posted March 25, 2015 Posted March 25, 2015 Nah nah nah. He tried playing me, sassed me, said he liked me meanwhile having a thing waiting for him on the side. If I had played with his head ( as a player does therefore I am not one) he would've been inlove and I would've won I gave him to her. Too complicated. 2
Diezel Posted March 25, 2015 Posted March 25, 2015 Nah nah nah. He tried playing me, sassed me, said he liked me meanwhile having a thing waiting for him on the side. If I had played with his head ( as a player does therefore I am not one) he would've been inlove and I would've won I gave him to her. "Denial can be an ugly thing." - Ace Ventura 2
GemmaUK Posted March 25, 2015 Posted March 25, 2015 Is this all real? It's bizarre from your thread title onwards... 2
Author Wackkkk Posted March 25, 2015 Author Posted March 25, 2015 "Denial can be an ugly thing." - Ace Ventura Right?! I'm being delusional. Hey my ego is hurt ok ? 1
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