regine_phalange Posted March 23, 2015 Posted March 23, 2015 While I can appreciate your point, I don't really understand this innate desire that some people have to erase any evidence of a person's dating past. Who cares if people can see who he dated once by doing some social media searches. I mean, if you think about it, once you hit a certain age, this fiction of a blank or clean slate past is almost perverse. Try on this fiction: imagine meeting a person who is 30 and has never dated anyone before. Ever. Unless they just got out of a coma doesn't that just scream red flags? So why would we try to emulate that by erasing one's romantic past? If past is left in the past it's fine. But those facebook images remain in the present. If your boyfriend/girlfriend had albums on their coffee table kissing their ex, wouldn't you mind? So it IS about everyone else seeing photos of the OP's boyfriend, which means this is about censoring what other adults may see, and that is not OP's or anyone else's place, to demand that of another adult. If this was about children's photos, you'd have a point, but it's not. What you would do is not the issue here. It's not about you or your taste: it's about OP making sure HER facebook account does not allow anything that her boyfriend's ex happens to put up on her page for her friends to see. All OP has to do is take responsibility for herself and block the woman, not hide behind her boyfriend and not do her own heavy lifting. It's just one click and it's done--I don't get why that is so hard to grasp. It's not about what others think, it's the fact that it's there in the open. Asking nicely is not the same as demanding. I don't get this self-service relationship concept at all. He's her boyfriend, not a stranger. By the way even if she blocks the other woman the photos will keep showing on her boyfriend's albums, only the name of the ex won't be clickable, am I wrong? 1
veggirl Posted March 23, 2015 Posted March 23, 2015 How exactly are you seeing these photos "every time" you go on your FB? I don't see ANY old pics my fb friends are tagged in. You need to relax, your request is totally out of line. 1
kendahke Posted March 23, 2015 Posted March 23, 2015 If past is left in the past it's fine. But those facebook images remain in the present. If your boyfriend/girlfriend had albums on their coffee table kissing their ex, wouldn't you mind? Non sequitur. A photo album on the coffee table in his house is not an online public social site with pictures being on someone else's page. My current boyfriend is a widower. Do you think I have a right to tell him to throw away his photo albums which are full of pictures not only of his wife, but she put them together and are on a book shelf in the hallway? I don't--that's his house and I'm not insecure about the fact that he used to be married and she used to exist. It's not about what others think, it's the fact that it's there in the open. But it IS about what others think--because the pictures ARE publicly displayed, out "in the open" to the ex's friends to see and draw conclusions--and those are the people whose viewing you are seeking to limit. Asking nicely is not the same as demanding. I don't get this self-service relationship concept at all. He's her boyfriend, not a stranger. That's because it's not "self service"--it's controlling what is in your sphere of control. He can un-tag himself all day long, but she can go and add that tag back because the pictures are on HER page, not his. Then it becomes a really stupid power game that she will win. Each time someone comments on it, it'll show up over and over again on the news feed. Blocking her effectively removes her presence from your sphere. No, things in the past do not bother me and I don't spend time stressing myself out over any boyfriend's past. For me, I'd laugh at her desperation to get a rise out of me through him. Means I'm winning. People whose views I don't care to see get blocked. Problem solved. By the way even if she blocks the other woman the photos will keep showing on her boyfriend's albums, only the name of the ex won't be clickable, am I wrong? Don't confuse the "unfollow" function with the "blocking" function... two totally different things. No, nothing they post will show up. I've done this with several people. My sister remains friends with one person I've blocked and defriended and even when I go on my sister's page, I do not see anything that person posts because everything that that person posts is blocked when one goes in and blocks them. It even tells you that you will not see anything that person posts when you go to block them.
Smthn_Like_Olivia Posted March 24, 2015 Posted March 24, 2015 I skimmed most of the recent replies but... I don't get people worrying over what is posted on someone's timeline from ages ago. Do people really go through other people's timeline like that?? If it wasn't posted in the last 48hrs, I wouldn't even see it! Lol. Who has time for that?? It seems to me like you were digging through his timeline and is letting his "history" get to you. Your relationship should be about what you share in the real world, not Facebook. 2
losangelena Posted March 24, 2015 Posted March 24, 2015 Using the power of Google I found many more pictures of her. Enjoy +1,000,000! You win the Internet today.
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