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How much make up you need depends on how attractive you want to be. If you want to be very attractive you need a full face makeup for sure,just a light layer of makeup. Full face doesn't mean heavy. Guys don't like face looking like cakes .

Some brands have light foundations. Thing is if you don't use foundation, other makeup wouldn't look as good and it gets dirty quick.

Brownser and blush make a lot of difference too. Then some nature color eye shadow and mascara. If you want more/at night, wear eye liners

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I'll give you my opinion on your look;

 

- Glasses are drastically affecting your overall appearance, and clashing with the shape and look of your face, it's suffocating all the attention.

 

You have an oval shaped face and the width of those glasses just widen the head in a not so particular flattering area, they are also quite thick and purple isn't the best all around color and a bit too little girl...I'd stick with a black or darker brown, thin rim kind, and either large shaped classic style glasses, or at least glasses that dip down a bit instead of square or oval. So either do it with an intentionally style or that compliments your face, or just go contacts.

 

Like the glasses on the top row, far right..or bottom row, center of this PIC

 

- Your hair is kind of just a combed back at the top and then down on the sides, but it doesn't look kept and a bit greasy and wild...it peaks at the top of your head, flattens down on the sides and then bushes out at the neck line, I think this is the main area you've got to address personally.

 

In my opinion I would grow your hair long (typical guy comment, but that's what guys like) and shoot for something like this kind of a STYLE

 

- Then it comes to style...you have a good shape, a decent rack but not to the point where your breast are going to make it hard for you to pull off certain styles of clothing...you're still young and could go with a more hipster/retro look as you have more of a classic look, and style will give you a lot more appeal without having to cover your face in make-up.

 

Don't go full hipster, but go in that direction as I think some throwback styles, patterned clothing, as well as accessorizing will give you a bit of flair without having to go nuts on the make-up. I think this is a matter of trial and error, and you're going to have to be willing to get into a comfort zone with trying something out of it.

 

You're conservative style and demeanor brings down the appeal level, you're just a plain jane kind of simple girl, and that's not going to pull a lot of appeal from the guys online.

 

Now keep in mind this is just suggestions overall, I want you to look and feel your best, I want your attitude to change about how you feel about yourself, I want you to feel pretty without feeling like you're doing this just for other men. If it makes you feel better about you, and you are looking to improve your look and try something different and maybe find a new you...that's the mindset you want to go into this with.

 

If you are looking to tantalize and have every man drooling over you, chances are that's not going to happen and if you're just looking for attention and approval from men I can guarantee you that's the wrong and least kind of attention you want, it's not that important...men are kind of a sad bunch if I'm being honest with you, very superficial, not that into details but like the whole package as a whole and just overall just really easy to manipulate and predictable in terms of what gets them off...that is not really a standard you want to chase after, because it's really not what you think it is and if you're looking to attract all men you're just going to end up looking short of a street walker.

 

Go with style, class and an overall kept look that compliments you...don't worry too much about what guys think, they will come after that.

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It's obviously just my opinion, which is obviously a minority opinion coming from 'an old man'.

 

But, do you want a man who would respond to a message if you were wearing makeup and wouldn't if you weren't?

 

Personally, I think your pictures look fine, and I would message you and I HAVE messaged women with your particular look.

 

But I think that you are asking, "How can I attract men and/or more attractive men than the men I'm getting?"

 

I cannot help you with that.

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If you want to attract guys, you need makeup,period. Doesn't need to be a lot but need the right amount in the right places. Go to the malls makeup counter and ask the staff to do you a makeup and learn from there.

Also need to change your hair style and clothes.

 

Not true.

 

I actually prefer women who don't wear makeup. Obviously a woman who does is not unattractive, but I think it speaks to personality. And a woman who does not wear makeup on a regular basis is more likely to mesh with me.

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If you want to attract guys, you need makeup,period. Doesn't need to be a lot but need the right amount in the right places. Go to the malls makeup counter and ask the staff to do you a makeup and learn from there.

Also need to change your hair style and clothes.

 

That's funny because I seem to attract more guys when I am out and about in my jeans and tee, hair in a pony tail, fresh faced and *without* makeup.

 

My boyfriend thinks I look sexiest first thing in the morn when I just wake up, hair disheveled, *without* makeup.

 

Most men I know can't stand make up! They much prefer the fresh faced natural look, with perhaps some lippy and light blush. For natural blondes like myself, some mascara for our lashes.

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Girls need makeup, if a guy says you don't, they're lying. The trick is that you want to be subtle enough where it doesn't look like you're wearing any makeup.

 

Guys who say you don't need makeup probably don't realize you're wearing any in the first place lol.

 

 

EDIT: OP just checked the pics you posted, you're definitely very cute ;) You should have no problem finding a good guy. A lot of the women here posted some good feedback I think on how you can improve your look.

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My boyfriend thinks I look sexiest first thing in the morn when I just wake up, hair disheveled, *without* makeup.

 

Most men I know can't stand make up! They much prefer the fresh faced natural look, with perhaps some lippy and light blush. For natural blondes like myself, some mascara for our lashes.

 

It's been my experience as well.

 

My ex used to tell me I'm the prettiest when I wake up. Maybe it's because of closeness you feel after a night sleeping next to someone. I am not sure a stranger would find me at my best when I wake up and still have the pillow printed on my face lol.

 

Majority of men I dated liked the fact I keep make up to a minimal, lipstick and mascara. I also get complimented on my skin. Well guess what I got beautiful skin at my age cause I did not cover it with foundation all my life like some women do.

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I have seen women on Match.com who have posted their first main profile pic, post a new profile pic (after incidentally ignoring my messages :lmao:) all dolled up and with makeup and such.

 

To be as frank and superficial as I possibly can be, it really doesn't help that much. So much of beauty is innate. It does help a little, but it certainly doesn't help turn someone who I feel is not particularly attractive into somebody cute, which is the point here.

 

I have seen cases where pornstars lather on the makeup and with the fake boobs and cleavage and short skirts and that is sexy probably no matter what their face looks like, but I don't think that is what you are going for here. :lmao:

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Girls need makeup, if a guy says you don't, they're lying. The trick is that you want to be subtle enough where it doesn't look like you're wearing any makeup.

 

Guys who say you don't need makeup probably don't realize you're wearing any in the first place lol.

 

 

EDIT: OP just checked the pics you posted, you're definitely very cute ;) You should have no problem finding a good guy. A lot of the women here posted some good feedback I think on how you can improve your look.

 

^^Yup, your first paragraph is exactly what I said earlier in a different post...

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Girls need makeup, if a guy says you don't, they're lying. The trick is that you want to be subtle enough where it doesn't look like you're wearing any makeup.

 

Guys who say you don't need makeup probably don't realize you're wearing any in the first place lol.

 

 

EDIT: OP just checked the pics you posted, you're definitely very cute ;) You should have no problem finding a good guy. A lot of the women here posted some good feedback I think on how you can improve your look.

 

barcode, I have never had a guy *tell" me I look better with no make up, they just hit on me more often (while I am out and about wearing jeans and tee, no makeup)...

 

I go by how they *act* rather than what they *say*.

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Girls need makeup, if a guy says you don't, they're lying. ** The trick is that you want to be subtle enough where it doesn't look like you're wearing any makeup. **

 

Guys who say you don't need makeup probably don't realize you're wearing any in the first place lol.

 

 

EDIT: OP just checked the pics you posted, you're definitely very cute ;) You should have no problem finding a good guy. A lot of the women here posted some good feedback I think on how you can improve your look.

 

Clarification to my post no 59. I agree with the second sentence of your first paragraph and that is what I posted earlier... your first sentence, not so much...

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Katie, I think the reason you get approached more with no makeup on isn't because Men prefer no makeup. It's just that you come across as less intimidating/threatening, and they feel more at ease approaching you. I'm sure those same guys like it if you wear some light/moderate makeup on a date with them.

 

When you're dating a guy, he'll love it when you wear makeup. My FWB wore some pretty heavy makeup last weekend when she came over (it wasn't completely over the top or ridiculous or anything though), and I didn't mind.

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Katie, I think the reason you get approached more with no makeup on isn't because Men prefer no makeup. It's just that you come across as less intimidating/threatening, and they feel more at ease approaching you. I'm sure those same guys like it if you wear some light/moderate makeup on a date with them.

 

When you're dating a guy, he'll love it when you wear makeup. My FWB wore some pretty heavy makeup last weekend when she came over (it wasn't completely over the top or ridiculous or anything though), and I didn't mind.

 

Yes of course I wear makeup. But it's very subtle. Light blush, light glossy lipstick and mascara cause my lashes are so light...

 

But to be honest, and my boyfriend concurs, it's minimal, it doesn't really make much of a difference..

 

In fact, when I wear blush, later throughout the day I end up wiping most of it off as my cheeks tend to have a life of their own! Naturally pink (rosey?)

 

Some say I am blessed, but sometimes I don't think so...but then again we are our own worst critics...:bunny:

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Yes of course I wear makeup. But it's very subtle. Light blush, light glossy lipstick and mascara cause my lashes are so light...

 

But to be honest, and my boyfriend concurs, it's minimal, it doesn't really make much of a difference..

 

In fact, when I wear blush, later throughout the day I end up wiping most of it off as my cheeks tend to have a life of their own! Naturally pink (rosey?)

 

Some say I am blessed, but sometimes I don't think so...but then again we are our own worst critics...:bunny:

 

Trust me... Even light makeup makes a difference. You probably have nice features as it is, but light makeup polishes them off and can make a world of difference.

 

I think the worst critic(s) would be yourself AND your boyfriend. He'll never say anything negative towards you :p

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Trust me... Even light makeup makes a difference. You probably have nice features as it is, but light makeup polishes them off and can make a world of difference.

 

I think the worst critic(s) would be yourself AND your boyfriend. **He'll never say anything negative towards you** :p

 

Last sentence. true, but then again, if he did not like something, he would NOT lie either...he just would not say anything at all...

 

So when he says I look sexiest in the morn upon first waking up...I believe him! Him taking photos of me when I first wake up would indicate he means it too! :bunny:

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Last sentence. true, but then again, if he did not like something, he would NOT lie either...he just would not say anything at all...

 

So when he says I look sexiest in the morn upon first waking up...I believe him! Him taking photos of me when I first wake up would indicate he means it too! :bunny:

 

I'm sure he means it, when I wakeup and the girl next to me has bed hair, I still find her sexy ;) I still can't place what exactly it is that makes me feel that way haha.

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I tend to attract men who don't take care of themselves at all. I just want to attract someone who takes a bit of care of themselves. I am not looking for a stunner in fact compatibility is more important than looks for me. I also feel with my current look I attract men with quite low self esteem, but from the comments I can kind of see why.

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I tend to attract men who don't take care of themselves at all. I just want to attract someone who takes a bit of care of themselves. I am not looking for a stunner in fact compatibility is more important than looks for me. I also feel with my current look I attract men with quite low self esteem, but from the comments I can kind of see why.

 

Well if you're setting your standards too high, you're going to be disappointed. If you want a guy who takes care of himself, you will have to take care of yourself just as much.

 

Things you can do:

  1. Improve your hair style
  2. Wear contacts
  3. Wear some light makeup/lipstick

You already have a very nice figure, you just need to polish off your facial features a bit. Go to the makeup counter at the mall sometime and get some help/advice.

 

Do you have a link to your OLD profile that we can critique?

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I tend to attract men who don't take care of themselves at all. I just want to attract someone who takes a bit of care of themselves. I am not looking for a stunner in fact compatibility is more important than looks for me. I also feel with my current look I attract men with quite low self esteem, but from the comments I can kind of see why.

 

Self esteem just means you like yourself. It doesn't mean that you have to think you are physically beautiful.

 

You're gonna get the gamut of answers from "Women look bad in glasses" and "Women need to wear makeup." to "You look fine."

 

Only you know the type of person you want.

 

P.S. If you do want someone who typically places more emphasis on beauty, then I wouldn't use 'Beautiful Inside' as a avatar handle. That is an automatic turnoff to people who value self-confidence in beauty.

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Definetly some sort o moisturizing lipstick or tinted balm,blusher in rosewood MAC ,mascara ,eye liner and hair done . And better angles when taking pics . The first thing I noticed was dry lips . No bueno.

You need to take better care of yourself physically ,I can see the potential !

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I don't have a dating profile up at the moment. So I can't send a link, I had the written part checked by several people and they said it was good but maybe a bit long. I think before I go back online I might get the written profile checked to see what people think.

 

I am unsure of the best pose for a photo as I have mainly tried to hide from the camera so don't have much practice. How do you guys pose for photos? How would I find the right angle? I have some friends who are amateur photographers and their work is quite impressive I can offer myself as a subject :) Will put up photos after I've had some taken.

 

I've lost the purple glasses. I already had some glasses like the bottom center pic:

 

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I also ordered in a nice pair of retro glasses and feminine pink in the shape on the right :)

 

I like the idea of retro/vintage fashion I already have a few pieces. However I am not sure about the hipster suggestion as I am not sure where to start.

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I don't have a dating profile up at the moment. So I can't send a link, I had the written part checked by several people and they said it was good but maybe a bit long. I think before I go back online I might get the written profile checked to see what people think.

 

I am unsure of the best pose for a photo as I have mainly tried to hide from the camera so don't have much practice. How do you guys pose for photos? How would I find the right angle? I have some friends who are amateur photographers and their work is quite impressive I can offer myself as a subject :) Will put up photos after I've had some taken.

 

I've lost the purple glasses. I already had some glasses like the bottom center pic:

 

 

I also ordered in a nice pair of retro glasses and feminine pink in the shape on the right :)

 

I like the idea of retro/vintage fashion I already have a few pieces. However I am not sure about the hipster suggestion as I am not sure where to start.

 

Your friends will be able to help you out ;) It's good to have pictures of activities or with friends too, so maybe while you have one good Main Photo of just yourself, try and get some with friends or an activity maybe.

 

How's your hair coming along?

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I've had minimal highlighting. I am making sure its always washed properly when going outside. I am also thinking of looking at youtube for quick partial updos. I may even straighten it once in a while, although I am quite happy with it wavy. A lot of people do seem to think that the only way to wear your hair is straight. Are there any females on here who have wavy or curly hair and actually quite like it that way?

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Here is one :) I have naturally wavy/curly hair, and although it looks good straightened occasionally, I usually don't do it. First off, I have tons of hair (lower back length, thick), so straightening even with a stylist takes hours, if I do it myself - half a day. Second, I think the wavy hair represents my personality better.. Or I'm just more used to seeing myself that way.

 

Having said that, my ex nearly created a complex in me, asking me to permanently straighten it to look "normal". Well, I'm happy I kept the hair style and changed the guy ;)

 

I've had minimal highlighting. I am making sure its always washed properly when going outside. I am also thinking of looking at youtube for quick partial updos. I may even straighten it once in a while, although I am quite happy with it wavy. A lot of people do seem to think that the only way to wear your hair is straight. Are there any females on here who have wavy or curly hair and actually quite like it that way?
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Highlighting would suit you in my opinion, so good that you've done it.

 

Makeup-wise: try eyeliner on the top lid (Artliner Lancôme is very easy to use and they have different colors), some mascara, and brighter lip stain (nude is a bit draining I think). This should suffice, just take a few good angle photos and you're ready to go online ;)

 

I've had minimal highlighting. I am making sure its always washed properly when going outside. I am also thinking of looking at youtube for quick partial updos. I may even straighten it once in a while, although I am quite happy with it wavy. A lot of people do seem to think that the only way to wear your hair is straight. Are there any females on here who have wavy or curly hair and actually quite like it that way?
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