MapleWish Posted March 24, 2015 Posted March 24, 2015 When an ex calls and our feelings kinda flood back to us and we think "dam, i thought i was over them", does it necessarily mean we miss our ex or maybe just the memory. this question came to mind when i was talking to my guy friend nick, he was telling me how almost all people hit a point where they get over a significant person in their life, generally from a relationship, and then said significant person will out of the blue call or text and then aalll those feelings the other person had just come back like an atomic blast. i was trying to make sense of it, yea i've had that happen too and it happened with nick. but when it does, do we really miss our EX or just the memories? and i'm not speaking in terms of me honestly, i've got nothing to hang onto when it comes to my exes, i only have a few. i'm never getting back with them and nick isnt going back to his. when nick did experience this feeling it was last year and by that time he and his ex were over for maybe 2 years. after 2 years i'd be over my ex but if they call and butterflies flap again, what does that really mean? even if we know that ex is NEVER coming back, obviously nick's isnt cause she's now married and has a kid. so even when we tell ourselves we're over the person and truly believe we are and know theyre never coming back or even it wouldnt be a good idea to ever date them again, why do those feelings come back when they initiate communication after awhile?
SincereOnlineGuy Posted March 24, 2015 Posted March 24, 2015 People could figure this out on their own IF ONLY they would think to separate the individual (with whom they broke-up in the first place) ... ...from their own emotional investment in that individual. (which is ALWAYS something of value)
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