4blossoms Posted March 24, 2015 Posted March 24, 2015 I went on a ski trip this weekend through a Meetup group and met a guy. We were in a big group having some beers after dinner and everyone started joking around. It was a fun night. He never directly approached me, but I saw him move his seat closer and closer to mine throughout the evening. At the end when all of his friends had left he was still hanging around and standing behind me. He normally did not smile around others, but I noticed he was always smiling when he sees me or when I talked to him. When I talked to a new male friend I noticed him appear out of nowhere and stand nearby with his friends watching me. I tried to drop him hints that I like him, like apologizing sweetly for teasing him at the party and even clicked on "Good to see you" under his profile on the Meetup trip page. But so far it's been 2 days and I haven't heard anything. He also hasn't logged on to the Meetup club page. Does he look like he has any interest? Should I ask him out or wait for him to do it? 1
d0nnivain Posted March 24, 2015 Posted March 24, 2015 Either is appropriate. If you are not the type to ask a guy out, make sure you continue to flirt with him at the next MeetUp. Some guys just want to make sure they won't get rejected before they risk asking for a date. 1
JuneJulySeptember Posted March 24, 2015 Posted March 24, 2015 I went on a ski trip this weekend through a Meetup group and met a guy. We were in a big group having some beers after dinner and everyone started joking around. It was a fun night. He never directly approached me, but I saw him move his seat closer and closer to mine throughout the evening. At the end when all of his friends had left he was still hanging around and standing behind me. He normally did not smile around others, but I noticed he was always smiling when he sees me or when I talked to him. When I talked to a new male friend I noticed him appear out of nowhere and stand nearby with his friends watching me. I tried to drop him hints that I like him, like apologizing sweetly for teasing him at the party and even clicked on "Good to see you" under his profile on the Meetup trip page. But so far it's been 2 days and I haven't heard anything. He also hasn't logged on to the Meetup club page. Does he look like he has any interest? Should I ask him out or wait for him to do it? Just do what you would normally do and don't worry about the consequences. If you normally gots ballz and ask make moves on men, then do it. If you're one of those women who feel that men should ask women out, then forget it. Either way, don't come onto a website like this and blow the consequences out of proportion in your head. It's some dude you barely know. No consequences. Just my opinion. 1
Author 4blossoms Posted March 24, 2015 Author Posted March 24, 2015 Either is appropriate. If you are not the type to ask a guy out, make sure you continue to flirt with him at the next MeetUp. Some guys just want to make sure they won't get rejected before they risk asking for a date. I might just have to bite the bullet and ask because the club has over 2,000 members and I'm not going on another ski trip soon (they're about $300+ per trip), so chances of meeting him again at this club is pretty low... 1
Author 4blossoms Posted March 24, 2015 Author Posted March 24, 2015 Just do what you would normally do and don't worry about the consequences. If you normally gots ballz and ask make moves on men, then do it. If you're one of those women who feel that men should ask women out, then forget it. Either way, don't come onto a website like this and blow the consequences out of proportion in your head. It's some dude you barely know. No consequences. Just my opinion. Yeah, you're right. I don't even know this guy. If he says no, it's not like I'll lose any sleep over it. 1
carhill Posted March 24, 2015 Posted March 24, 2015 He knows where to find you. If he's sufficiently attracted, he will, especially given your interactions during and -post the event. About the only mitigating factor would be relationship status. If he's with someone, unbeknown to you, or believed, for whatever reason, you are involved with someone, and he was interested, that could put a damper on any overt moves. With some guys it doesn't matter; with others it does. I've seen opinions that meetup is the new singles group but that opinion isn't universal, and people go to meetup events for reasons other than dating opportunities. If you enjoy the meetup group, keep showing up and what happens, happens. 1
fitnessfan365 Posted March 24, 2015 Posted March 24, 2015 You still want to let the guy pursue and make the plans. But that doesn't mean you can't give him help. Ex - You're a very sexy and charming man. I'd enjoy it if you'd invite me out for a drink (insert your number). It's direct (which men actually like) while still allowing him to lead the interaction. 1
Author 4blossoms Posted March 25, 2015 Author Posted March 25, 2015 Thanks everyone. I sent out a private message a couple of hours ago and said that if he wants to get coffee one of these days to let me know. I think I should have said "drinks" and not "coffee". Coffee seems so serious, like meeting someone to network or to look for a job. Oh well... At any rate I haven't heard back. I'm sure he must have gotten it by now since knowing men most will keep all lines of communication open just in case a SI swimsuit model happens to wander by and want to talk to them. 1
fitnessfan365 Posted March 25, 2015 Posted March 25, 2015 1) It's been two hours. Relax and let him get back to you. 2) You should have included your number so he can contact you directly off site. But all you can do now is let him get back to you. If you don't hear anything within 3-5 days, I'd say let it go for now and see if you can build more rapport/chemistry in person. 1
Recommended Posts