Elle1975 Posted March 22, 2015 Posted March 22, 2015 So it's been a year. Everything is doing great. I am doing great at school, applying for my program next February. I live on a very small income, but guess what, I have my own flat and I like my life. However, I'd like my life better with Vera, my aloe. So I am going to ask for "her" back. Before you tell me "it's just a plant", it's not. I'm a gardener, had her for years, and I decided the fcker is not keeping her. I know he leaves the back door open but he could rightfully call the cops on me, since it'd be trespassing, so that's a no-no. Plan is to leave a note in his mailbox along the line of "X, could you leave my aloe on your front door tonight. I will pick it up tomorrow. Thanks." I don't have his phone number, I could send an email but I don't want any reply, or me looking like I am reaching out. Plan is to avoid any unnecessary "blah blah" because I have zero interest in seeing him. I think I am not leaving any doubts about my intention, but if you have any suggestions on how to proceed, let me know.
BC1980 Posted March 22, 2015 Posted March 22, 2015 I think it's fine to ask for it back in that way. I had something similar happen where I changed my mind about something a year later. It was some pottery I had bought, nothing too expensive, but it was sentimental to me. When I found out he was getting married, I thought, hell no, my pottery is not going to sit in that house unappreciated. Before that, it would have reminded me too much of the relationship because I had bought it for our house at the time. I asked my dad to get it for me because my ex had also volunteered to return my engagement ring. I figured, what the hell, might as well get the pottery. I saw that as my opening to get it. I never had to speak to or see the ex, so it worked out. I think the way you are going about it is fine.
Author Elle1975 Posted March 23, 2015 Author Posted March 23, 2015 I think so too. I could ask his best friend to get it for me but I feel it would be adding unnecessary drama (he offered months ago, offer expired now..) I'm going to wait another month, it's too cold outside right now. I am excited because I'm moving to a new and better flat with lots of natural light at the end of the month. I have two plants currently indoor, they will love it.
dumbass2 Posted March 23, 2015 Posted March 23, 2015 just curious If the plant is so important to you, why wait a year to ask for it back? did he have other things of your when you broke up and did you get those back?
dyna85 Posted March 23, 2015 Posted March 23, 2015 Elle, how do you know he still has the plant? He might have tossed her. I wouldn't do this if I were you. The plant is not worth it.
SycamoreCircle Posted March 23, 2015 Posted March 23, 2015 Well, as a man who prides himself on his green thumb and loves all his babies, I can empathize. However, I do think you should enlist a friend. Buy the person lunch for doing you this favor. You don't have to see the ex, you get the plant, and you don't have to hear about any drama. 1
Zahara Posted March 23, 2015 Posted March 23, 2015 I can't understand something that's been with you for years has much importance that you leave it unattended for a year and in the possession of someone that probably had no care for it.. When I left my ex, I had my bamboo plant for years and I had a friend take it until I found my own place. I was not leaving it with him and I was fearful he wouldn't care for it. My mom grows a lot of aloe vera. Easy to grow. Easy to maintain. And they grow fast. There's no reason you can't start fresh in your new place. 1
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