Potz4prez Posted March 23, 2015 Posted March 23, 2015 So, had a great second date... held hands a bit... probably surprised her with a little kiss, but she responded positively. Asked her out again, she said this week was too busy for her (it was), and I told her to get back to me when she wasn't so busy. This was a week ago. Haven't heard anything. I would reach out, but pride tells me otherwise. What would you do?
d0nnivain Posted March 23, 2015 Posted March 23, 2015 We regret more in life the things we don't do, so I would probably pick up the phone even though it's more likely than not that she's not into you. 4
Redhead14 Posted March 23, 2015 Posted March 23, 2015 So, had a great second date... held hands a bit... probably surprised her with a little kiss, but she responded positively. Asked her out again, she said this week was too busy for her (it was), and I told her to get back to me when she wasn't so busy. This was a week ago. Haven't heard anything. I would reach out, but pride tells me otherwise. What would you do? She told this WEEK was too busy for her. Why are you asking this question because a week has gone by? Pride isn't holding you back, the thought that you may get a negative response or outcome is. If you really like her, reach out casually. "I hope things have calmed down after your busy week. Would you like to schedule something for this coming week? And, let her respond. If she doesn't offer a day she's available, she simply isn't making you a priority. Then, you move on. 4
Frank2thepoint Posted March 23, 2015 Posted March 23, 2015 I'm with d0nnivain on this one. Whenever the other person says the ominous words "I'm busy", without offering an alternative time and date, it simply means they are not interested. You can call her (not text) -- and leave a message if she doesn't answer -- to ask her out for a third date, and get a definitive answer to your concern. 2
Redhead14 Posted March 23, 2015 Posted March 23, 2015 (edited) She told this WEEK was too busy for her. Why are you asking this question because a week has gone by? Pride isn't holding you back, the thought that you may get a negative response or outcome is. If you really like her, reach out casually. "I hope things have calmed down after your busy week. Would you like to schedule something for this coming week? And, let her respond. If she doesn't offer a day she's available, she simply isn't making you a priority. Then, you move on. And, when she said she was busy that week when you first asked her, why didn't you try to set something up for the following week. If she were really interested, she'd have done that. If she'd said she was so busy for the second week, then I'd assume she wasn't interested enough. And, if a woman says she's too busy at that time, don't leave the ball in her court by telling her to call you. You keep the ball so you can throw it to her again. That's shows your interest level better to her. Edited March 23, 2015 by Redhead14 2
Redhead14 Posted March 23, 2015 Posted March 23, 2015 I'm with d0nnivain on this one. Whenever the other person says the ominous words "I'm busy", without offering an alternative time and date, it simply means they are not interested. You can call her (not text) -- and leave a message if she doesn't answer -- to ask her out for a third date, and get a definitive answer to your concern. Sometimes a woman is clueless about offering an alternative or just not thinking because she's nervous or inexperienced. So, you give it the benefit of the doubt the first time. But, you don't tell her to call you. You call her. Maybe if she's questioning his interest or something, his reaching out to her again, says he's really interested. Why make assumptions right away or at all? 1
Frank2thepoint Posted March 23, 2015 Posted March 23, 2015 Sometimes a woman is clueless about offering an alternative or just not thinking because she's nervous or inexperienced. So, you give it the benefit of the doubt the first time. But, you don't tell her to call you. You call her. Maybe if she's questioning his interest or something, his reaching out to her again, says he's really interested. I understand what you are saying, but if the situation was reversed, would a woman give a man the benefit of the doubt? Probably not. I do agree and recommended to call her for one last time and get a clearer idea of her interest, but if a whole week goes by without her messaging him just to say hi, especially since he did ask her to get back to him, then she's not interested. Why make assumptions right away or at all? Reading women's posts on LS, I noticed that many women make plenty of assumptions, and are not as forgiving as the men since women -- generally speaking -- are not the pursuers. So it's best practice for a man if he can't beat them, join them. 1
fitnessfan365 Posted March 23, 2015 Posted March 23, 2015 If a woman is actually busy, she'll usually be a bit more specific. When a woman throws out an open ended busy, more often than not it can be a test to see if you're persistent. Women love to do this. If I like a girl and she throws out a open ended "busy" objection, I'll be persistent using teasing and reverse psychology. This is a sample interaction I had awhile ago (she preferred texting). Me - When are you free to get together again? Her - I'm really busy this next week Me - An all work and no play girl huh? I might have to re-consider. Her - What do you mean? Me - I'm looking for excitement and you seemed so fun. But if you're too busy... Her - Well I guess I could see you Wed night but can't be out too late Me - OK Cinderella. ;-) I'll see you @ 8:00 wearing that hot dress I like. Her - Haha..Sounds fun! 1
Author Potz4prez Posted March 24, 2015 Author Posted March 24, 2015 She told this WEEK was too busy for her. Why are you asking this question because a week has gone by? Pride isn't holding you back, the thought that you may get a negative response or outcome is. If you really like her, reach out casually. "I hope things have calmed down after your busy week. Would you like to schedule something for this coming week? And, let her respond. If she doesn't offer a day she's available, she simply isn't making you a priority. Then, you move on. Nice insight. And yeah, she isn't that interested it ends up. Well, I'll just add another notch to my fade/disappear tally. Thanks for the talk peoples. You always tell me what I need to hear. I'll let you know if I ever make it past a second/third date
hudson701 Posted March 24, 2015 Posted March 24, 2015 If a woman is actually busy, she'll usually be a bit more specific. When a woman throws out an open ended busy, more often than not it can be a test to see if you're persistent. Women love to do this. If I like a girl and she throws out a open ended "busy" objection, I'll be persistent using teasing and reverse psychology. This is a sample interaction I had awhile ago (she preferred texting). Me - When are you free to get together again? Her - I'm really busy this next week Me - An all work and no play girl huh? I might have to re-consider. Her - What do you mean? Me - I'm looking for excitement and you seemed so fun. But if you're too busy... Her - Well I guess I could see you Wed night but can't be out too late Me - OK Cinderella. ;-) I'll see you @ 8:00 wearing that hot dress I like. Her - Haha..Sounds fun! This gentleman, is how to game a woman. Perfect push-pull technique employed here- let her qualify herself to you. Men, take note!
No_Go Posted March 24, 2015 Posted March 24, 2015 Maybe she's seeing someone else, not sure, not very interested... But it doesn't hurt to give it a try one more time. Ask her out for something specific, if she doesn't go out with you (or offer an alternative date), you know the answer. So, had a great second date... held hands a bit... probably surprised her with a little kiss, but she responded positively. Asked her out again, she said this week was too busy for her (it was), and I told her to get back to me when she wasn't so busy. This was a week ago. Haven't heard anything. I would reach out, but pride tells me otherwise. What would you do?
edgygirl Posted March 24, 2015 Posted March 24, 2015 [ten characters] This gentleman, is how to game a woman. Perfect push-pull technique employed here- let her qualify herself to you. Men, take note!
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