BobbyS95 Posted March 23, 2015 Posted March 23, 2015 I’ve been talking to this girl since August, but not much has happened between us since I didn’t make any major moves. Anyway, we’ve continued to talk these past 7 months, and last night when we were talking I went on Facebook and saw she’s in a relationship with some random guy. I confronted her about it, and asked when she was planning on telling me about it. She could tell I was upset, so today she texted me and said she was sorry for not telling me, and she liked me two years ago when we were in highschool, but we never talked so that’s why she ended up dating another guy back then. Then she said that in August she was so happy she had a reason to message me, because she still really liked me then, but things didn’t really go anywhere after we started talking. Then after the “fight” we had a few months ago she thought we were done with liking each other, but she liked me being in her life so she kept talking to me. Then she told me that out of the blue on of the guys from her old highschool messaged her, and next thing she knew he asked her out again. She admitted she probably should of said no, and apologized to me. I messaged back and told her I liked her back in highschool, and I was insanely happy when she messaged me in the summer. I told her I tried to take things slow since I had messed things up with another girl by going too fast, and I apologized for being shy and thinking she wasn’t interested (because those are why I didn’t make any moves). I said I thought she still liked me as more than a friend after our “fight” when she kept talking to me. Then I told her that I still do like her, but it just really bothers me seeing her with someone else, and I wasn’t sure where she wanted to take things from here. She responded saying she was confused when this guy messaged her because they hadn’t talked in a while because he screwed her over a couple times when they were in highschool. And she said she figured I liked her back when we were in highschool. Then she said (which confuses me): “I’m sorry. I really am. I liked you a lot, and then I don’t know. I’m just so sorry.” But then she said that its up to me if we stopped talking. She would hate it if we did, but she doesn’t want me to hate her or be miserable either. So my question is, what should I do? A relationship seems completely out of the question because now she is dating who I assume is an ex, and somehow within the past few months something happened where she lost all interest in me. So it appears my only options are: 1. Continue to talk to her like I’ve been doing, but it can’t be for the goal of dating her, since that will never happen. 2. Stop talking to her completely I honestly don’t know what to do at this point. I really do enjoy talking to her, but I only talked to her because I liked her, but I’m not allowed to like to her anymore. I also think if I did continue to talk to her, I would keep giving myself false hope that a relationship is still possible. And please, no comments about how much I f*cked up, I realize that and I don’t think I’ve ever been this upset/regretted something so much before. All I want to know is if you think I should still try and remain friends with this girl.
d0nnivain Posted March 23, 2015 Posted March 23, 2015 You didn't F up. You just moved very slowly. Since you are both young, you mentioned HS was 2 years ago, I think I'd keep her on FB or your favorite social media site but don't bother with her so much. Let her know you're fading out because she has a BF but that if things change she should look you up. If in a few months she reaches out, if you don't have a different GF, take her on date. 2
pteromom Posted March 23, 2015 Posted March 23, 2015 I really do enjoy talking to her, but I only talked to her because I liked her, but I’m not allowed to like to her anymore. I also think if I did continue to talk to her, I would keep giving myself false hope that a relationship is still possible. Only you know whether the enjoyment of talking with her is greater or less than the pain of the false hope and disappointment. 1
Author BobbyS95 Posted March 27, 2015 Author Posted March 27, 2015 You didn't F up. You just moved very slowly. Since you are both young, you mentioned HS was 2 years ago, I think I'd keep her on FB or your favorite social media site but don't bother with her so much. Let her know you're fading out because she has a BF but that if things change she should look you up. If in a few months she reaches out, if you don't have a different GF, take her on date. But would a relationship even be possible in the future? From her messages she basically says she was crazy about me at first, but then "I don't know" (which I think is her kindly saying I don't like you anymore)
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