VedderisBetter Posted March 22, 2015 Posted March 22, 2015 I joined a Social Fun meetup group and I asked the organizer if there are usually people there my age. She said usually not. I saw a girl on the attending list that looks like she's about 35 but she's actually 39. I contacted her and said I was told that there were not many people in the group my age who go but that she looked my age. I told her I'm 28 and she told me hers. She mentioned she's been to one event and most were quite a bit older than her but she had a good time and they were nice. She asked me if I have been to that bar before and I told her I have. She ended with "It should be a fun time. See you there!" Does she seem interested? Also, is ten years too much of an age gap? I do know she has two kids based on her facebook and my guess is she is divorced. I don't know if I want any of my own kids so this may not matter.
alphamale Posted March 22, 2015 Posted March 22, 2015 if she seemed interested then her toungue would have been down you throat, also yes there are many problems with dating a woman a decade older than you. i'll let you find them out
Popsicle Posted March 22, 2015 Posted March 22, 2015 I think you should wait until you see her in person and don't think too much about your internet messages. 1
Hawaii51 Posted March 22, 2015 Posted March 22, 2015 As per Benjamin Franklin: But if you will not take this Counsel, and persist in thinking a Commerce with the Sex inevitable, then I repeat my former Advice, that in all your Amours you should prefer old Women to young ones. You call this a Paradox, and demand my Reasons. They are these: i. Because as they have more Knowledge of the World and their Minds are better stor'd with Observations, their Conversation is more improving and more lastingly agreable. 2. Because when Women cease to be handsome, they study to be good. To maintain their Influence over Men, they supply the Diminution of Beauty by an Augmentation of Utility. They learn to do a 1000 Services small and great, and are the most tender and useful of all Friends when you are sick. Thus they continue amiable. And hence there is hardly such a thing to be found as an old Woman who is not a good Woman. 3. Because there is no hazard of Children, which irregularly produc'd may be attended with much Inconvenience. 4. Because thro' more Experience, they are more prudent and discreet in conducting an Intrigue to prevent Suspicion. The Commerce with them is therefore safer with regard to your Reputation. And with regard to theirs, if the Affair should happen to be known, considerate People might be rather inclin'd to excuse an old Woman who would kindly take care of a young Man, form his Manners by her good Counsels, and prevent his ruining his Health and Fortune among mercenary Prostitutes. 5. Because in every Animal that walks upright, the Deficiency of the Fluids that fill the Muscles appears first in the highest Part: The Face first grows lank and wrinkled; then the Neck; then the Breast and Arms; the lower Parts continuing to the last as plump as ever: So that covering all above with a Basket, and regarding2 only what is below the Girdle, it is impossible of two Women to know an old from a young one. And as in the dark all Cats are grey, the Pleasure of corporal Enjoyment with an old Woman is at least equal, and frequently superior, every Knack being by Practice capable of Improvement. 6. Because the Sin is less. The debauching a Virgin may be her Ruin, and make her for Life unhappy. 7. Because the Compunction is less. The having made a young Girl miserable may give you frequent bitter Reflections; none of which can attend the making an old Woman happy. 8thly and Lastly They are so grateful!! Thus much for my Paradox. But still I advise you to marry directly; being sincerely Your affectionate Friend. 3
fitnessfan365 Posted March 22, 2015 Posted March 22, 2015 I've dated a lot of older women. For awhile, that's who I solely focused on. I even had a fling with a woman 20 years older than me. It was never a "cougar" thing. I just genuinely relate to women that are older because they communicate better, are more direct, and their interests (movies books, music) always match up better with mine. However, the insecurity always comes out in the end. "What if you don't find me as attractive?" "What if you end up wanting kids?",etc.. So I just got fed up with it. 3
preraph Posted March 22, 2015 Posted March 22, 2015 Yeah, don't start making any assumptions or getting ahead of yourself. You don't need to know if she likes you before she even gets to know you! That's what talking is for. So just talk to her and don't expect her to decide if she likes you until you've done that a few times.
Auspecial Posted March 22, 2015 Posted March 22, 2015 if she seemed interested then her toungue would have been down you throat, also yes there are many problems with dating a woman a decade older than you. i'll let you find them out There can be problems with dating 10 years out of age range, both plus and minus for both sexes. There can be problems with dating same age range for both genders. There can be problems with dating + or - 3-5 years for both genders. There can be problems with dating anyone anytime for any reason. ~~~~~ BUT......! Why would anyone expect that a show of interest = the other person shove their tongue down your throat?! Confusado! 1
elaine567 Posted March 22, 2015 Posted March 22, 2015 I joined a Social FUN meetup group Fun being the operative word. Relax.
blackcat777 Posted March 23, 2015 Posted March 23, 2015 As a woman dating a man nearly a decade younger, I have to say it's the best relationship of my life. But I'm into him for him, not because I was seeking the novelty of an age gap. Depending on where you are with kids, family, etc., this may or may not be a dealbreaker. (It's a godsend in my personal situation.) One of the neat things about an age difference is that I love and value my boyfriend's insight SO MUCH, because it's coming from a very different place than mine. Keeps me thinking outside the box. Our interests are similar, and the cultural differences that do arise usually involve me introducing him to sweet 80s movies never before seen. I think he has no idea who Subway Jared is. I have the time of my life when he whisks me away to dubstep shows. It's really like any other relationship, you just have to communicate about where you are and what you want, support each other, all that good stuff. In your personal situation, I'd recommend first getting to the "relationship" part, if that is indeed what you want. If you guys hit it off, barring some differences of biological clocks that can't be reconciled, I say, go for it!
katiegrl Posted March 23, 2015 Posted March 23, 2015 I've dated a lot of older women. For awhile, that's who I solely focused on. I even had a fling with a woman 20 years older than me. It was never a "cougar" thing. I just genuinely relate to women that are older because they communicate better, are more direct, and their interests (movies books, music) always match up better with mine. However, the insecurity always comes out in the end. "What if you don't find me as attractive?" "What if you end up wanting kids?",etc.. So I just got fed up with it. What a shame...and can't say I blame ya. I wish women would learn to keep their stupid ass insecurities and anxiety to themselves! You'd think after a certain age....they would have realized it serves NO purpose othan than turning a man completely off...
fitnessfan365 Posted March 23, 2015 Posted March 23, 2015 What a shame...and can't say I blame ya. I wish women would learn to keep their stupid ass insecurities and anxiety to themselves! You'd think after a certain age....they would have realized it serves NO purpose othan than turning a man completely off... Well it's common sense. If I'm having sex with a woman repeatedly, I am physically attracted to her. So you'd think that would be enough. But it's the constant need for re-assurance that gets tiresome. That's one reason why the woman I've had a few great dates with so far has made an impression. Even though she still has 20-30lbs to lose and falls in the "cute" range (7/10), she has full confidence, self esteem and security in my attraction to her. So of course, this makes her even sexier to me. She loves fitness as much as me and works out just as hard, so in six months her body will match up with her goals. But it's her personality and confidence that makes her a 10 in my eyes.
katiegrl Posted March 23, 2015 Posted March 23, 2015 Well it's common sense. If I'm having sex with a woman repeatedly, I am physically attracted to her. So you'd think that would be enough. But it's the constant need for re-assurance that gets tiresome. That's one reason why the woman I've had a few great dates with so far has made an impression. Even though she still has 20-30lbs to lose and falls in the "cute" range (7/10), she has full confidence, self esteem and security in my attraction to her. So of course, this makes her even sexier to me. She loves fitness as much as me and works out just as hard, so in six months her body will match up with her goals. But it's her personality and confidence that makes her a 10 in my eyes. Sounds like you really like this one ff! You've been talking about her quite a bit lately... I'm happy for ya!
fitnessfan365 Posted March 23, 2015 Posted March 23, 2015 Sounds like you really like this one ff! You've been talking about her quite a bit lately... I'm happy for ya! Haha.. Not gonna lie that she's been on my mind. But the other woman I have a second date with is very intriguing to me. Really charming, dorky, sarcastic, and social. Plus, physically she's a knockout that teaches yoga and she loves to cook. I love my life.
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