Feeling I could be more attractive want to improve myself for guys and myself

[SunnySide0418]

I've added a new photo. This time its smiley but its not dressy, I've had my hair and eyebrows done since the last one. It took a while to get a smiley photo as I hate my photo being taken.

 

I was thinking of joining a dating site but need advice on how to present myself, I don't look good enough to join up at the moment (as internet dating is about appearance I feel I'd be wasting my time). Makeup/ tinted moisturize and/or different clothes for internet dating? Any suggests on styles you think might suit me.

 

 

Since you're asking - bangs, highlights and perhaps try contacts sometimes.

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[BeautifulInside]

My hair is wavy so not sure bangs would work, also I am trying to grow it out. Will try highlights though (any suggestions?)... Next photo highlights and contacts!

[smackie9]

Try a virtual hairstyler. There are plenty of sites out there. You upload a photo of yourself and crop it into the many styles they have. It's kind of fun.

[smackie9]

My hair is wavy so not sure bangs would work,

That's what product and a flat iron is for. I wear my hair straight, wavey or curly (messy and defined). You can do pretty much with your hair with the right tools. Being able to have different looks is key to keep men interested. It's like dating a different girl as they say.

[123321]

@fitnessfan365 lol. Maybe I should ask the guy I am dating that question.

 

I've tried makeup brands for sensitive skin, but my skin still itches and I don't like the feel of a full face of makeup. I have in the past posted pics with me in makeup then gone on dates without wearing it (they could still recognize me so I guess it wasn't too deceptive-I have heard of men meeting with women and not being able to recognize them). However if I posted now I'd only post pics in the amount of makeup I'd use for a date. When I had my professional photo done the team told did tell me that he'd put less makeup on me than they'd ever put on anyone (I'd asked for the natural look). However I still got a lot more messages, maybe it was because I also looked quite stylish rather than the makeup and in that case I need to change my style.

 

OK so speaking dispassionately you're not what I would call a classic beauty but to me you're damn good looking. I have a sort of thing for the little bit nerdy librarian type women and that picture really hits the right notes to me.

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[123321]

I've added a new photo. This time its smiley but its not dressy, I've had my hair and eyebrows done since the last one. It took a while to get a smiley photo as I hate my photo being taken.

 

I was thinking of joining a dating site but need advice on how to present myself, I don't look good enough to join up at the moment (as internet dating is about appearance I feel I'd be wasting my time). Makeup/ tinted moisturize and/or different clothes for internet dating? Any suggests on styles you think might suit me.

 

I like the bathtub/no kidney comment.

Edited April 19, 2015 by a LoveShack.org Moderator

[SunnySide0418]

My hair is wavy so not sure bangs would work, also I am trying to grow it out. Will try highlights though (any suggestions?)... Next photo highlights and contacts!

 

 

Bangs would do wonders.. invest in a flat iron. Even side swept bangs. Look online for highlights - blondish or a carmel color will really brighten your face.

Also, eye liner and mascara will make your eyes pop!

[smackie9]

Shop for feminine lacy peasant tops, maybe wear one that is off the shoulders....goes with jeans, shorts and skirts. Simple and sexy.

[Gaeta]

I cannot open your picture but I will say if you are not used to put make up on then just go for lipstick (or gloss) and mascara maybe a little bit of high-liner on top eyelid . Don't get into foundation and blush, they don't look natural, it's awful what I see sometimes. Hair is important, have a sassy sexy haircut and maintain it.

 

Most days I only wear lipstick or gloss. It's the basic. Only that will bright up your face.

[Harold of Andraste]

I've added a new photo. This time its smiley but its not dressy, I've had my hair and eyebrows done since the last one. It took a while to get a smiley photo as I hate my photo being taken.

 

I was thinking of joining a dating site but need advice on how to present myself, I don't look good enough to join up at the moment (as internet dating is about appearance I feel I'd be wasting my time). Makeup/ tinted moisturize and/or different clothes for internet dating? Any suggests on styles you think might suit me.

 

You look so much better in the second photo than the first.

 

Your face is perfectly fine.

 

In my opinion what is bringing you down is the hair and glasses.

 

You could use some style to your hair and some sort of bangs.

 

Glasses really aren't that good looking on women unless it's really part of their image.

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[smackie9]

Well it looks like the common denominator is the hair.

[123321]

Eh.

 

I don't go around handing out compliments just to make people feel good online, so when I say I think she's fine looking (and I do know I am just one guy), it's sincere. I suspect "the issue" isn't looks at all, it's possibly confidence or something.

[katiegrl]

You have lovely features, so you have something to work with definitely. You need to polish your look....top priority is your hair. You need a nice cut and style. Your hair right now makes you look you don't care or maintain your grooming. Next go and get your eyebrows done professionally. It's cheap, most places only charge 5 bucks for waxing and reshaping.

 

Go to the makeup counter at your local department store and get a free makeover. Mac is a great place too. Guys notice the eyes first. If you accentuate your eyes you will have there attention for sure.

 

Is there a pic somewhere? The link she posted was blocked.

 

Funny thing about makeup...if applied correctly, it should *enhance* your features and overall look.... but not so much that it *changes* your features or look.

 

In fact, make up should be so minimal, others shouldn't even be able to see that you are "made up".... only you know you wearing it.

 

The only thing they should see is a bright clear complexion and eyes that "pop." They are NOT supposed to see the actual make up itself!

 

Many women are way overly made up these days...and frankly I don't know any guys who find that attractive...at all.

[katiegrl]

Just saw your photos. First off, damn awesome figure!

 

Your face, I like the photo in the pink shirt, but girl either ditch the glasses or get contacts or get new new more stylish ones.

 

Since you are dark, you don't need much makeup other than some lipstick for sure! Maybe a little blush on the cheeks.

 

And grow your hair long or get extensions until it grows out. And long side swept bangs would look adorable on you! Straighten with straightening iron if curly.

 

In short, ditching those glasses, growing your hair long, bangs, and a little lipstick would do wonders!

[Peachland]

Great smile! I'm with everyone else here. Focus on getting a fabulous hairstyle and you'll be good to go. Spend the money and find a recommended hairstylist. They'll know exactly what to do.

 

I wouldn't stress about makeup. I wear some bare minerals powder concealer, cheek tint, mascara and tinted lipgloss. Maybe a little eyeshadow in the evenings. I prefer the natural look as well and focus my energy on getting the hair right.

[Phoe]

I disagree with the glasses comments! I'm a glasses wearer myself most days, and I think yours are adorable.

 

It's fine to switch it up every now and then, some days wear them, some days not, but don't ditch them entirely!

[katiegrl]

I disagree with the glasses comments! I'm a glasses wearer myself most days, and I think yours are adorable.

 

It's fine to switch it up every now and then, some days wear them, some days not, but don't ditch them entirely!

 

I said to either ditch or get new more stylish ones. The glasses she was wearing in the photos are outdated and too big for the size of her face.

 

If you think they are adorable, I respect that, I just don't think guys would though.

[Gary S]

Haha.. This reminds me of a dating story. A question I love to ask is - 'If your house/apartment was on fire, what three things would you grab assuming pets and loved ones were safely outside?" This lets you find out stories right way about lifestyles, family mementos, etc..

 

One woman I had a first date with (really smoking hot) said her make up case. I asked her if she was joking, and she was dead serious. Didn't call her again after that.

 

- Well, if she was your wife and your house caught on fire, look at the bright side... you would have both a hot house and a hot wife!

[katiegrl]

- Well, if she was your wife and your house caught on fire, look at the bright side... you would have both a hot house and a hot wife!

 

Good point!!! :bunny:

[Versacehottie]

Yes, first off love that you smiled. Shows more confidence. I think next step is bangs and either lose the glasses or get stylish ones. I think lose them for a wider appeal to guys or if the kind of guys that like girls in glasses appeal to YOU, then get glasses that say you are confident wearing them (and show a younger/cooler personality than your current ones do).

[h0000]

If you want to attract guys, you need makeup,period. Doesn't need to be a lot but need the right amount in the right places. Go to the malls makeup counter and ask the staff to do you a makeup and learn from there.

Also need to change your hair style and clothes.

[Gary S]

I don't know if anyone mentioned this, but you should get a friend/wing woman to help you with your makeup

 

Heck, I'm a relationship writer and even I have wing-women... life just wouldn't be the same without em' (but why do I always get the sarcastic ones... I mean really, seriously?! )

 

People need people. And men and women need each other too.

[Harold of Andraste]

I said to either ditch or get new more stylish ones. The glasses she was wearing in the photos are outdated and too big for the size of her face.

 

If you think they are adorable, I respect that, I just don't think guys would though.

 

Generally I don't like glasses on women, and in her case they just had a big negative impact.

 

Perhaps a more in style set would look better, but still I think no glasses at all would be best. She could run a test and put up pictures of her not wearing glasses to see what the difference is.

[BeautifulInside]

I might wait for my hair to grow out till I get bangs I am going to have it highlighted this week hopefully. The new hairdresser did say highlights. I was trying to grow my hair but went to a hairdresser who said I'd look nice with shoulder length hair she cut the whole lot off! Now I have a different hairdresser.

 

I will wear contact lenses more but my eyes get dry wearing them. Could anyone suggest a pair of glasses that they'd think would suit me, I am terrible at this type of thing, when I bought my glasses I asked the guy in the shop to choose a pair for me.

 

I like the peasant top idea, matched with a slit skirt I think it would be very me.

[BeautifulInside]

Will post a photo without glasses. Not going with the full face of makeup quite yet just lipstick, mascara and blusher, if that doesn't work will then will try full makeup. I don't really like how foundation feels on my face and I've not worn one that doesn't start making me itch within a week or two of wearing it.

 

To the people who said wear makeup do you mean a full face or do you think the makeup I've suggested above is enough or even the suggestion above with something lighter like tinted moisturizer.