thorin Posted March 24, 2015 Posted March 24, 2015 Well, she texted me after 15 days saying "whats up?", I responded, we have met today for 2 hours, and are meeting tomorrow again for a beer. She doesnt have anyone else, she still wants to have sex with me, but again...she doesnt want exclusivity. She still says she doesnt love me, and that she doesnt know what to do about it. Huh, I didnt know it would be so hard to go nc again Theres really huge temptation for meeting as fwb, or just to have this really close friend. But I see I cant handle it. Im too jelous, as I know she does whatever she wants with other guys right now, and she doesnt have any romantic feelings for me to stop her. Uh, I know I have to just stop responding her, but its really hard. Her teling me she misses me and thinks about me everyday doesnt help at all.
lumberjac Posted March 24, 2015 Posted March 24, 2015 you know NC is the only way to go so I think you should stick to it, its not easy I know, but its the best option. Reason why shes telling you she miss you is because shes not find herself a new bf yet, trust me once she does you wont hear from her again. So unless you are happy to settle with fwb or close friends, then go 100% NC from this moment. 2
Karin2rinkashi Posted March 24, 2015 Posted March 24, 2015 Well, she texted me after 15 days saying "whats up?", I responded, we have met today for 2 hours, and are meeting tomorrow again for a beer. She doesnt have anyone else, she still wants to have sex with me, but again...she doesnt want exclusivity. She still says she doesnt love me, and that she doesnt know what to do about it. Huh, I didnt know it would be so hard to go nc again Theres really huge temptation for meeting as fwb, or just to have this really close friend. But I see I cant handle it. Im too jelous, as I know she does whatever she wants with other guys right now, and she doesnt have any romantic feelings for me to stop her. Uh, I know I have to just stop responding her, but its really hard. Her teling me she misses me and thinks about me everyday doesnt help at all. " A chance for Faramir, captain of Gondor to show his quality" Cancel that date..... tell her that you have changed your mind and that you are not interested in being anything but exclusive. And if she is not willing to commit then you are moving on. THIS is your chance to take control... She is literally giving you a chance to take this moment.... and RUN! RUN WITH IT! RUN WITH IT LIKE YOUR LIFE DEPENDS ON IT! Then go NC.... and see how she follows you! She isn't able to find anyone.... and now she is coming back to your for her needs... GRASP THIS MOMENT BRO!!!! Tell her your boundaries.... Tell her what you are looking for... and if that is not happening then it is good bye.... And have conviction in your voice, determination.... FAKE YOUR COURAGE if it is difficult.... She is literally putting you back in control.... if it is not going to happen, it will fail even if you go FWB. She will find someone and you will feel even worse. End it on your terms... take the leap of faith.... Grasp this moment! 3
NC-Thomas Posted March 24, 2015 Posted March 24, 2015 Yea, never settle for second best (friends) Your better than that. Don't let her use you. Take control of yourself and yes: NC. Also block her number, whatsapp, facebook, instragram and all that other social media BS.
Karin2rinkashi Posted March 24, 2015 Posted March 24, 2015 Well, she texted me after 15 days saying "whats up?", I responded, we have met today for 2 hours, and are meeting tomorrow again for a beer. She doesnt have anyone else, she still wants to have sex with me, but again...she doesnt want exclusivity. She still says she doesnt love me, and that she doesnt know what to do about it. Huh, I didnt know it would be so hard to go nc again Theres really huge temptation for meeting as fwb, or just to have this really close friend. But I see I cant handle it. Im too jelous, as I know she does whatever she wants with other guys right now, and she doesnt have any romantic feelings for me to stop her. Uh, I know I have to just stop responding her, but its really hard. Her teling me she misses me and thinks about me everyday doesnt help at all. in fact, don't even tell her..... Go Ghost!!! block her... don't even say you don't want to.... And watch what happens... but do it for yourself... not to get a reaction out of her... RUN BRO! RUN! RUN LIKE HELL! You have been given this chance.. Block her WITHOUT SAYING ANYTHING! 1
Author thorin Posted March 24, 2015 Author Posted March 24, 2015 Im surely going nc, but why would I go ghost on her, without saying anything? Its kind of immature I guess : p What about telling her that we can be friends, but in a couple of weeks - months? But until I text her, were in no contact mode? I dont wanna get back with her, I know its not gonna happen, so I dont need to play games, like doing anything so she misses me as much as she can.
NC-Thomas Posted March 24, 2015 Posted March 24, 2015 (edited) Im surely going nc, but why would I go ghost on her, without saying anything? Its kind of immature I guess : p What about telling her that we can be friends, but in a couple of weeks - months? But until I text her, were in no contact mode? I dont wanna get back with her, I know its not gonna happen, so I dont need to play games, like doing anything so she misses me as much as she can. You care too much about her feelings, while she LACKS the care for your feelings. So now tell me why do you care about being a ghost to her? Why do you care about telling her when you two can be "friends" again? I would just run like Karin tells you. She doesn't deserve a heads up about you going in NC. I dont wanna get back with her, I know its not gonna happen, so I dont need to play games, like doing anything so she misses me as much as she can. She is playing games, and she is winning unless you make that 180 turn and be a ghost. Edited March 24, 2015 by NC-Thomas
Karin2rinkashi Posted March 24, 2015 Posted March 24, 2015 (edited) Im surely going nc, but why would I go ghost on her, without saying anything? Its kind of immature I guess : p What about telling her that we can be friends, but in a couple of weeks - months? But until I text her, were in no contact mode? I dont wanna get back with her, I know its not gonna happen, so I dont need to play games, like doing anything so she misses me as much as she can. Been there, done that! don't tell her.... go ghost! Give it 3 months.... WATCH AND LEARN! You are not doing this to make her miss you, you are doing it for yourself. To salvage this situation that you are in. You can actually end up on the top. She missing you will be just a side effect.... TRUST Us, DUDE! Edited March 24, 2015 by Karin2rinkashi
Price2Play Posted March 25, 2015 Posted March 25, 2015 You have oneitis, do the smart right thing and listen to Thomas & Karin. There are other woman where you live correct? Date them not your ex... DON'T BE HER LITTLE B*TCH, by given into her needs you will become that and just get HURT again. MAN UP AND MOVE ON BRO! 2
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