WinstonPatagonia Posted March 25, 2015 Posted March 25, 2015 (edited) I've recently had to end things with the woman I am crazy about (long story below). Before answering the question please note that I'm in no way try to do this to be manipulative or use this as some desperate attempt to get her back. My question is strictly whether or not a woman would want to here this from someone she cares about of if the ignorant bliss of our past memories would be preferred. On paper my life is great: I make a great living, am highly educated, good looking, healthy, and I travel the world like its my playground. None of that matters. My life is sh*t. I'm a drug addict, I'm selfish, I'm cold, I don't fulfill my potential. And nothing or no one in my life has ever motivated enough to change that......until recently. I recently met someone who turned my world upside down. I was crazy about her. She made me feel like she deserved the best version of me that I could possibly provide. I couldn't live up to that. I couldn't have anything with her more than the short fling we shared because I could never live up to the standards I set for myself when I was with her. She moved out of my city last weekend: I know I'll never see her again. This morning I checked myself into rehab......she's the reason why. She made me realize Ill never be happy with someone if I can't be happy with myself. I decided to demand more of myself and want to tell her all of this, not because I have any delusions of being with her but because I genuinely want to tell her how much she meant to me and how much she makes me desire a life that's happy, pure and worth sharing with someone that means as much to me as she does. So my question to you ladies is simply this: if you had a short relationship with a guy ( who you were crazy about) would you want to hear this? Or would you want to continue believing that this guy you were with for a while shared some wonderful perfect times together that only had to end because you moved away? Would hearing this destroy those memories and make you think you wasted your time with a desperate, pathetic weakling? Basically how would you respond to hearing this? Thanks, Winston Edited March 25, 2015 by WinstonPatagonia
Gloria25 Posted March 25, 2015 Posted March 25, 2015 And "that's" what I meant in my recent thread....how a woman can "elevate" a man... I'm happy that you are taking this step to get yourself straight, but please, do not do it only because of another person...please do it for yourself in the long run. Just curious. Did you tell her you went into rehab? If you barely know her, not sure if dropping this bomb would do any good. Why don't you just tell her a little white lie that you had a family emergency or decided to check out a job opportunity? Maybe stay in touch and when you come out of rehab resume seeing her? But still, no talk about the rehab until things get serious and she gets to know more of you before you drop the rehab bomb... Good luck and stay on course/strong!!!
Author WinstonPatagonia Posted March 25, 2015 Author Posted March 25, 2015 (edited) Thank you Gloria for your reply: To answer your points: -yes I am doing this for myself (she just opened my eyes to the need) -no she has no idea. We ended things on great terms right before she moved - no didn't just meet her: we've known each other for quite a while (I just consider it recent because it's been only a year), are very close, intimate etc. -I don't have to tell her anything: she would never know I did this and like I mentioned, I highly doubt I'll ever see her again. I don't think we will stay in touch and the chance of us having something in the future is zero Thanks again for your reply Edited March 25, 2015 by WinstonPatagonia
Noproblem Posted March 25, 2015 Posted March 25, 2015 Oh I liked the guy and he came to me after I moved to a new city, why would I be upset, I should be happy! Now focus on your rehab, best of luck!
Toodaloo Posted March 25, 2015 Posted March 25, 2015 I'm happy that you are taking this step to get yourself straight, but please, do not do it only because of another person...please do it for yourself in the long run. Good luck and stay on course/strong!!! I am going to echo this. Make that paper "great life" your real "great life". Addiction to anything is just the pits. Get yourself sorted and when the next wonderful one comes along you will be ready. Good luck.
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