Mjm1014 Posted March 21, 2015 Posted March 21, 2015 (edited) I'll try to keep this short. Dated 3 months..she was super into me from the start but the past two weeks, maybe longer, she's seemed very distant. Even when we hung out last time she just didn't seem herself. Last week I stopped replying to her texts right away and waited an hour or two to text her back and she seemed to regain that interest and even asked to take me on a date this coming week (we are somewhat long distance)...anyways to cut to the chase, she's back to short answers, and not really acting into me like she once did AND she won't make it official yet. I don't want to be strung along but I do like her...Should I be upfront with her and ask what's wrong or see if wants to cool it? Frankly I'm getting bored...she hates talking on the phone so when I'm gone we only resort to texting, and she never opens up, or should I just ignore her and move on? I'll admit I came on too strong from the start because she was blowing up my phone with texts (like 300 a day for the first month, now only a few short answers a day-but she still checks in with me) and we hit it off well on dates...I guess I thought there was a strong connection. Oh well live and learn right haha... Edited March 21, 2015 by Mjm1014
Art_Critic Posted March 21, 2015 Posted March 21, 2015 like 300 a day for the first month You were attracted to that ?... yes.. you don't ask her if she is still into you.. actions.. actions.. actions....
fitnessfan365 Posted March 21, 2015 Posted March 21, 2015 If you change your behavior, you can still salvage it. 1) Don't ask if she's into you. This shows a lack of confidence and insecurity. If she didn't like you at all, she'd want nothing to do with you. 2) Don't bring up a relationship. If she ever says that she wants to take it slow, say "Don't complicate things. Let's just enjoy each other and take it slow." 3) Continue to give her space and be indifferent. Let her reach out to you, and when she does cut to the chase and make plans. Rely on your interaction on dates and just keep planning more of them the more she reaches out.
Author Mjm1014 Posted March 21, 2015 Author Posted March 21, 2015 Thanks both of you. Yeah I agree it's prob not the best idea. I feel like I'm in limbo though...this hasn't gone anywhere yet she's still making plans, but her actions tell me she isn't into me. Anyways I know what to do from here...thanks again.
d0nnivain Posted March 21, 2015 Posted March 21, 2015 First you realize that 300 texts per day is an obsession not like. It's an illness. Who has time in a day to send 300 text messages? I'm annoyed it I get 3. Anyway, lets assume things have simply leveled out & now you can interact at a sane pace.
Assada Posted March 22, 2015 Posted March 22, 2015 I dont understand, so she was blowing up your phone, then you decided to blow her phone up more? You need to not bother her, and concentrate on yourself for a while. She might open up then
Author Mjm1014 Posted March 22, 2015 Author Posted March 22, 2015 Exactly. I mean her and I talked 24/7...she said day one she didn't like talking on the phone so we texted. Since it's somewhat long distance and I can only see her 8-9 days a month max that's all we had at that point-text. After hanging out a month or two maybe more, I asked her if she would come over and meet my parents since they always wondered who she is...she declined saying she wasn't ready for a relationship and it was moving too fast...boom interest level dropped from there on out. I f@ked up major.
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