Angp53 Posted March 23, 2015 Posted March 23, 2015 Well first let me introduce myself my name is adriana I'm new here. Now to start im a 23 year old mother of a 3 year old my sons father is 24 we been together 3 years going on 4 years in May we been together since I've been pregnant but he didn't want to get married or live together he wanted us to continue education and stuff I guess which we are accomplishing and till about a year ago he says he wants to live together finally but it never happens and I feel like they are excuses. For 3 years it's been a back and forth relationship weekend at his house the rest days I'm in my parents home and I'm tired of it of him not stepping up and I'm tired of the judgment against me and to make things worst his younger brother hates me he thinks of me as a demon who controls his brother but it's not like that at all and unfortunately today there was an incident with my bf youngest brother (9yrs old) and my son (3yrs old) like it was just a kids fight my son hit him so he hit him back scenario but ofcourse my son was more hurt because obviously the oldest is stronger but it doesn't aggrevate me because they are both kids , so my bf didn't like it and feels like his lil bro should know better and told him something so the middle brother (18) got in blaming me saying I sent my bf to say something which I absolutely didn't ! Kids fight the next they are happy but like I said the brother blames me for EVERYTHING so one thing to the next the brothers are arguing and tells my bf I'm just temporary that he shouldn't listen to me and choose me over his brothers? Like i have nothing to do with I didn't send anyone to defend anyone but I get blamed and disrespected , my bf my son and I just came back to my house but he left to work afterwards telling me after work he's going to argue with his bro (18) but I was like listen nobody respects me and takes me as a temporary woman because we been a family without living together or being married and I was like thank to him not making it happen this is what I have to deal with , and I also told my bf that if he don't just move in with me right now into my home to not even go argue to just stay with his family because I'm not alowing this anymore and to make things worst he knows I feel really upset and instead of coming over to be with me and his son he decides to hang out with his friends I told him I'm done I can't deal with this anymore like my heart wants him so bad but my head is saying I gave him too much time to get his things together What are your thought ?????
stupidkittten Posted March 23, 2015 Posted March 23, 2015 You're giving his brothers too much power over your relationship. You also can't really expect him to move in and marry you just because you're ready for it. You could either give him time or just find someone who wants what you want. Are you sure he even wants to get married? My boyfriend and I live together but we don't intend on getting married just because we don't like the idea of it. Don't let what you feel like other people think about your relationship control it though. Besides the marriage thing, how is your relationship? How is his relationship with your kid?
Author Angp53 Posted March 23, 2015 Author Posted March 23, 2015 We have spoken about living together as a first step and I am a very open minded person I've told him if it's something he's not okay with to tell me because I don't want false hopes , we always look for homes but he always makes an problem of it (too small too big too far ect. ) our relationship is great we are friends and lovers the only problem is his family interferes too much and I feel like he alows it his parents always tell us to wait , like me and him make plans we talk to his parents and they will be like no not yet and he changes his mind to cause he doesn't want to go against their will. He's a good father always there when I need him but never when I need him emotionally . I just feel like I was never accepted by his family and that's why he can't move forward with me . We had planed a civil wedding had a date and everything something we both agreed on not me forcing him and when he told his parents his plans they stopped him
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