Sogemini88 Posted March 24, 2015 Posted March 24, 2015 I have been dating this guy that I've known for years for the last almost two months. a friend of mine has okcupid and just found him on there today. He must not be that interested, although the signs are there. Hmmm...
losangelena Posted March 24, 2015 Posted March 24, 2015 Does he just have a profile or has he been active? I've seen profiles on there of people who haven't logged in for months.
Author Sogemini88 Posted March 24, 2015 Author Posted March 24, 2015 He's active right now. She sent me a screen shot. This guy wants to see me basically every day. He's always making the initiative. I'm a little hurt by seeing that. Why would he be on there? He's obviously still looking.
losangelena Posted March 24, 2015 Posted March 24, 2015 Well ... There is a whole other thread going on right now about how, if someone is using the mobile OKC app and have it running in the background (not actively using), then it will show them as being "online" whenever their phone is picking up a wireless connection. So, there's that possibility. On the other hand, if the two of you have not discussed exclusivity, then it's pretty much fair game for him to keep seeing other women. Have you guys discussed exclusivity? Have you slept together yet? 1
NopeNah Posted March 24, 2015 Posted March 24, 2015 To me two months isn't that long. Maybe he's bored..maybe he's not sure if you two will get serious..ask him.
fitnessfan365 Posted March 24, 2015 Posted March 24, 2015 I'll be the first to admit that I date a lot of women. But have found it to be exhausting. So as of right now, there are two women with potential I am focusing on and that's it. However, since they're both still new, I'm not going to take down my profiles either. Plus, women still email me regularly on both Match and OkCupid. Even though I'm not interested in pursuing anyone else, I still read the emails out of curiosity. I delete the majority of them and if an email is really good, I'll send "Thanks for the awesome email, but I'm currently seeing someone". So just because a guy is logged on, it doesn't mean that he is actively seeking other women necessarily.
carhill Posted March 24, 2015 Posted March 24, 2015 OP, since you've known him for years, what's his style with women and how does that match up with your personal experiences dating him?
Author Sogemini88 Posted March 25, 2015 Author Posted March 25, 2015 He's always been a one woman type of man. He told me he was very interested and definitely wanted to see where things progress. He might have a job offer in a different state, and I'm not close to being done with school yet and he expressed those concerns to me. But he's still actively texting and making plans to see me.
Author Sogemini88 Posted March 25, 2015 Author Posted March 25, 2015 To me two months isn't that long. Maybe he's bored..maybe he's not sure if you two will get serious..ask him. To me it is, when I've known him and was very close at a friendship level for about 4 years..
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