39YrsYoung Posted March 24, 2015 Posted March 24, 2015 So... I've met this woman from work. She's an independent contractor, and I work for the company that contracts her. I've noticed her since day one, but over the last 3-4 weeks I've grown very attracted to her. I know it's not lust, as I rarely fantasize about sexual encounters with her, and from the butterflies I have in my stomach along with the fluttering heart. I feel light-footed and vulnerable at the same time when I'm around her. There's this feeling of being blanketed by a soft sheet on a warm summer day. You know, the cool, soothing feeling your body initially feels before the sheet completely blankets itself to fit the rest of your body? That's the best way to describe the emotions I feel when we interact. I've let it be known that I am interested. I've commented/complimented her, I'm blatant with my flirting, and I know I've done enough to show I'm into her. Chemistry is there. I can feel it, and our conversation/banters don't seem to ever miss a beat. So here's where it gets a little tricky... She's older than I am. I don't exactly know how much older. I haven't asked and she hasn't revealed it. But I honestly don't care, as I truly believe we both have enough years under our belts that age should not matter. I also believe that, we as people, tend to put too many restrictions on life and love, making it more complicated than they already are. Now... our smiles, our laughs, the playfulness we have towards each other are, from what I can tell, genuine. She has 2 daughters, ages 26 and 23. And I'm assuming she's divorced from the photos she's shown me of her daughters, and "their father". No mention of a boyfriend when I give off obvious tells that I'm into her. She always responds to my texts. She uses emoticons, and "!!", regularly, but didn't respond when I mentioned we should hang out sometime. I noticed the delay, quickly text her good night, which she responded to. Is she interested and just cautious, or is she just being nice?
fitnessfan365 Posted March 24, 2015 Posted March 24, 2015 The thing you have to realize about older women is that they are attracted to directness. They're at a point in their life where they don't like to beat around the bush. Since I'm direct, that's why I always dated older women in the past. All this BS texting back and forth and suggesting a possible "hang out" sometime is not treating her like a woman you're genuinely attracted to. It's making her feel like a possible friends with benefits. So treat her like a lady, and properly ask her out. Now usually I'd say do it in person. But with this being a work situation, call her on the phone. Just be honest and direct with her.
Author 39YrsYoung Posted March 24, 2015 Author Posted March 24, 2015 The thing you have to realize about older women is that they are attracted to directness. They're at a point in their life where they don't like to beat around the bush. Since I'm direct, that's why I always dated older women in the past. All this BS texting back and forth and suggesting a possible "hang out" sometime is not treating her like a woman you're genuinely attracted to. It's making her feel like a possible friends with benefits. So treat her like a lady, and properly ask her out. Now usually I'd say do it in person. But with this being a work situation, call her on the phone. Just be honest and direct with her. This makes a lot of sense. Noted and thanks.
Gary S Posted March 24, 2015 Posted March 24, 2015 Fitness fan is right, you should have been more direct. I would have called her on the phone, had some small talk, and then asked her to go to dinner with me. They like a man with a complete date plan, it's romantic, they don't like to make all the decisions.
mortensorchid Posted March 24, 2015 Posted March 24, 2015 Yes, if you like her, then ask her directly if she would like to hang out sometime. She may not know that you are feeling anything other than just being friendly towards her. Otherwise she will never know that you think of her otherwise. Communication is key to everything and anything isn't it? 1
fitnessfan365 Posted March 24, 2015 Posted March 24, 2015 Yes, if you like her, then ask her directly if she would like to hang out sometime. She may not know that you are feeling anything other than just being friendly towards her. Otherwise she will never know that you think of her otherwise. Communication is key to everything and anything isn't it? A very smart woman. Plus, I have to say that your fantastic hourglass hips and ass even jump out in that tiny picture. Very effective marketing on your part morten. The pose reminds me of a pin up style picture. Love that era.
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