Daveyboy77 Posted March 24, 2015 Posted March 24, 2015 Hi there, so a new girl started at my work a couple months ago. We are on different shifts but we seen each other around the odd time and I noticed her noticing me ( she would lock eyes with me), I began to realize she was flirting with me so whenever I seen her I would smile but I never introduced myself as I felt awkward doing it in front of all the men around. So this went on for a while until the day she finally came and sat beside me. I began to talk to everyone at the table including her (not directly, I was working my way up to that) when my buddy ( who knows I like her) walks up from behind and says " hey, have you made a new friend" which totally put me on the spot ( Im a shy guy), well I'm not sure what she heard but she turned around and looked at him and then me. When she looked at me she locked eyes and gave me this little sigh with the warmest smile.....my heart was pounding out of my chest, I could feel her soul ( I've never felt this before in my life) I completely froze and couldn't say a word, I felt like a total shmuck. So I would see her in the parking lot in the mornings when I was leaving and she was coming in. So, I started parking closer to where she walked by to give me the best chance at approaching her. So sure enough she walked by and would look at me in my truck as if to say "I'm here, come ask me out" and I kept freezing and saying to myself " I'll talk to her tomorrow" like an idiot. So after a week she stopped looking my way and I figured yep, I blew it. I ended up seeing her in the lunchroom the next week and she acted like I wasn't there and when I looked at her she darted her eyes away with a fearful look. I was mortified, I didn't even realize I had made her feel uncomfortable ( creeped her out). So after that I started parking in my regular spot and began avoiding her because I didn't want her to be scared of me. I feel like such a fool and a coward for probably losing what could've been the best thing that ever happened to me. The thing is, she fits everything I look for in a girl so much to a tee; it completely freaked me out, like she was my angel sent from heaven.... My soulmate and she was crushing on me too which scared the crap out of me. You have to understand I have never had a girlfriend and I don't go out chasing women. I've had a couple flings by "luck" and quite a few girls that wanted me but I was never interested....maybe too picky I guess. I have self confidence issues and I'm trying to be a better person everyday but I've never been in a position like this before. I feel TERRIBLE !!!! I haven't slept right for weeks, can't eat and sleep alot to try and forget about this. It's been 2 weeks and I'm sure that she hates me now but I still feel that as a man; I need to appologize to her and tell her what I was feeling/going through but how do I do that now? I feel like a total loser!!! Please give me some advice people, and don't be too hard on me
elaine567 Posted March 24, 2015 Posted March 24, 2015 I guess she gave you all the signals and nothing happened, so now she is thinking "I have made a total fool of myself" and is avoiding you. Or she was just being friendly and now realises you were interested, so she is now letting you know she is not interested. Or having made her play for you that didn't work, she now has someone else and so she doesn't want to lead you on. I think the first is most likely, so since she came up to you at lunch, then it is up to you to go sit by her and have a chat and see where that takes you. 1
Auspecial Posted March 24, 2015 Posted March 24, 2015 Hi there, so a new girl started at my work a couple months ago. We are on different shifts but we seen each other around the odd time and I noticed her noticing me ( she would lock eyes with me), I began to realize she was flirting with me so whenever I seen her I would smile but I never introduced myself as I felt awkward doing it in front of all the men around. So this went on for a while until the day she finally came and sat beside me. I began to talk to everyone at the table including her (not directly, I was working my way up to that) when my buddy ( who knows I like her) walks up from behind and says " hey, have you made a new friend" which totally put me on the spot ( Im a shy guy), well I'm not sure what she heard but she turned around and looked at him and then me. When she looked at me she locked eyes and gave me this little sigh with the warmest smile.....my heart was pounding out of my chest, I could feel her soul ( I've never felt this before in my life) I completely froze and couldn't say a word, I felt like a total shmuck. So I would see her in the parking lot in the mornings when I was leaving and she was coming in. So, I started parking closer to where she walked by to give me the best chance at approaching her. So sure enough she walked by and would look at me in my truck as if to say "I'm here, come ask me out" and I kept freezing and saying to myself " I'll talk to her tomorrow" like an idiot. So after a week she stopped looking my way and I figured yep, I blew it. I ended up seeing her in the lunchroom the next week and she acted like I wasn't there and when I looked at her she darted her eyes away with a fearful look. I was mortified, I didn't even realize I had made her feel uncomfortable ( creeped her out). So after that I started parking in my regular spot and began avoiding her because I didn't want her to be scared of me. I feel like such a fool and a coward for probably losing what could've been the best thing that ever happened to me. The thing is, she fits everything I look for in a girl so much to a tee; it completely freaked me out, like she was my angel sent from heaven.... My soulmate and she was crushing on me too which scared the crap out of me. You have to understand I have never had a girlfriend and I don't go out chasing women. I've had a couple flings by "luck" and quite a few girls that wanted me but I was never interested....maybe too picky I guess. I have self confidence issues and I'm trying to be a better person everyday but I've never been in a position like this before. I feel TERRIBLE !!!! I haven't slept right for weeks, can't eat and sleep alot to try and forget about this. It's been 2 weeks and I'm sure that she hates me now but I still feel that as a man; I need to appologize to her and tell her what I was feeling/going through but how do I do that now? I feel like a total loser!!! Please give me some advice people, and don't be too hard on me Whoa, slow down! With all. *No Sudden Moves* It seems like your thoughts are racing. All is not lost.
Author Daveyboy77 Posted March 24, 2015 Author Posted March 24, 2015 I guess she gave you all the signals and nothing happened, so now she is thinking "I have made a total fool of myself" and is avoiding you. Or she was just being friendly and now realises you were interested, so she is now letting you know she is not interested. Or having made her play for you that didn't work, she now has someone else and so she doesn't want to lead you on. I think the first is most likely, so since she came up to you at lunch, then it is up to you to go sit by her and have a chat and see where that takes you. Thanks for your reply Elaine, I'm 100% sure she was clearly flirting with me, I have good intuition and I have no doubt. I was a fool to keep thinking I had another day to talk to her. She walked by my truck like 4 days in a row totally staring at me, while everyday her hair was done different. Also, I wear a camouflage hunting hat and one day she showed up with a camo hat on ( which I thought she looked so hot in) lol. I honestly can't believe my actions, I'm so filled with regret. I can't believe I just kept letting her walk away without talking to her.......I'm such an idiot!!! If I don't run into her before she transfers, I'll never forgive myself and I'll always wonder what could've been. Ugh, it sucks living life with regret. I guess now I just don't know how she's going to react if I approach her now. I mean, by me not going after what she knew I wanted; was that a deal breaker for her? Does she want me to chase her? Or does she just want me to leave her alone? I'm scared she might just say "leave me alone" !!! I don't know if I should start by apologizing or just feel her out as I go. I know the hardest thing for a man to do is to appologize, so will she lose all respect for me if I go that route or give me a chance.....ugh, I'm so confused
Author Daveyboy77 Posted March 24, 2015 Author Posted March 24, 2015 Not a woman though from what you wrote ask her out. Thanks for your advice Road
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