Feeling I could be more attractive want to improve myself for guys and myself

[preraph]

Go to a dermatologist and ask what makeup you can use that you are not sensitive to. Maybe you also need to see an allergy doc and get allergy testing to find out what you are allergic to.

 

You need to look like you care about yourself. That's the bottom line. A bad first impression because you're avoiding makeup says "She doesn't care about herself" or "She's lazy" to someone who doesn't know you. Show that you care enough to present your best self. If you don't think enough of yourself to do that, no one else will either.

 

Since you have a good body, don't show too much of it at once. Don't ever show a lot of boob, but only very little or again it gives the wrong first impression. You can look sexy without showing a lot of everything. If you show a lot of leg, don't show anything else at the same time, for example.

 

To show off your body without looking obvious, wear feminine v-neck or scoop neck blouses that fit at your smallest part, whether that's your waist or under your boobs. Before you do that, go for a professional bra fitting at a good department store, because that can make all the difference in how your clothes look. Then wear fitted clothes that always show off your hourglass figure, because that's what men are looking for. Don't wear masculine clothes or hoodies and sweats out anywhere (or around the house once you get a man) because they look awful. Don't wear clothes that are torn or pants that are too long or too short. Have a tailor hem them if you can't.

 

Just work on presenting the best version of you there is.

[preraph]

Bare Minerals turns me orange and irritates my skin.

[regine_phalange]

I've had minimal highlighting. I am making sure its always washed properly when going outside. I am also thinking of looking at youtube for quick partial updos. I may even straighten it once in a while, although I am quite happy with it wavy. A lot of people do seem to think that the only way to wear your hair is straight. Are there any females on here who have wavy or curly hair and actually quite like it that way?

 

Yes. My hair is not just wavy, it's very curly, frizzy, unpredictable and wild. Most men don't like my hair, but the ones who do, really DO. I had a boyfriend who took a lot of pride in his appearance and looked like a million bucks. Easily one of the most well-dressed people I ever met. And he loved my hair. He loved touching it, playing with it, even sleeping on it because it's like a pillow

 

I'd recommend you that you keep your hair wavy, but I think you need more length. Then maybe you can cut it layered, like this or this or this and define the waves with scrunching product.

Edited April 18, 2015 by regine_phalange

[wb1988]

Wow............

 

I think what I was saying came off wrong once again ;/

 

I wrote it based on the OP saying that she feels self-conscious about her looks to other guys, WHILE having a bf at the time. She was talking about her lipstick, about what her bf likes but completely ignoring it and focusing on other guys.

Edited April 19, 2015 by a LoveShack.org Moderator

[acrosstheuniverse]

One thing I can recommend is joining a beauty forum, local to the country you live in. I am part of one here in the UK, and it's a very supportive place, lots of great advice on brands to use, people post their 'looks' they experiment with and get feedback, when you buy items that are recommended by lots of people it really saves you on wasting money on stuff that isn't great quality, I LOVE makeup so much, and yet of my entire collection I've bought over the years, a large proportion of it is stuff I've bought and hasn't been any good (for example lip glosses that are gloopy and impossible to wear). It's a lot of money to spend if you don't invest it wisely.

 

I'm actually a bit of a tomboy overall, I do wear dresses a lot and heels now and then (I'm 6ft in those though haha) but I do love jeans and t shirts and the occasional hoodie. My philosophy is that if my hair, makeup and nails are good, and I'm in shape, and wearing a nice scent, I'll look good (and I do get attention, looks etc.) in nearly anything. However whatever I wear is always really well fitting, the colours work (no purple top with brown pants combo) and so forth.

 

Regarding your hair, it's long which is nice and you have something to work with there. But it looks pretty lank. I have really fine hair so I keep mine fairly short (just about shoulder length bob, with a fringe... it's almost black so think Uma Thurman pulp fiction), it's more important your hair looks in good condition and is shiny and clean than it being long, I know everyone constantly says guys like long hair most and that may be true but for some of us it just doesn't grow long and thick, ends up looking ratty, so find what works for you. I honestly think a fringe would work on you a lot, so consider that. It would make a huge difference and frame your face better. I know it's naturally wavy but is that because you let it air dry? Mine's a bit wavy air dried but when I blow dry it (which I do daily) it's fairly straight then only takes a minute to finish off with straighteners to look straight. Doesn't have to be every day but experiment with your look.

 

Makeup-wise before going all complicated and stressing yourself out I would work on nailing your daily go-to 'look'. I know some women who look great without makeup but for the vast majority of us, we're vastly improved by just a touch of makeup day to day, more on evenings out. My go-to look when I'm just doing a normal day is a black winged cat-eye with liquid eyeliner, this kinda thing http://2-ps.googleusercontent.com/hk/8pLkIDuFqAIoSORWrE6_B3AfmF/www.eyeshadowlipstick.com/wp-content/uploads/2010/11/400x533xfreckles-red-lips.jpg.pagespeed.ic.LzgSg-OkzO2T-Imq2RQJ.jpg

 

and black pencil on my undereye waterline. Then use black volumising mascara and that's your eyes done. Eyeshadow is awesome to play with but not necessary to look good. Then find the right blusher tone for you, I find a really super bright pink works best on my pale skin if I use it extremely sparingly, remember you can always load up more but it's hard to take away. That's it really, I find with lip products that personally I am always really aware they're on my lips and they just irritate me, they make using your mouth for anything a real chore, and I like to be able to drink water often, kiss my boyfriend when I feel like it, and lipstick or gloss just gets in the way. Lip stains are a good option if you feel similarly. There are a few I don't mind the feel of but it's taken YEARS of experimenting with brands to find them. I have found with a lot of girls who say they don't like wearing makeup it's the lips they don't like because they need touch up and awareness throughout the day and it's such a bore. With eye and face makeup you don't need to think about it all day if you get the right quality brand, although if you have oily skin you should always carry a pressed powder to touch up.

 

Eyebrows make a huge difference too. It's worth getting a brow pencil to experiment with shading your natural brows in. They frame the face and make your eyes look better, just don't fall into the trap of the heavy 'stick on' brow look I see so much of! Brows shouldn't be the first thing you notice when you look at your face.

 

Nails will make a big impact too, although moreso for your own confidence lol cos I've never really met a guy who has given a toss about what their girl wears on her nails. I get professional manicures fortnightly and take care of my pedi at home myself and it totally finishes an outfit off,, maybe I'm rare in noticing but I find when your nails look awesome it really pulls together your look and makes you look polished. Salons will do gel manicures on your own nails which last a few weeks if you're interested in that.

 

Perfume is important too, never underestimate the impact of perfume on a guy's attraction on a date! I use perfume oils from an independent company because the expensive celebrity scents sold in drug stores are often really terribly quality, lasting about two minutes on your skin.

 

On the whole I'd advise joining a beauty forum and see if you can start to develop a love for taking care of yourself and beauty, because if you're into it for yourself you will get great pleasure and joy from it and it won't be a chore just to do it to attract a guy. I guess I'm fairly high maintenance but no moreso than most of my friends, some are even more full-on and go to couture salons and have eyelash extensions but I'm not fussed about that stuff. We are just a relationship forum here, we've established men on the whole will prefer a woman who takes care of herself over a woman who does none of that stuff, anything further I reckon you'd get a lot more good advice and support from a female beauty forum, not to mention inspiration.

[BeautifulInside]

I was dating someone but I wasn't sure if I was that into him (I went on a few dates as it sometimes takes time for chemistry to develop) I let him go to find someone who really loves him he deserves better. I was on here as I knew I might be letting him go to search for the love he deserves if chemistry didn't develop. Sorry should have updated.

[BeautifulInside]

@wb1988 do you really think I am ugly. Maybe you should keep your opinon to yourself. I know a lot of people think I look horrible. I was told that enough through out school I don't need you reiteriating it. I can have surgery to correct my looks you'll always be shallow.

Edited April 19, 2015 by BeautifulInside

[BeautifulInside]

I would love to see a picture of wb1988

[smackie9]

I've had minimal highlighting. I am making sure its always washed properly when going outside. I am also thinking of looking at youtube for quick partial updos. I may even straighten it once in a while, although I am quite happy with it wavy. A lot of people do seem to think that the only way to wear your hair is straight. Are there any females on here who have wavy or curly hair and actually quite like it that way?

 

I wear my hair wavy but my bangs are straight, parted on the side. I have my hair behind my ears and wear glasses like the ones upper right in your example. Went out like that on Friday night and guys were checkin me out everywhere I went

[JuneJulySeptember]

@wb1988 do you really think I am ugly. Maybe you should keep your opinon to yourself. I know a lot of people think I look horrible. I was told that enough through out school I don't need you reiteriating it. I can have surgery to correct my looks you'll always be shallow.

 

You're not ugly. At all.

 

You need to keep things in perspective and be yourself. I don't know how old you are but most of the women I know are married with children and don't wear much if any makeup.

 

I can only imagine how many people would tear me apart if I put my picture up here. But I went out last night with a woman and she said I looked very well dressed.

 

I mean "Women who don't wear makeup can't attract men." "Women should never wear sweats or male type clothes."

 

God no. Please no.

 

I go hiking and running. Should women wear makeup when doing that? If I see a woman wearing makeup during a hike, that says to me that she obsessed with the exterior and that is a turn off.

 

And lastly, I don't think your pics show that you don't take care of yourself. They're perfectly fine.

 

Could you use a little more pizzaz? Maybe. But that is up to you.

 

Life is short. Just remember to be yourself.

[katiegrl]

@wb1988 do you really think I am ugly. Maybe you should keep your opinon to yourself. I know a lot of people think I look horrible. I was told that enough through out school I don't need you reiteriating it. I can have surgery to correct my looks you'll always be shallow.

 

Beautifulinside, please don't let the opinion of one person (on this thread) get to you.

 

Her post isn't even here anymore, it has been deleted...

 

So try not to give it a second thought.

 

You are NOT ugly, hardly. In fact a few guys with whom I have been messaging told me they think you are cute and quite pretty! They had no reason to lie, it was a private message!

 

Like many of us said, longer hair, side swept bangs, more stylish glasses and some lipstick and you will be gorgeous!

[wb1988]

@wb1988 do you really think I am ugly. Maybe you should keep your opinon to yourself. I know a lot of people think I look horrible. I was told that enough through out school I don't need you reiteriating it. I can have surgery to correct my looks you'll always be shallow.

 

What I wrote was also on the assumption that you're cheating (at least mentally) on your bf, so excuse my rudeness.

 

I would love to see a picture of wb1988

 

Why are you hoping that I'm a fat ugly old bald guy that tried to troll you? If so then you'd be out of luck .

[h0000]

Not true.

 

I actually prefer women who don't wear makeup. Obviously a woman who does is not unattractive, but I think it speaks to personality. And a woman who does not wear makeup on a regular basis is more likely to mesh with me.

 

what you referring to is probably heavy makeup, dolled up, fake lashes and everything and that is not even what I'm talking about here.

 

A good makeup can be so subtle yet so effective and guys don't even notice there is make up on.

[BeautifulInside]

ok apologies. But I'd never look round if I was in a serious relationship. If I were in a serious relationship and it wasn't going well I'd end it, I am not that type of women to cheat.

[BeautifulInside]

Thanks to people's advice I have got more interest and this is without much make up (only lipstick and mascara), maybe if I wanted to get loads of men chasing me I could add foundation but I'd rather go for someone who is fine with me how I am. Changing the glasses really seems to have helped. In the end I didn't go for a hair cut, I just wash it more often and put in hair serum to calm it down.

[lucy_in_disguise]

Thanks to people's advice I have got more interest and this is without much make up (only lipstick and mascara), maybe if I wanted to get loads of men chasing me I could add foundation but I'd rather go for someone who is fine with me how I am. Changing the glasses really seems to have helped. In the end I didn't go for a hair cut, I just wash it more often and put in hair serum to calm it down.

 

Washing your hair too frequently will cause it to become dry and limp. I would recommend washing it less often (twice a week should suffice) and using a dry shampoo to add volume and soak up the oil in between washes.

 

I have found that switching to higher-quality shampoo/ conditioner can also make a huge difference. I love bumble and bumble products, tho theyre not cheap. i like their dry shampoo, which comes in powder form. I have also used dove's, which comes in a spray can and is cheaper.

 

Re: foundation, you have great skin, so you dont really need it. A good tinted moisturizer would give u a dewy, polished look, tho. I like laura mercier and tarte. I just add a tiny dab to my spf 100 sunscreen to help even out my skin tone.

Edited May 10, 2015 by lucy_in_disguise