Toodaloo Posted March 23, 2015 Posted March 23, 2015 Oh dear Lord. After a week of "its soooo cool that you are so honest and honesty is soooo important to me" I met a chap that I have been talking to. Farmer is still my no 1 choice but this guy has wanted to meet for a while now as friends. Profile says he is 6ft2 he is 5ft4... Honesty is important eh? Go for a walk which was nice then he asks if I would like to stop for a quick drink at the pub, he orders makes no moves to go for his wallet when the barman returns with drinks so I grab some money out of my pocket and pay. The grand sum of about £3 for a couple of soft drinks, Gosh I think my bank manager is going to crazy over that one... After he goes on about how he should have paid because I drove over to meet him and spent money on fuel for my car... Its a 10 minute drive... I go further to take the dogs to new places for walks... If he was going to have a problem with me stumping up the cash he should have put his hand in his pocket and taken out his wallet. Its basic body language. Then he starts on - how do I measure up? Did I make a good impression? Am I good looking enough? Do you like me? Oh dear God please just stop! I am not phoning up these men and asking if I am pretty enough or polite enough or whatever. Its tedious. 2
guest569 Posted March 23, 2015 Posted March 23, 2015 Oh phew, I'm not the only one who got stuck with an idiot who wont pay despite suggesting the outing. And ew, interrogating you like that
Author Toodaloo Posted March 23, 2015 Author Posted March 23, 2015 Oh phew, I'm not the only one who got stuck with an idiot who wont pay despite suggesting the outing. And ew, interrogating you like that I am not at all bothered about paying. If it were a big meal I would have gone dutch no problems. I am not at all bothered about half a lemonade. I would feel uncomfortable having a guy I had only just met spending a fortune on me straight away. I am bothered that he went on and on and on and on and on and on... you get my point... about it. I am also happy to compliment, I frequently do, but what I will not do is compliment when its being forced. I compliment on the things I like or that I think are positive or good, not on the things he thinks I should compliment him on.
guest569 Posted March 23, 2015 Posted March 23, 2015 he couldn't spare £3 and then went on about how he should have paid.
Author Toodaloo Posted March 23, 2015 Author Posted March 23, 2015 he couldn't spare £3 and then went on about how he should have paid. Yup... it was boring. I actually wanted to start picking my nose as it was more interesting...
guest569 Posted March 23, 2015 Posted March 23, 2015 These questions were DURING the date? Seems uncomfortable conversation..
GemmaUK Posted March 23, 2015 Posted March 23, 2015 Oh dear!! I think he has a problem with numbers so maybe paying or paying his share would have confused him too much. He certainly isn't very good with measurements.... But...I need to know, did he make a good impression? Was he good looking enough and do you like him???? :
Haydn Posted March 23, 2015 Posted March 23, 2015 Yup... it was boring. I actually wanted to start picking my nose as it was more interesting... Sorry to hear this. Maybe you both should have hit `Directors` A few of those usually loosens up the tongue. (Possibly too much sometimes) Keep at it Toodaloo!
Author Toodaloo Posted March 23, 2015 Author Posted March 23, 2015 My darlings he was fishing for compliments during and after. I have had texts asking about it and also why I am skirting the subject... 1. He is not good looking. He has a few OK features but he is not good looking. 2. I went out with him because he seemed a secure, sensible chap, with his head screwed on... now I find its polar opposite and its gone from a friendly meet up to "oh my god pweeety pweeeese will you date me and marey me and love me forever and ever and ever" I don't know if I can be bothered to keep at it Hyden. I get squwarked at, stood up, weirdos, strange blokes who seem to think that I should faint with dreamy eyes because they happen to have a penis (haven't seen one of those before!), guys who think that the world is doomed and Eeyore has a positive out look... then you get the "I idolise you" and "I can't live with out you even though I have no idea what your surname is" ones... Saw separated guy over the weekend. Its messed me up quite a considerable amount. In 2 weeks time I will be seeing him every week and I just don't know how to be around him anymore. Do I flirt? Do I be friendly? Just ignore his very existence? Last one sounds very tempting... I tell you - blokes are a pain in the whatsits... They didn't have Directors but they did have Swift One... Some how I thought it a bit too "predictive" a name so stuck with lemonade... I am going to go and pick my nose... 1
PegNosePete Posted March 23, 2015 Posted March 23, 2015 Profile says he is 6ft2 he is 5ft4... Should have walked away as soon as you realized he was a liar. "Hello, oh I see you lied about your height, which means I can't believe any other word that you've said either. Goodbye" 2
Gaeta Posted March 23, 2015 Posted March 23, 2015 Isn't online dating fun !!! lol I remember this man asking me within 30 seconds of meeting if he was to my liking before we went ahead with the coffee. Think about it as we must kiss many frogs before meeting prince charming. 1
Confusedcarl Posted March 23, 2015 Posted March 23, 2015 What's wrong with guys now days where that can't pay for a lady's drink? I mean damn, I can understand if it was a full on date and you decide to go halfsies (honestly even then) but something as small as drink should be a simplistic move for any gentleman. I feel sorry for all you ladies landing guys like this.
Author Toodaloo Posted March 23, 2015 Author Posted March 23, 2015 Dunno. We get all sorts though. I am not at all bothered about buying the drinks and would have forgotten about it by now if he didn't spend the next 20 minutes going on about it. If he were that concerned about how it would look he should have got his wallet out ready and done it rather than have a 5 second awkward pause as he just stands and looks at the barman blankly. Any longer and it would have been embarrassing.
Confusedcarl Posted March 23, 2015 Posted March 23, 2015 I guess it's just the way I was raised but a man should definitely buy the drinks in a situation such as that. Sitting there with a blank stare as the bartender was waiting for payment is a tall sign of a "boy" not a "man". I know women want to be equal and all and it was first meeting but what's a few bucks for some drinks as a simple gesture? Going on about it after the fact is just to try and make himself seem gentlemanly. I wouldn't subject yourself to guys like that. Honestly, you could throw a rock and hit a guy with better manners than that.
preraph Posted March 23, 2015 Posted March 23, 2015 Well, since he's asking, I'd be pointing out the one foot difference in his height and how lying is a waste of time on OLD because it never ends well. As for the paying, if he doesn't get to date much, he may really not know when to pay. Maybe he thought there'd be a bill at the end. He is looking for a review. Honestly, I see a possible new vocation here: Go out with men looking for a review and charge them for it.
elaine567 Posted March 23, 2015 Posted March 23, 2015 Honestly, I see a possible new vocation here: Go out with men looking for a review and charge them for it. I've heard worse business start up ideas. 1
fitnessfan365 Posted March 23, 2015 Posted March 23, 2015 Hahahahaha.. So a guy that's 5'4" claimed to be 6'2"? Wow that's not even close. It would be one thing if a guy that was 5"10" claimed to be 6ft. If he's got great posture, the right shoes, etc it's not that much of a stretch. But that's a ten inch difference. He honestly didn't think you'd notice? But insecurity is the constant need for re-assurance is my biggest turn off as well. This is actually why I stopped dating women that were older than me. They'd always be worried I wouldn't find them as attractive in the future and constantly need me to assure them I found them attractive even though we were having sex regularly.
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