xobeautyxoo1 Posted March 23, 2015 Posted March 23, 2015 Today at school, I ate lunch with my guy friend that I knew since 7th grade. He still has feelings for me and I kepy rejecting him in high school. He has been begging me to be his boyfriend for years. Today was the only day I could hang out with him at his house today and lose my virginity to him. I am just confused and litterly crying right now. I feel like a failure and ashamed of myself! He is always the one to make the first move but I should of asked him to hang out. He wants me but I have a feeling he is the one because we have the saame intrests. We are both 19. I keep rejecting the guy that might be the one for me but I can't help it because I get nervous. Did I do the wrong thing?
pteromom Posted March 23, 2015 Posted March 23, 2015 I'm confused... you said NO to losing your virginity to him today? If that's the case, then you did the right thing. How about this... tell him that you may have feelings for him, but that you need to move slowly, and date, and get to know each other in a romantic way instead of just friends? That you aren't ready for sex yet. See what he says. If he really has deep feelings for you, he will be all over that. He'll be willing to wait for a bit while you both see if you can build a relationship or not. If he just keeps pushing for sex, then that doesn't mean anything about his feelings for you. That just means he is horny. 1
preraph Posted March 23, 2015 Posted March 23, 2015 Here's what I think. I think you're starting to be of an age where you want to find a boyfriend and are starting to have those kind of romantic feelings but that he is not the guy or you wouldn't feel so torn up about this. You wouldn't be so confused. You have to be careful with him, because if he's hung in there this long, he may be impossible to get rid of in case you want to. You are too young to want to get married and get yourself trapped like that and with kids, so I think you need to just date around a little and see who all is out there and see some of the world and get out of your little world where he seems to be the only choice. Once you start feeling comfortable about wanting to have sex, then you need to get on contraception so it will be safe. Don't you think if you weren't attracted to him before after all this time, that you're really not now? If you're that nervous, he's either not the guy, which is what you've always thought before now, or you're just not ready for sex. Why not date around and kiss a few guys and then once you see how you feel about that, maybe circle around and kiss him and see how that goes.
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