bigfred Posted March 23, 2015 Posted March 23, 2015 Well, we she contacted me after 2 weeks of us breaking up, and we got back together, but she did not change and will not let me in with her family, she had told me that should would but the day never came, I was helping her with her new house she moved in, like in buying her anything she needed to clean and repair and she was very nice and things were looking good.Then one night when i knew she was cleaning the new house late at night i went to her house late at night to visit her and she was very happy i was there, but very shortly she got upset beacouse someone could had seen me, so she started to freak out and i tried to tell her that her family already knows but she said the only way that they would know if i had said something to them. I gave her some money and she went back in being nice, but then started again with the whole someone could had seen me there, her family lives just around the corner. She got very sarcastick and pissed that i just should up and started arguing again, I took back the money and left in my car. When i got home she wouldnt return any of my calls, she finnaly called me a couple of days later and told me that i was crazy and i freaked out and insulted her. at that point she told me that it was over to find some else that she is done with me, i texted her back saying that i have found some one (BS) that it wouldnt be right in me calling or texting her and not to worry that i ws not going to contact her anymore. That was 18 days ago and i havent seen her in 32 days. Im freaking out is she going to call me any more, do i contact her after the 30 days of NC or just wait till she calls like she always does. Please help
ApexTitanium Posted March 23, 2015 Posted March 23, 2015 What's the point? She's not coming back and only used you as financial support. Won't even let you in with her family and is scared someone will notice you are there....there's nothing left with this girl. Find someone who actually wants you around, not scared of having you around. Besides you will just look needy, clingy, and desperate....it'll just validate her reasons to leave you. Don't give her the upper hand.
jus d'orange Posted March 23, 2015 Posted March 23, 2015 Sounds like there's nothing for you in this relationship. Don't wait for a call. Don't call her either. If it helps with a sense of finality, delete and block her number. Then, act as if your life is full without her until you feel that way.
badpenny Posted March 23, 2015 Posted March 23, 2015 ......i texted her back saying that i have found some one (BS) that it wouldnt be right in me calling or texting her and not to worry that i ws not going to contact her anymore. That was 18 days ago and i havent seen her in 32 days. Im freaking out is she going to call me any more, do i contact her after the 30 days of NC or just wait till she calls like she always does. Please help Well, having told her all of the above, it's hardly surprising she hasn't made any attempt to contact you. You blew her off at the knees. You told her in no uncertain terms to not get in touch with you, and that you wouldn't be contacting her. So where's the issue? Job done. You closed the door - and rightly so. It's over, finished, done with. YOU made that abundantly clear. She's only doing as you recommended, so really, 'freaking out' is pointless and just a bit contrary, isn't it....? Be glad and move on! 1
Author bigfred Posted March 23, 2015 Author Posted March 23, 2015 The thing is that her family really likes me alot and i do business with them in a huge scale! maybe i was just in love with her family and not with her and then why do i miss her so much, there was times that she would be at my house and just after sex i would be thinking when is she leaving instead of being with her, im so freaking confused!!! and yes i would give her money like crazy and she would be very happy, and the day i took it back becouse she was being a total 'B" she stopped calling, so she wanted a finalcial supplier and realy not be with me? we were together for 19 months and broke up about 10 times all for the same reason!
Author bigfred Posted March 23, 2015 Author Posted March 23, 2015 So where's the issue? Job done. You closed the door - and rightly so. It's over, finished, done with. YOU made that abundantly clear. She's only doing as you recommended, so really, 'freaking out' is pointless and just a bit contrary, isn't it....? Be glad and move on! Did i really close the door? for some reason i think that she is going to contacat me for finacial support and she will give me what i want which is the sex. but at the sametime i really know she is just for the $$ and in my crazy mind that things could go back to normal. i have blocked her calls and unblock them about 5 times, she is currently unbloked right now, beacouse this weekend comming up she is alone without her kids and she might contact me. Pretty crazy right. should i just cut ties and block her again, i just dont know what to do!!!!
mightycpa Posted March 23, 2015 Posted March 23, 2015 is she going to call me any more, do i contact her after the 30 days of NCor just wait till she calls like she always does.Please help 4. Sure thing, bigfred! 1. No, probably not, unless she needs more money. If she does, don't answer. 2. Definitely not. 3. I wouldn't hold my breath until that call comes in. She's not letting you in with her family, whatever that means. Take it as a statement of intent. She doesn't want you like that. Find someone that will make you happy, not miserable.
Author bigfred Posted March 23, 2015 Author Posted March 23, 2015 4. Sure thing, bigfred! 1. No, probably not, unless she needs more money. If she does, don't answer. 2. Definitely not. 3. I wouldn't hold my breath until that call comes in. She's not letting you in with her family, whatever that means. Take it as a statement of intent. She doesn't want you like that. Find someone that will make you happy, not miserable. Thanks!! 1. Will not pick up- going to block her number right now 2. your right NO WAY JOSE 3. Find someone that has a job!!! 4. and no i dont want to miserrable anymore and she has the power over me if she calls im going right back into the pile of crap all over again.!!
dumbass2 Posted March 23, 2015 Posted March 23, 2015 "i just dont know what to do!!!" Yes, you do and because you don't do what you should, you are coming off very desperate in her eyes. The question you need to ask yourself is, "why am I doing this to myself"? Are you afraid you can't find someone else, because I am 110% certain that there is someone out there that will want you for more than just money. Are you afraid that the family wont do business with you if you two are not together? You were together for about 19 months and you said you broke up about 10 times!!! and for all the same reason and then you say your crazy mind thinks things can go back to normal? Well, that is so far from normal I just don't know where to begin. You need to be away from this girl. You have to see it. This isn't even a maybe with a glimmer of hope. She is not good for you. Tell her to stop contacting you and block her and don't unblock her ever again.
dumbass2 Posted March 23, 2015 Posted March 23, 2015 "and she has the power over me if she calls im going right back into the pile of crap all over again.!" Bull***t! You have the power to not answer her calls. Stop with the "she has the power" crap. She isn't doing anything to you right now that you aren't willing to accept. This is all on you at this point. Keep opening the door and keep getting crapped on if that is what you want. I've been there. Eventually you get pissed and put your foot down and take control back. It just depends on how long you are willing to allow yourself to be treated this way. It's all on you. 1
Author bigfred Posted March 23, 2015 Author Posted March 23, 2015 "i just dont know what to do!!!" Yes, you do and because you don't do what you should, you are coming off very desperate in her eyes. The question you need to ask yourself is, "why am I doing this to myself"? Are you afraid you can't find someone else, because I am 110% certain that there is someone out there that will want you for more than just money. Are you afraid that the family wont do business with you if you two are not together? You were together for about 19 months and you said you broke up about 10 times!!! and for all the same reason and then you say your crazy mind thinks things can go back to normal? Well, that is so far from normal I just don't know where to begin. You need to be away from this girl. You have to see it. This isn't even a maybe with a glimmer of hope. She is not good for you. Tell her to stop contacting you and block her and don't unblock her ever again. i have blocked her!!! and not looking back, our relationship wont jepordize my business with her family, they all warned me before we even got together. i was with her father over the weeknd and we actually struck another deal in the works, so things are good!!! and yes im afraid ill be alone, but better being alone than being with a blood sucking using no caring girl!!!! thanks everyone!!
dumbass2 Posted March 23, 2015 Posted March 23, 2015 i have blocked her!!! and not looking back, our relationship wont jepordize my business with her family, they all warned me before we even got together. i was with her father over the weeknd and we actually struck another deal in the works, so things are good!!! and yes im afraid ill be alone, but better being alone than being with a blood sucking using no caring girl!!!! thanks everyone!! YES!!! that's the attitude. Keep reminding yourself this. We all want to see you move on from this person. You can do so much better! also, when you feel any moment of relapse, remind yourself of all the negative things, especially the breaking up 10 times in 19 months for the same reason. That tells you it would never ever work with this person. Stay strong! 1
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