youngmandown Posted March 22, 2015 Posted March 22, 2015 (edited) Back in the beginning of January, my girlfriend broke up with me because she said she lost feelings for me. We have been together for 2.5 years. A week later I contacted her and we both told each other we miss us. She was a bit reluctant to give me another try but we kept talking and we both agreed, although she said that she didn't feel the same way about me anymore. As the month went on, i noticed her becoming less and less distant. She doesn't text or call me ever, she's always "busy" doing something. A week ago, i told her how bad it sucks that i barely get to talk to her and we got in an argument with her telling us that we should take a break. I called her back a couple of days later and she said that it was for the best, that she has no urge to be with me anymore and she doesn't know if she loves me. So the following Friday i gave her back all the belongings she left at my house. We talked for a little bit and she just kept saying the same things over again, how she doesn't feel the same way. I told her i wanted her and how amazing she was and I told her never to contact me again unless she wants me because I can't settle for anything less. It was almost the hardest thing I ever had to do. I asked her for a hug and she started crying... I think there are different issues that played a part in our breakup. First of I've put on about 30lbs since we first met, I got comfortable and complacent with her and thought she was my happiness and I didn't have to continue courting her. I don't have a life much of my own. I took the semester off from school and I was just picking her up and dropping her off and hanging out with her on my days. The more she kept pulling away by acting distant the more i pushed and wanted it which led to her wanting out. Interest level died down. I can say this is the best relationship I've ever had with a girl. She was beautiful amazing and the most loyal person I have known. We never cheated on each other and she also told me that there's no one involved that maybe she just doesn't want a relationship and wants to be alone. I know a lot of things can be a factor in our breakup but I can't help but blame myself. Had I realized her interest level was dropping before I could have done something to stop it. Do you think there will be any chance of reconciliation after this? I swore to myself if I was ever presented this opportunity again, i would seize it this time... Edited March 22, 2015 by youngmandown
xinaxxsdertf Posted March 22, 2015 Posted March 22, 2015 Youre already at a huge disadvantage mate. Im not sure you can reconcile but the only way possible is to go complete no contact. You need to vanish from her life and hope she misses you. Anything you do now will just help push her away and smother her. she got bored of you, pluw you need to work on yourself. You cant rely on her to keep you happy, you both need seperate lives in the relationship for it to work. If you just want to be with her all day everyday, and you are always home then she will get sick of you. Go full no contact, and use this time to get back to your friends and spend time with them 2
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