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Should I give a thank-you letter to my professor?

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I have a professor who has influenced me greatly and rekindled my childhood dreams. The thing is, I'm also quite (okay, maybe very) attracted to him. He probably knows already because my classmates have openly teased me about it during class. I've only been polite with him, though, never making any advances because I don't think that's cool at all. He's in a relationship already and is quite young (28-30 years old).

 

I'm arguably his best student and I know that he thinks well of me. But there were times that he expressed his disappointment in the class. He also admitted that perhaps he has shortcomings as an instructor, and he's worried that he might not have inspired us enough to love or take the subject seriously.

 

That gave me an idea to write him a thank you letter which I'm planning on giving after the course ends. I just want to give a simple letter of appreciation and gratitude, because I want to let him know he has indeed inspired one of his students.

 

If you were him, what would you think of a student (who allegedly has a crush on you) giving you this letter? Would you take it as a touching compliment or would you think it's some kind of awkward romantic initiation?

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Yes I would greatly appreciate a spank you letter instead of a boring thank you one.

 

Send it. Keep it short and sweet.

d0nnivain Established Member

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Thank you notes from students are treasured by educators. They are tangible proof that we got through to somebody.

 

Here, . . . . well you are trying to use it as a trojan horse. You want to send this note as a way to stay connected to the prof you have a crush on. That's a horse of a different color & not a great idea.

 

Send one if you like but do not gush or endeavor to create a "we" / connection between you & this prof beyond student teacher.

 

For example This is fine:

 

Dear Prof: I enjoyed your class tremendously this year. You re-awakened my passion for the subject. Thank you for a wonderful year. I will carry your lessons with me throughout my life. Sincerely, isabellemarss

 

This is not:

 

Darling Prof: My heart beat faster with each lecture. Looking into your beautiful eyes during each class I knew you could see into my soul and were teaching directly to me. Our love of the subject makes us kindred spirits. My academic life will be a shadow of its former self since I will no longer be seeing you every Monday, Wednesday and Friday, when you expanded my mind and stirred my loins with your voice. If you would like to get together and discuss the subject while I lie naked in your arms after we have consummated our relationship and physically joined our kindred souls, you can reach me at (123) 555-6969. All my love, isabellemarss

 

Do you see the difference?

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Thank you notes from students are treasured by educators. They are tangible proof that we got through to somebody.

 

Here, . . . . well you are trying to use it as a trojan horse. You want to send this note as a way to stay connected to the prof you have a crush on. That's a horse of a different color & not a great idea.

 

Send one if you like but do not gush or endeavor to create a "we" / connection between you & this prof beyond student teacher.

 

For example This is fine:

 

Dear Prof: I enjoyed your class tremendously this year. You re-awakened my passion for the subject. Thank you for a wonderful year. I will carry your lessons with me throughout my life. Sincerely, isabellemarss

 

This is not:

 

Darling Prof: My heart beat faster with each lecture. Looking into your beautiful eyes during each class I knew you could see into my soul and were teaching directly to me. Our love of the subject makes us kindred spirits. My academic life will be a shadow of its former self since I will no longer be seeing you every Monday, Wednesday and Friday, when you expanded my mind and stirred my loins with your voice. If you would like to get together and discuss the subject while I lie naked in your arms after we have consummated our relationship and physically joined our kindred souls, you can reach me at (123) 555-6969. All my love, isabellemarss

 

Do you see the difference?

 

LOL yes, yes, I certainly understand the boundaries of what I'm treading into :laugh: I'm keeping the letter heartfelt and sincere without losing a tone of formality. I won't put anything that's not supposed to be on a proper letter a student is supposed to send to her professor. :)

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preraph Established Member

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I wouldn't. Because you're doing it hoping to prolong the connection.

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writergal Established Member

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Thank you notes from students are treasured by educators. They are tangible proof that we got through to somebody.

 

Here, . . . . well you are trying to use it as a trojan horse. You want to send this note as a way to stay connected to the prof you have a crush on. That's a horse of a different color & not a great idea.

 

Send one if you like but do not gush or endeavor to create a "we" / connection between you & this prof beyond student teacher.

 

For example This is fine:

Dear Prof: I enjoyed your class tremendously this year. You re-awakened my passion for the subject. Thank you for a wonderful year. I will carry your lessons with me throughout my life. Sincerely, isabellemarss

This is not:

Darling Prof: My heart beat faster with each lecture. Looking into your beautiful eyes during each class I knew you could see into my soul and were teaching directly to me. Our love of the subject makes us kindred spirits. My academic life will be a shadow of its former self since I will no longer be seeing you every Monday, Wednesday and Friday, when you expanded my mind and stirred my loins with your voice. If you would like to get together and discuss the subject while I lie naked in your arms after we have consummated our relationship and physically joined our kindred souls, you can reach me at (123) 555-6969. All my love, isabellemarss

Do you see the difference?

 

^^That is awesome, d0nnivain!

writergal Established Member

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I wouldn't. Because you're doing it hoping to prolong the connection.

 

I second this^^.

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I wouldn't. Because you're doing it hoping to prolong the connection.

 

Hmm, I never really thought of that when I came up with the idea in the first place. I just thought that it would be nice if I gave him a letter since I know that he's been terribly disappointed in the class and tries to shoulder some of the blame. Idk, it's pretty usual for me to be expressive towards people who I really appreciate.

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If you were him, what would you think of a student (who allegedly has a crush on you) giving you this letter? Would you take it as a touching compliment or would you think it's some kind of awkward romantic initiation?

 

i would be highly uncomfortable and probably avoided the said student like a plague. your idea is sweet but (in my personal opinion) - a little ridiculous. you're basically thanking him for doing his job... a job that he is paid for.

 

& on top of everything, you're doing it as a romantic initiation and it's not appropriate.

d0nnivain Established Member

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& on top of everything, you're doing it as a romantic initiation and it's not appropriate.

 

This is why it's a problem ^^^

 

A genuine thank you is OK. But you aren't going for that, isabellemarss

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