Skinnyminnie Posted March 24, 2015 Posted March 24, 2015 To hear my full story click this link or highlight it if you can: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/breaks-breaking-up/521152-my-story. So it's been almost 3 months since my ex broke up with me. It's been hard. Not going to lie. We were together for 12 years and he moved on so fast that it literally scares me to death. It feels like I didn't know him. Was I in love with a horribly selfish passive aggresive man? Don't get me wrong, he has all the right in the world to break up with me and restart his life, but we were together 12 years and the fact that he blamed me and did nothing to clear that up shows me that he was cowardly. He changed. He met new friends and they're younger and "cooler" then he is and I think he really liked their lifestyle. I'm his first girlfriend. First of everything. So naturally he was tempted by the first girl coworker that enters his life. I have felt temptation and I have had the strength to say no. I am so strong to the point where I have told these men no and I can only offer friendship. I have more experience than him. I have dated and partied since a very young age. I'm not looking to justify his actions because he is a coward for not fighting and instead giving up and walking away. Will be ever regret leaving the way he did? Will he ever regret saying that he didn't love me? Can men like him really see that they made a mistake and let the one person who loved them for them go? Lastly, will he ever want another chance? I'm sure there isn't a for sure answer for any of these questions, but I'd like to hear from anyone who wants to chime in and discuss these questions. Truth be told I don't understand why I want him to regret it. He wasn't a terrible person. We didn't make up and break up a lot. Just the one time when we were 19 and it as a good thing. At least I believe it was. I guess I just miss him. I miss what we had and I hate that my family misses him and at the same time they lost respect for him. Can he ever gain their respect back? Please read my story first because it will answer a lot of questions you have about me. Thank you!
Strength in Healing Posted March 24, 2015 Posted March 24, 2015 Very deep. You're right there are no answers to your questions. No one can predict the future. What is clear, however, is that you two weren't right for each other. If you were, then this would've ended differently. Perhaps the communication was bad, perhaps it was grass is greener syndrome. Perhaps it was many things combined that I didn't list. Accept the pain, and embrace it. Learn to utilize it. You will have many hard days for a long time to come, but in time, you'll see the good days begin to outweigh the bad ones. You will grow infinitely stronger. We all make mistakes in relationships, that's a fact. If it was meant to work, it would have.
Author Skinnyminnie Posted March 25, 2015 Author Posted March 25, 2015 It's definitely hard to read that we weren't meant to be together because it's definitely true. As painful as it is to admit, we weren't a good match because I care too much and he cares too little. Thank you for your words of encouragement. They do mean a lot. Do men like him ever change? I will have to accept things for the way they are and I will learn to embrace this pain and use it in a more positive way. Thanks again!
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