asdf24 Posted March 21, 2015 Posted March 21, 2015 I remember she would complain that I acted like I never wanted her around.. say I don't care or show her that I love her. I guess I didn't. But she ended up breaking up with me. She was fighting for me with her family. We were going to move out together.. she was choosing me over her college friends and ever talking to her family again. I remember she would say I would just talk about myself and have sex too. Also said I just message her for nudes photos and when she would message me it would be her wanting to knwi I remember her nudging me off a couple times when I would message her. My battery going to run out I'll talk to you later. Would be out of place sometimes when she would say I'll message you later. Like she just wanted to say that. I remember one time I was making some jokes about somwthing that happened to me. She just responded really quickly and eventually just said I'll message you later I'm watching a movie. I don't know if she was being passive aggressive with me Trying to say hey if you act like you don't care I can too. She also said she was with family sometimes and they would see things that popped on her phone. This girl was nuts for me before. Nuts for me. And I know it broke her when she ended things she even called the next day hysterically crying asking if we can still work things out.
Author asdf24 Posted March 21, 2015 Author Posted March 21, 2015 I get the vibe she was just playing the game at that point. But idk forsure. She did end up leaving. But given the circumstances I can unserstand. She was choosing me and I wasn't making that much money over her steady college funds and ever talking to get parents again.
OneBigIdgit Posted March 21, 2015 Posted March 21, 2015 from what I can tell, it does sound like most of the conversations were slanted toward what you wanted. She gave you several notices that she'd like a change. Add in the problems with the family. We are guys. No matter how good we think we are in a relationship, we don't do everything right. All we can do is try to do enough of the major issues right to hope that they overlook some faults in the lesser issues. Your ex said several times you always talked about you. Mine wanted a wedding and us as a couple attending church. Not a lot for either to ask for, but they are both gone. We can only learn from it and not carry the same issues into the next relationship. In your case, you both are young. If you give it a chance, you'll meet someone to love without all of the family drama
Author asdf24 Posted March 21, 2015 Author Posted March 21, 2015 She only mentioned that all I talk about is me once. But she did say I act like I don't want her around. Do you think she would nudge me off to prove a point or something. She is young only 18.
OneBigIdgit Posted March 21, 2015 Posted March 21, 2015 everything they do is to prove a point. By her ending conversations with you when she wanted to watch a movie, sounded to me like she was saying, if all you are going to talk about is you, I'd rather watch the movie. When you add in the family problems, I'd say get over this girl as quickly as possible. Date an adult. The built in drama from her and her family is going to drive you bonkers
Author asdf24 Posted March 21, 2015 Author Posted March 21, 2015 Yeah well its over.. I really got hurt but beginning to move kn. It's really hard not to analyze things though. I don't know if she just lost some interest or what I just said above. What are you gearing towards..
Author asdf24 Posted March 21, 2015 Author Posted March 21, 2015 I remember it wouldn't always be about me I mean in would message her just casually flirting and stuff too. She would nudge me off then too.
OneBigIdgit Posted March 21, 2015 Posted March 21, 2015 at her age, its impossible to know. We are all here to try to figure out what just happened. I'm one of few here that probably knows the exact reason I now have a new ex. There are 3 significant reasons, 2 easily correctable, but there are probably a dozen smaller reasons that a person will pile on to build a good clear case for ending it. In your case, you were in a pretty much losing position because of her age and her family. You could say that she pulled you deeper into this relationship than you normally would have gone but when worst comes to worst, family is going to rule. If I remember your story correctly, she at one point was willing to be kicked out'a the will by the family to be with you. If so, that in itself would be a huge incentive for her to change her mind and go back to the family. Don't keep beating yourself up. You have a new career, still young and there are millions of women about 5-6 yrs older than her and much less drama waiting for you
Author asdf24 Posted March 21, 2015 Author Posted March 21, 2015 Do you believe if she truley loved me she would still be there. I think she just kept getting hurt more and more and couldn't take it anymore.
TunaCat Posted April 14, 2015 Posted April 14, 2015 To be honest, it doesn't sound like she was really into you towards the end. Maybe she was nuts for you at one point, but her feelings for you faded.
Author asdf24 Posted April 14, 2015 Author Posted April 14, 2015 why wo7ld she bitch at me for acting like I didn't care
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