ZappyZapper Posted March 23, 2015 Posted March 23, 2015 Hello Everybody, I'm looking for some advice to see if I'm going about this situation as best as possible. I'm a 21 year old male. I've been going to this particular bar on Friday and Saturday nights for a few weeks now. I've been hitting it off with the bartender there. Bartenders are tricky, I know. Their jobs are tipped base and you never know if the flirting is just for the job or because the person is actually attracted to you. I'm thinking in my particular situation is option B. My buddy pays the tab most the time, but she never acknowledges him. Shes always up my case. This bar is also a bowling alley. I go there to bowl a lot. The most recent time I went to bowl she came out of the bar and popped up behind me just to say hi and bs for a little bit. I told her that I go to a specific bar on Monday night. She told me that's ironic because shes at bar right beside mine on the same night to do karaoke. Apparently she loves karaoke. She did say this Monday(tomorrow night) she will not be there though. I'm trying to get her number or ask her out by next Monday. I'm not sure how to go about it completely yet. Currently, there is a good chance I see her at the bowling alley/bar on Friday and Saturday while shes working for some more opportunity to build rapport. I'm thinking about stopping by the bar she goes out to on Monday night (3/30) and trying to get her to do some Karaoke with me. Somewhere before or after that I plan on grabbing her number and/or asking her out. To rewind just a hair. I'd like to get this done by the following Monday night because she says she doesn't always go out every Monday, but she definitely knows she will be there next Monday (3/30). Does this seem like a good plan and is there anything you would change or add to increase the success rate? Thank you for reading and all of your input.
d0nnivain Posted March 23, 2015 Posted March 23, 2015 Have you ever been to the bar where she hangs out, as opposed to the one where she works? If not she may feel like you are "stalking" her. However, if she made a point of telling you about the bar that was kind of an invitation to meet her there. You know her; which do you think? Better to just ask for her # at work. In that mode, if she likes you she will let you know. If she doesn't she'll let you down because as a bartender, she is used to having to deal with drunks so she knows how to be blunt when required.
Assada Posted March 23, 2015 Posted March 23, 2015 Show up. Do karaoke wiith her, buy her a drink, something she never had yet. Then take it from there
preraph Posted March 23, 2015 Posted March 23, 2015 I would show up where she said she goes. But stand back and take stock because she might have a man with her or something. Probably not though. She wouldn't have told you that if she minded you knowing. 1
fitnessfan365 Posted March 23, 2015 Posted March 23, 2015 I would show up where she said she goes. But stand back and take stock because she might have a man with her or something. Probably not though. She wouldn't have told you that if she minded you knowing. This is a good plan. Plus, remember that getting a number doesn't mean jack. Spending time with her in person does. So I say show up, and if she's by herself have an impromptu date on the spot. This will show her that you actually listen and pay attention to her. Plus, women find spontaneous dates to be romantic (most of the time. Haha).
preraph Posted March 23, 2015 Posted March 23, 2015 ^ And it also is establishing a history of doing fun things together even if you aren't officially together, and that is how relationships and friendships are made. You could bring another guy with you if you really wanted to.
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