Kailove Posted April 12, 2005 Posted April 12, 2005 I broke up with my s/o because he was cheating on me. I informed the girl he was cheating on me with, and now he calls me a "b" for doing so. He sent both me and the other girl an email, stating that I meant nothing to him, the reason he wasn't spending any time with me was because he did not want to be with me, and to show me how he really felt about the other girl. He was sexually intimate with the both of us, and he was lying to the both of us. Was I wrong for informing the other party?
tanbark813 Posted April 12, 2005 Posted April 12, 2005 Nope. I'm sure she appreciates the additional information.
bubblygrl5 Posted April 12, 2005 Posted April 12, 2005 Hi, I think I mentioned this in another thread - but by bf did the same (it was on a summer vacation tho - not someone that even lives in the same country), but I got ahold of some emails, and spilled the beans. For me, it was more for my own personal satisfaction. The pain of his cheating, and the fact that he cheated is what you are going to have to overcome. She's really goign to be irrelevant in the long - run, I wouldnt even worry about it. Let him deal with THAT mess. Just take care of yourself. B
Mr Spock Posted April 12, 2005 Posted April 12, 2005 Nope. Good for you, for not taking that kind of garbage. It's obvious he knows you won't take him back, so is putting stock in with the other girl. If she buys it, more fool her.
Author Kailove Posted April 29, 2005 Author Posted April 29, 2005 Originally posted by Mr Spock Nope. Good for you, for not taking that kind of garbage. It's obvious he knows you won't take him back, so is putting stock in with the other girl. If she buys it, more fool her. They are still talking, and I don't know what he said to her, but I saw them having lunch together yesterday. Everytime that I see him, he turns and runs in the opposite direction.
Author Kailove Posted April 29, 2005 Author Posted April 29, 2005 Originally posted by beesknees what was her reaction when you told her? She couldn't believe what I was telling her about our relationship, she was shocked. Of course he lied to her and told her that we were not in a relationship. I still have all of the emails, IMs, etc. of all of our (me and ex-S/O) conversations, and let me tell you - these were no kiddie conversations, very sexual in nature. I told her that after hearing all of what I have said, she would make the right decision, she can't even see that he is a big liar. She said she had no choice but to break up with him.
wanting to heal Posted May 1, 2005 Posted May 1, 2005 You have a SO, not a husband. When the significant other is a cheater, then you cannot feel anything but insignificant. Get rid of him. My wife had a one night stand, and it is killing me. See my post "wife in mid life crisis..." Go on, find someone else. Tell them that you want honest and full communication and that you will not tolerate cheating and that you have no desire other than fidelity. That is the only way to live. I used to have that, and now I just hurt a lot. Promises are to be kept. Somehow that just seems to get lost in what "feels good" these days.
beesknees Posted May 1, 2005 Posted May 1, 2005 you deserve much better. what goes around comes around, so he'll get his.
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