Mizz Layta Posted March 22, 2015 Posted March 22, 2015 Hey everyone ,I know I posted threads about a co worker that I have crush on but this situation is with a different co worker who I think likes me but I dont feel the same way This other co worker works in different departments from me . I don't see him often. However, when ever I see him he always smiles and his face lights up. Sometimes he would stop by and have chat asking how I am doing etc. Even when I am sitting down in the lunch room on break time he would come and sit down for a bit to chat. I have been getting a vibe that he is interested but since he hasn't made a move, I decided to not worry about it and just continue being friendly. However, I last time when I was sitting in the lunch room with another co worker he came and sat down our table. He was finishing his shift going home. He started chatting but I didn't really make eye contact with that much. I kept talking to the other co worker I was with. I didn't ignore him but I try to come off as not interested in having a convo with him since I already sense that he is interested so subconsciously I don't want to appear overly friendly and send the wrong the impression Then he asked me if I was working the next day and I said no then he was like maybe I should call you then he pulled out his cell phone. I didn't respond then I got up to get my food in the microwave .He got up and said bye to the other co worker. Then he looked at me again while he was walking away and said again that he wants to call me tomorrow but I didn't respond. Then he left The thing is,I don't give my number out if I am not interested in the guy unless if its about work related etc. I have exchanged numbers with couple male co workers but it was strictly about contacting each other whenever we want to switch shifts etc . They don't contact me just to say hi so I know they are not interested in anything more I like this guy as friend but I don't want to lead the person on and give them the wrong idea. I know he hasn't flat out told me that he likes me but I can tell from his body language .I know he is interested
preraph Posted March 22, 2015 Posted March 22, 2015 He was trying to ask you out, and he was being indiscreet doing it in front of another coworker. Just be only polite to him from now on. He'll probably get pissed off about it. If he's really desperate, he may try to convince himself you're "just shy" or you didn't hear him properly and keep trying, in which case you are going to have to tell him "No, thanks." 1
GemmaUK Posted March 22, 2015 Posted March 22, 2015 He might have got the message but if he talks about calling you again then say there's no need for him to call you on your day off and that he doesn't have a need to have your number (whichever is appropriate during the conversation). As in..appear confused.. It was pretty off that he did that in front of another colleague though. It's a bit like publicly attempting to make out you are together already. 2
Dog Woman Posted March 22, 2015 Posted March 22, 2015 I think if he approaches you again I would be firmly telling him no thanks. I've had a similar situation with a coworker that I would have as a friend but nothing else. I turned down an offer of a drink 6 months ago. Since then, life has been awkward to a point he completely blanked me at a works function on Friday night, despite us chatting through fb only days beforehand. So I decided to confront him and explain again I would have him as a friend but nothing else. It did the trick and now we both know where we stand but we hopefully will still speak to eachother professionally. 1
CC12 Posted March 23, 2015 Posted March 23, 2015 I can't say that your reaction was inappropriate, since you don't owe him anything at all. But damn, I cringed so hard reading that. I think if he asks again, just say no thanks so that there's no ambiguity (he can't tell himself "Maybe she didn't hear me?" or "She was probably embarrassed that I asked her in front of someone else I should try again in private") and also because it's kind to respond to another human being when you've been friendly acquaintances with them and they've done nothing creepy or imposing or threatening.
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