Can't stop crying tonight.. I miss her so much and so depressed

March 25, 2015

I can't stop crying for her. I post so much to keep my sanity. And I'm sorry to over post. I can't let go of Her. She is always following me no matter what I do. I wake up and pops up. I go to gym and she's all around me. I go to work and have to see the booths we sat in at my job.

I can't control these emotions. I cry so many times during my therapy sessions. I can't believe she is gone and doesn't care or miss me. I do so much for her and her son. Not one email facebook or text. She had forgotten about me. It's our times. I miss calling her when I'm at work. I am outside my job ony break and so depressed and feel so alone. I wish to God I never hurt her and pushed her away so much. I was just scared and fearful of future.

I can't take the pain

March 25, 2015

Whatever you do, stay in therapy. This will get better in time.

For now, so what you can to change your routine so you don't have to see the places that remind you of her. It's probably hard to change jobs but can you change gyms?

Take a new route to work. Change something about your living space. Keep yourself active. Surround yourself with positive supportive friends.

Hang in there.

March 25, 2015

Just cry it out, and let the emotion wash away. I take it you mean she follows you around figuratively, not literally?

Anyway, I remember long ago, I cried for a girl every damn day for 6 months. I was pathetic beyond words, totally distraught, and I couldn't keep my mind on anything else.

Then one glorious day, the bubble popped, and I was no longer in love. It was not gradual, or at least it didn't feel that way. I just found the end of the tears.

So will you. The worst thing you can do is suppress those emotions. Take a couple of days off, and cry until you can't cry any more. Then force yourself to cry some more. Take a look in the mirror while you're on your crying jag. Write about what you're feeling as you cry, or maybe make a movie of yourself. Put it to words. It helps give you a different perspective on how you're feeling.

Getting it out of you is really the only way, and if you try to control (suppress) it, not only will this last longer, but it may emerge when you least expect it, throwing you into a tailspin when it is inconvenient.

The crying can be healthy if you let it. Go cry it out.

March 25, 2015

I'm going through the same exact thing, only difference is my ex still talks to me. I keep trying to show her I'm a different person and do all the things she likes. I put on the biggest fake smile around her but inside I'm crying. I just dont know anymore

March 25, 2015

I can't stop crying for her. I post so much to keep my sanity. And I'm sorry to over post. I can't let go of Her. She is always following me no matter what I do. I wake up and pops up. I go to gym and she's all around me. I go to work and have to see the booths we sat in at my job.

I can't control these emotions. I cry so many times during my therapy sessions. I can't believe she is gone and doesn't care or miss me. I do so much for her and her son. Not one email facebook or text. She had forgotten about me. It's our times. I miss calling her when I'm at work. I am outside my job ony break and so depressed and feel so alone. I wish to God I never hurt her and pushed her away so much. I was just scared and fearful of future.

I can't take the pain

I am with you my friend! When you hear a radio station that you used to listen together even adverts on the television get to you because of a certain song. You drive past that field you used to sit in together or that car park where you taught her to drive, you go to the supermarket and reminisce walking down the many isles together and picking out the things you both loved equally. My friend you did not push her away she chose the abandon you as did my girlfriend but find comfort in the fact that she will not find better but we will.

March 25, 2015

I'm going through the same exact thing, only difference is my ex still talks to me. I keep trying to show her I'm a different person and do all the things she likes. I put on the biggest fake smile around her but inside I'm crying. I just dont know anymore

You have to be the person that you want to be for yourself, rather than trying to be the person you think she wants you to be.

March 25, 2015

OP:

When you were with her you chose to have her as the exact centre of your universe.

You were in orbit around her.

Then she was gone, and you had nothing to orbit.

Now you have to place the centre of your universe inside yourself.

Once you have done that, the empty place inside you will no longer be empty, and you will begin to enjoy life again.

March 25, 2015

Thank you to each and every one of you. You guys do care and take time out of your lives to help people. I couldn't be more thankful to all of you. Everyone has given me wonderful advice and support. I am ok some days and other days I weep till I run out of tissues. I have been in therapy for almost 11 years for my depression and childhood upbringing. I also see a psychiatrist to help me with medicine but only medicine that ever worked for me was being around her and her son. I was so happy to wake up and have them both and we would laugh and play and I took it all for granted.

She was the center of my orbit even when I pushed her away or we fought. I did all I could for her and showed her the best love I could. My depression and childhood problems have pushed a lot of my ex girlfriends away. I really deep down in my soul thought she was the one. I thought I would grow old with her and I had no more search for my better half. I was a 1000% myself around her and didn't care

But my job reminds me of her because we used to go there. My therapy has 2 chairs and one she sat In and it reminds me of her. Grocery stores would remind me of her and the stuff she used to pick out. Stupid stuff like her makeup or favorite red bull drink instantly puts me in a sad state.

I will do my best to respect and follow each and one of you guys advices and support. I will cry it out and maybe one day I'll come out stronger. Thanks again everyone for your love and support. Much appreciate from bottom of my heart. I guess k will keep posting as much as I can to show progress or set back. I'm sorry for the many posts but I just need to vent and need support

March 25, 2015

This is something I put together for myself, but some of it might be helpful for you.

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1. Recognise that you're still in the crisis phase - you are very hurt, disappointed and angry, but the intensity of your feelings will reduce.

2. Don't suppress your feelings, or tell yourself that you shouldn't be feeling what you're feeling - that never helps.

3. Externalise your feelings by writing them down, talking to a trustworthy person, or using any other mode of expression that feels right.

4. Remind yourself frequently that you can and will have a good life without this person.

5. Tell yourself frequently that you can and will love again.

6. Take care of your body:

Eat enough and eat healthily.

Drink enough water. Thats 2 litres a day for a male.

Get a bit more rest than you think you need.

Do some easy exercise - nothing too strenuous.

If you feel physically unwell go to see your doctor.

7. Do not allow yourself to become socially isolated or withdrawn.

8. Establish Total No Contact with your ex. No contact directly, indirectly, or by social media.

9. Keep up with all your responsibilities and things you have to do.

10. Do not use alcohol or drugs in an attempt to self-medicate.

11. Post here as often as you want to. People here want to help.

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Take care,

Satu

March 25, 2015

Thank you to each and every one of you. You guys do care and take time out of your lives to help people. I couldn't be more thankful to all of you. Everyone has given me wonderful advice and support. I am ok some days and other days I weep till I run out of tissues. I have been in therapy for almost 11 years for my depression and childhood upbringing. I also see a psychiatrist to help me with medicine but only medicine that ever worked for me was being around her and her son. I was so happy to wake up and have them both and we would laugh and play and I took it all for granted.

She was the center of my orbit even when I pushed her away or we fought. I did all I could for her and showed her the best love I could. My depression and childhood problems have pushed a lot of my ex girlfriends away. I really deep down in my soul thought she was the one. I thought I would grow old with her and I had no more search for my better half. I was a 1000% myself around her and didn't care

But my job reminds me of her because we used to go there. My therapy has 2 chairs and one she sat In and it reminds me of her. Grocery stores would remind me of her and the stuff she used to pick out. Stupid stuff like her makeup or favorite red bull drink instantly puts me in a sad state.

I will do my best to respect and follow each and one of you guys advices and support. I will cry it out and maybe one day I'll come out stronger. Thanks again everyone for your love and support. Much appreciate from bottom of my heart. I guess k will keep posting as much as I can to show progress or set back. I'm sorry for the many posts but I just need to vent and need support

We are suffering from the same withdrawal symptoms when I smell a certain shampoo it reminds me of her and also when I go past certain shops and places I now try to avoid these places and start a new routine and pattern.

March 25, 2015

This is something I put together for myself, but some of it might be helpful for you.

***********************************************

1. Recognise that you're still in the crisis phase - you are very hurt, disappointed and angry, but the intensity of your feelings will reduce.

2. Don't suppress your feelings, or tell yourself that you shouldn't be feeling what you're feeling - that never helps.

3. Externalise your feelings by writing them down, talking to a trustworthy person, or using any other mode of expression that feels right.

4. Remind yourself frequently that you can and will have a good life without this person.

5. Tell yourself frequently that you can and will love again.

6. Take care of your body:

Eat enough and eat healthily.
Drink enough water. Thats 2 litres a day for a male.
Get a bit more rest than you think you need.
Do some easy exercise - nothing too strenuous.
If you feel physically unwell go to see your doctor.

7. Do not allow yourself to become socially isolated or withdrawn.

8. Establish Total No Contact with your ex. No contact directly, indirectly, or by social media.

9. Keep up with all your responsibilities and things you have to do.

10. Do not use alcohol or drugs in an attempt to self-medicate.

11. Post here as often as you want to. People here want to help.

********************************************

Take care,

Satu

Very helpful ideas. Much appreciated. I drink a lot of water I think and have been going to gym 6 days a week and working out hard. Thanks for your reply and suggestions much appreciated.

March 25, 2015

We are suffering from the same withdrawal symptoms when I smell a certain shampoo it reminds me of her and also when I go past certain shops and places I now try to avoid these places and start a new routine and pattern.

Yeh man. I know what you mean. Simplest things in life triggers sadness in me. I was at cvs and she liked a certain face wash and I saw it and instantly down hill. I can't believe she has this effect on me almost 5 months post

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