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It's been a while since I've been in the dating game, so here goes!

 

I've got the most massive crush on an acquaintance who I see very infrequently (approx every 3 months). Although we've been friends on Facebook for years, we've never actually chatted privately. I've generally kept my feelings to myself, always wondering if he feels the same, but I bumped into him last week and there was definitely a spark and so I thought I'd drop him a line. I kept it very brief, but I don't know if he's interested or just putting up with me? Generally, I'm used to guys messaging me, but this man is actually quite quiet and reserved, so it's difficult to tell. I don't want to initiate a third PM if he's thinking 'oh just stay the hell away from me, please'.

 

Saturday

 

Me: Good morning

 

Him: Good morning

 

Me: How are you?

 

[Pause] (he could’ve been busy, so I waited a couple of mins then typed)

Anyway, I hope you have a good day

 

Him: how are you? l also hope you have a beautiful day

 

Me: Thank you x

 

 

Monday

Me: Hi - just wanted to say good morning

 

Him: Good morning

 

Me: A smile... (I sent a funny cartoon)

 

Him: Thanks for your beautiful smile

 

Me: Wishing you a day filled with smiles :)

 

Him: :D

 

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So, what do you think? Is he interested or just being polite?, I just need some impartial thoughts!

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Not a lot there, but he did say "beautiful smile" so you never know.

 

Now obviously as a woman you want him to take the hint and ask you out. But you also say he is really shy and reserved. So he's probably going to need help. Give it 3-5 more days of breathing room. Then just be really direct and leave the ball in his court.

 

"Facebook is fun, but I think you're really sexy and would love it if you'd invite me out for a drink with you (insert your number0". Then just wait to see if he actually follows up.

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Men are the main pursuers. Why are you chasing him?

 

Men who like a woman will make a move.

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Thanks FitnessFan and Gary.

 

I'll be seeing him again in the middle of April, so won't message him on FB again (unless he contacts me first), and will see what happens then.

 

It's just so hard, having had these feelings for so long, I just want to rush out and act on them!

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You showed your interest, now the ball is in his court.

 

Are you sure he's single?

 

It's been a while since I've been in the dating game, so here goes!

 

I've got the most massive crush on an acquaintance who I see very infrequently (approx every 3 months). Although we've been friends on Facebook for years, we've never actually chatted privately. I've generally kept my feelings to myself, always wondering if he feels the same, but I bumped into him last week and there was definitely a spark and so I thought I'd drop him a line. I kept it very brief, but I don't know if he's interested or just putting up with me? Generally, I'm used to guys messaging me, but this man is actually quite quiet and reserved, so it's difficult to tell. I don't want to initiate a third PM if he's thinking 'oh just stay the hell away from me, please'.

 

Saturday

 

Me: Good morning

 

Him: Good morning

 

Me: How are you?

 

[Pause] (he could’ve been busy, so I waited a couple of mins then typed)

Anyway, I hope you have a good day

 

Him: how are you? l also hope you have a beautiful day

 

Me: Thank you x

 

 

Monday

Me: Hi - just wanted to say good morning

 

Him: Good morning

 

Me: A smile... (I sent a funny cartoon)

 

Him: Thanks for your beautiful smile

 

Me: Wishing you a day filled with smiles :)

 

Him: :D

 

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So, what do you think? Is he interested or just being polite?, I just need some impartial thoughts!

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It is true that a lot of men who are confident and extroverted will pursue. But if this guy is as shy and reserved as she says, he's probably not the type to make a move without a lot of direct help. I mean just saying good morning a few times and sending an emoticon smile is not really "making her interest known" IMO.

 

So her leaving her number, complimenting him physically and saying that she'd love for him to invite her out for a drink, it still allowing him to follow up and pursue making plans. She's just making sure that he's aware of her interest level.

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