nonickname Posted April 12, 2005 Posted April 12, 2005 I´ve been doing NC w/ her since the late last month, in may is her bday. Should I just send her a quick message saying happy bday? or should I ignore it and continue NC?
laRubiaBonita Posted April 12, 2005 Posted April 12, 2005 she is your ex, send nothing, continue No Contact.
greenhorn Posted April 12, 2005 Posted April 12, 2005 Originally posted by nonickname I´ve been doing NC w/ her since the late last month, in may is her bday. Should I just send her a quick message saying happy bday? or should I ignore it and continue NC? Well if you message her then trust me you will have to repent and this will be harder to bear that what you are going right now. For God sake No contact is NO CONTACT it does not have fine prints saying "excluded on B'days, aniversaries or the days when you wish to message" A quick message and long message are both quick message, don't try to become pathetic in front of her, uphold your dignity Good Luck,
EC Posted April 12, 2005 Posted April 12, 2005 She is an ex! And you are doing NC. DOesn't matter if its her b-day, her moms, her dogs, who cares? If you send a message you know your going to start wondering if she'll write back, if she got it, what did she think when she got it....you'll drive yourself nuts!! I suggest you don't do it and continue NC. Be strong!!!
Pocky Posted April 12, 2005 Posted April 12, 2005 If you send her a birthday wish and she doesn't respond, how will that affect you? If you send her a birthday wish and she responds, how will that affect you? If you send her a birthday wish and she responds and tells you how wonderful her life is, how will that affect you? If you send her a birthday wish and she responds and tells you how awful her life is, how will that affect you? After considering those questions, decide whether or not you should send her a birthday wish.
rastafari Posted May 26, 2005 Posted May 26, 2005 dont do it. how are you going to feel when she doesnt contact when its your birthday and you contacted her on her last? your going to be pissed, right? might as well be the first to show that you dont care, thats how i see it.
Jadey Posted May 26, 2005 Posted May 26, 2005 Well i disagree.. I think its ok. I am planning on sending my ex a message saying Happy Birthday. It just all depends what you want from her, why youre doing it etc..
greenhorn Posted May 26, 2005 Posted May 26, 2005 Man this is an old post, her birthday would have been over by now, what was to be done would have been done, so let it be that. But again, with your ex there should be no birthday, no aniversary and not even flower to the graves. This is called commitment to NC
faux Posted May 26, 2005 Posted May 26, 2005 Don't send your ex little cards or messages, or phone your ex with little happy birthday comments and such. I don't think it is going to be helpful at all. I know it's difficult to realize that the ex really doesn't want to have you involved in her life, when you used to be so involved. I have never had a good experience with phoning a happy birthday wish, or a holiday wish, or sending cards to an ex. If you still know what she is up to when she dies, you can give her a get well card at her funeral. I wouldn't do anything before then, though.
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