GoldenGirl2015 Posted March 23, 2015 Posted March 23, 2015 I'm seeing a 35 year old guy and I just wanted to know why older guys like younger girls? I didn't know how old he was when I first met him, and didn't have a problem when I asked the next day and he told me his age. His past two relationships which is his kids mom's are around his age. He said that one is giving him a hard time to see his kids because she's so concerned with who he's seeing which I think is very immature of her. He recently told me he love me and has strong feelings for me. Also it seems to be common for older guys dating young girls now. FYI I'm not with him for ANYTHING because he's not even stable in his life right now, but I am.
fitnessfan365 Posted March 23, 2015 Posted March 23, 2015 (edited) I've dated on both ends of the spectrum with older women (10 plus years older), and women in the 23-27 range (I'm 34, but look like I'm 26.. Haha). But in the end, it didn't really have anything to do with their ages, but who they were as people. Edited March 23, 2015 by fitnessfan365 1
ascendotum Posted March 23, 2015 Posted March 23, 2015 Why? just generally speaking..their more effervescent personality, more fun loving happy go lucky nature, less emotional baggage and less deal breaker/redflag lists/check off lists, they tend to be sexier with that youthful glow and have tighter bodies, they tend to not have a marriage/baby/security looming deadline. It makes the older person (male or female in a young/old relationship) feel more youthful and energized in life. Guys were very attracted to 20 yr olds when they were 20 and its not something they had to train themselves for. Its not like their mind re-wires every decade to find older and older women sexier. After coming off a nasty divorce this guy will just want an easy going, no drama, fun loving relationship to get his spirits back 2
SawtoothMars Posted March 23, 2015 Posted March 23, 2015 I'm seeing a 35 year old guy and I just wanted to know why older guys like younger girls? I didn't know how old he was when I first met him, and didn't have a problem when I asked the next day and he told me his age. His past two relationships which is his kids mom's are around his age. He said that one is giving him a hard time to see his kids because she's so concerned with who he's seeing which I think is very immature of her. He recently told me he love me and has strong feelings for me. Also it seems to be common for older guys dating young girls now. FYI I'm not with him for ANYTHING because he's not even stable in his life right now, but I am. Because women mature faster, and our culture is a bit youth obsessed. Personally... I dated a bit younger because the women my age are a poor culture fit. I'm 35 and most women my age are not into tech, never liked comics, hate video games... ect. Women about 5 years below me seem to have drastically different attitudes towards these things. 1
preraph Posted March 23, 2015 Posted March 23, 2015 Mostly because they're the most attractive, and then some guys like them because they're still naive and unsuspecting and are more easily deceived. They can get away with more because girls of a certain age always think guys are going to "love" them forever.
Author GoldenGirl2015 Posted March 23, 2015 Author Posted March 23, 2015 How old are you? I'm 24 , so he;s 11 years older than me
elaine567 Posted March 23, 2015 Posted March 23, 2015 I'm seeing a 35 year old guy and I just wanted to know why older guys like younger girls? I didn't know how old he was when I first met him, and didn't have a problem when I asked the next day and he told me his age. His past two relationships which is his kids mom's are around his age. He said that one is giving him a hard time to see his kids because she's so concerned with who he's seeing which I think is very immature of her. He recently told me he love me and has strong feelings for me. Also it seems to be common for older guys dating young girls now. FYI I'm not with him for ANYTHING because he's not even stable in his life right now, but I am. Watch out, that is a load of baggage he is carrying there. How long ago did he split up with his kid's moms? 1
loveweary11 Posted March 23, 2015 Posted March 23, 2015 (edited) As a guy who has married and dated younger women exclusively, I can tell you exactly what i like about them.... some generalizations... but.... More open minded Have more energy Joke around more Usually more fit More willing to do things on a whim Can help you not dress like an old man Introduce you to new culture/music Not bitter/jaded An innocence and point in life that's very refreshing They have dreams They want to try new things I could probably go on, but these are the basic ones. These qualities more closely align with my own than those stuck in ruts, not living, out of shape and with kids I'm seeing a 35 year old guy and I just wanted to know why older guys like younger girls? I didn't know how old he was when I first met him, and didn't have a problem when I asked the next day and he told me his age. His past two relationships which is his kids mom's are around his age. He said that one is giving him a hard time to see his kids because she's so concerned with who he's seeing which I think is very immature of her. He recently told me he love me and has strong feelings for me. Also it seems to be common for older guys dating young girls now. FYI I'm not with him for ANYTHING because he's not even stable in his life right now, but I am. Edited March 23, 2015 by loveweary11
melodymatters Posted March 24, 2015 Posted March 24, 2015 If you are asking why SOME men prefer younger women specifically, you got many answers above. Being a cartwheeling, tech savvy ninja chick married to a man 24 yrs younger those are not MY experiences, but whatever BIGGER question is what makes HIM special to you, as the two moms, with two separate kids and being " barely stable" himself hardly makes him seem like a prize to anyone at any age. 2
Larry56 Posted March 24, 2015 Posted March 24, 2015 Both have good and bad points Younger women: Better looking Thinner More energy Dress up more We like showing them off more (yeah get over it we're shallow just like you). The Bad narcissists vain young and dumb uncultured (well they think they are because they've traveled to Africa on daddy's paycheck) expect you to be rich and to have a high status job Try to be like Men Feminist Older Women The Good The Sex is better (they know how to service younger guys and make guys feel like Men) They are more worldly Happy to pay for dates Have more control over their emotions Usually more interested in people's lives Not as superficial The Bad Sometimes Bitter (or a bit jaded about relationships) Like regular schedules (depends on the guy if this is bad) Usually work a lot more Kids Divorced Not terribly interested in having more kids or getting married (depends on the guy if this is bad). Generally speaking I like older women more because they are better at conversation and they rock in the sack. Younger women are self-obsessed and annoying. Instant gratification is their end goal. 1
stillafool Posted March 24, 2015 Posted March 24, 2015 Geesh Larry, no one was asking about older women. This thread is about older men and younger women.
Larry56 Posted March 24, 2015 Posted March 24, 2015 Geesh Larry, no one was asking about older women. This thread is about older men and younger women. I'm allowed to do what I want. I know my rights. 2
blackcat777 Posted March 24, 2015 Posted March 24, 2015 I appreciated Larry's post because it was a nice reminder that not automatically everyone becomes miserable and stuck in a rut as they age. It's important for EVERYONE, men and women, to never let life beat the love and vitality out of them. 2
Anela Posted March 24, 2015 Posted March 24, 2015 As a guy who has married and dated younger women exclusively, I can tell you exactly what i like about them.... some generalizations... but.... More open minded Have more energy Joke around more Usually more fit More willing to do things on a whim Can help you not dress like an old man Introduce you to new culture/music Not bitter/jaded An innocence and point in life that's very refreshing They have dreams They want to try new things I could probably go on, but these are the basic ones. Plenty of women my age (late thirties) can be this way. Do you know what has left me jaded? Men my age wanting to date younger women. That is what makes me feel old. They don't care who I am as a person, or that I like to do things on a whim, like to try new things, and so on. There are women here who are over 40 and in wonderful shape.
Woggle Posted March 24, 2015 Posted March 24, 2015 Some people just prefer younger people. As long as everybody is consenting adults it is their business.
loveweary11 Posted March 24, 2015 Posted March 24, 2015 (edited) Plenty of women my age (late thirties) can be this way. Do you know what has left me jaded? Men my age wanting to date younger women. That is what makes me feel old. They don't care who I am as a person, or that I like to do things on a whim, like to try new things, and so on. There are women here who are over 40 and in wonderful shape. As mentioned in my post, those are generalizations and answers to the op's question. I'd love to meet any of these women you claim to be or know on here. I'd prefer it. Truth is... where are you all? You're not in OLD replying to me. You're not in real life showing signs of interest. Girls 10 and even 15-17 years younger than you are out there contacting me on a regular basis, flirting with me at stores, flashing smiles and tossing hair and are texting me to this moment tonight. Where are you all? I'd be down to give it a try, but your juniors beat you to the punch every time. When I occasionally find an older girl that seems cool online, no response. While at the same time, 3 or 4 20 somethings are quite interested and get right back to me. These are my personal experiences. Edited March 24, 2015 by loveweary11 1
Fhsjkfjrhsdh3646 Posted March 24, 2015 Posted March 24, 2015 Why? just generally speaking..their more effervescent personality, more fun loving happy go lucky nature, less emotional baggage and less deal breaker/redflag lists/check off lists, they tend to be sexier with that youthful glow and have tighter bodies, they tend to not have a marriage/baby/security looming deadline. It makes the older person (male or female in a young/old relationship) feel more youthful and energized in life. Guys were very attracted to 20 yr olds when they were 20 and its not something they had to train themselves for. Its not like their mind re-wires every decade to find older and older women sexier. After coming off a nasty divorce this guy will just want an easy going, no drama, fun loving relationship to get his spirits back Couldn't have said it better
Anela Posted March 24, 2015 Posted March 24, 2015 Going by your other thread, maybe he thinks that he can take advantage of you. That you won't expect him to treat you so well, when a woman his own age most likely wouldn't put up with being ignored. It doesn't take long to send a text, when he's away.
salparadise Posted March 24, 2015 Posted March 24, 2015 ...more effervescent personality, more fun loving happy go lucky nature, less emotional baggage and less deal breaker/redflag lists/check off lists, they tend to be sexier with that youthful glow and have tighter bodies... Guys were very attracted to 20 yr olds when they were 20 and its not something they had to train themselves for. Its not like their mind re-wires every decade to find older and older women sexier. Men are attracted to fertile young things because, well, because they're fertile young things... how they rationalize it isn't so relevant.
GorillaTheater Posted March 24, 2015 Posted March 24, 2015 Men are attracted to fertile young things because, well, because they're fertile young things... how they rationalize it isn't so relevant. But you hit a point in your life where fertility is more horrifying than sexy. 1
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