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I've tried online dating and got a low rate of messages. I tried an online dating experiment I had two profiles:

 

(1) natural looking makeup but not very well written

 

(2) only lippy but well written (I paid someone to write it and showed it to people who said they thought it was really good)

 

Profile number (1) got more messages, this experiment has made me quite paranoid and made me think that I am not that attractive and men will only be interested in me if I wear makeup. I don't generally like to wear makeup as I have sensitive skin and hate the way it feels on my skin. When I told my friend she was said 'well duh, men like women who wear makeup. If you made yourself up you'd get loads of men after you. You've got a nice figure.' At the moment I am currently dating someone who likes me with just a bit of lippy. But I am not satisfied with myself I am starting to try out blusher, lippy and mascara as I think I can get away with these on my skin. I am also working on my style and making my diet very healthy.

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I'd like people to say whether they think I really could do with more makeup. In the pic below I have nude lippy on.

 

 

I could upload one with blusher, mascara and lippy if people would like.

 

Also it would be good if someone could say what styles they think would suit me. I am UK based and would want to shop in a London highstreet.

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smackie9 Established Member

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It is blocked I can't see it. You need to change the privacy setting on your account.

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I'm assuming lippy means lip stick?

 

 

Anyway, when dating, you should but your best self forward, whether that is au natural or with make up, you have to be comfortable in your own skin. Also false advertising is bait & switch. Make up in your OL profile vs no make up on the date . . .not the best plan.

 

 

Since OLD is more visual, perhaps you would simply be better off meeting people the old fashioned way -- in person IRL

 

 

If you insist on makeup do your research. Some are made for sensitive skin.

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It's perfectly fine not to want to wear makeup everyday, even some supermodels don't. However, the fact of life is, most men prefer an attractive SO. Just wear it for your pictures and date night. Have you ever heard the phrase, "Dress for success"? Sell yourself.

 

Beauty is a woman's power. Why not take advantage of that? It's smart. Good luck to you!

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Haha.. This reminds me of a dating story. A question I love to ask is - 'If your house/apartment was on fire, what three things would you grab assuming pets and loved ones were safely outside?" This lets you find out stories right way about lifestyles, family mementos, etc..

 

One woman I had a first date with (really smoking hot) said her make up case. I asked her if she was joking, and she was dead serious. Didn't call her again after that.

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I get that it isn't fair that women are almost required to wear makeup to get attention in this world.

 

 

However, what would you tell a guy who is having trouble getting dates while only wearing sweatpants and a stained white t-shirt? Even if he says that is how he is most comfortable and how he wants to dress, you are going to tell him to dress better to get more attention.

 

 

That is how it all works, you impress people first, then let them get to know the real you as you get closer to one another.

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My staples are concealer, rosy blush, and mascara.

 

If I could recommend one thing, I'd say mascara! It brings a bright eyed look without looking too overdone.

 

I too am a fan of no makeup. Right now I'm wearing none! But for work days I put on concealer, blush, and mascara.

 

I also focus on keeping my skin nice. Clean, exfoliated, glowing.

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@fitnessfan365 lol. Maybe I should ask the guy I am dating that question.

 

I've tried makeup brands for sensitive skin, but my skin still itches and I don't like the feel of a full face of makeup. I have in the past posted pics with me in makeup then gone on dates without wearing it (they could still recognize me so I guess it wasn't too deceptive-I have heard of men meeting with women and not being able to recognize them). However if I posted now I'd only post pics in the amount of makeup I'd use for a date. When I had my professional photo done the team told did tell me that he'd put less makeup on me than they'd ever put on anyone (I'd asked for the natural look). However I still got a lot more messages, maybe it was because I also looked quite stylish rather than the makeup and in that case I need to change my style.

 

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Haha.. This reminds me of a dating story. A question I love to ask is - 'If your house/apartment was on fire, what three things would you grab assuming pets and loved ones were safely outside?" This lets you find out stories right way about lifestyles, family mementos, etc..

 

One woman I had a first date with (really smoking hot) said her make up case. I asked her if she was joking, and she was dead serious. Didn't call her again after that.

 

Her makeup case?! roflmaolol :laugh::laugh:

 

Well, I guess we all have certain things that are, um, important to us lol.

 

 

As for me, well.....I'd grab:

 

1) My photo albums, momentos and other precious objects/papers

 

2) My Xbox and all of my games

 

3) My laptop

 

 

So, I'm throwing that question YOUR way, fitness....what 3 things would YOU grab out of your place if it was on fire? :p

 

 

 

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You have lovely features, so you have something to work with definitely. You need to polish your look....top priority is your hair. You need a nice cut and style. Your hair right now makes you look you don't care or maintain your grooming. Next go and get your eyebrows done professionally. It's cheap, most places only charge 5 bucks for waxing and reshaping.

 

Go to the makeup counter at your local department store and get a free makeover. Mac is a great place too. Guys notice the eyes first. If you accentuate your eyes you will have there attention for sure.

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smackie9 makes a good point. Get your hair styled.

 

 

You don't need a face full of make up. You could use some eyeliner & a little mascara but that's all I see.

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Try mineral powders for foundation. There's a good one you can get at the drug store that is for sensitive skin. Also Burt's bees has great tinted lip balms that are all natural. All you need for makeup is eyeliner/soft mascara and colored lip gloss. pinch your cheeks for blush lol.

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Go to a Bare Minerals counter and try their stuff and get some samples. Their foundation mineral powder is amazing, I use it all the time and it feels like you have no makeup on! Same with their blush so I think they should work well with your skin type.

 

I am not a fan of the made up look except for special occasions so I keep my makeup really light and it works for me!

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I don't think you need foundation, a little very light contour (not shimmery)under your cheekbones (Naked Flushed is superb) and some mascara and maybe a rosy shimmery lip balm like Blistex Lip Brilliance if you can get it where you are.

 

 

You look like a you're a curly/wavy haired girl, I am too and I started conditioner washing (co- washing) three years ago - it's made a world of difference to my curls. If you do get a cut always get layers, curls and layers work the best.

 

 

Mostly, though, smile..is pretty much all you need to do! :)

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Try mineral powders for foundation. There's a good one you can get at the drug store that is for sensitive skin. Also Burt's bees has great tinted lip balms that are all natural. All you need for makeup is eyeliner/soft mascara and colored lip gloss. pinch your cheeks for blush lol.

 

OP, D0nnivain and Smackie have made some excellent suggestions for you! I've looked at your picture, and in my opinion, you have very pretty eyes that you can accentuate with smoky smudged eyeliner, waterproof black mascara and maybe some caramel or light chocolate brown shimmery eye shadow. Then you can brush on a LIGHT dusting of some (hypoallergenic) coral or rosey colored blush on the apples of your cheeks and then to top off your look - a light colored lip gloss to match the color of the blush you've applied. Straighten your hair or add sexy waves to it and....viola! A gorgeous woman that will definitely get you attention on OLD sites and especially IRL!

 

Go for it! And when you do, show us a pic of you with the beautiful smile that will ultimately complete your new look!:)

 

 

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You have lovely features, so you have something to work with definitely. You need to polish your look....top priority is your hair. You need a nice cut and style. Your hair right now makes you look you don't care or maintain your grooming. Next go and get your eyebrows done professionally. It's cheap, most places only charge 5 bucks for waxing and reshaping.

 

Go to the makeup counter at your local department store and get a free makeover. Mac is a great place too. Guys notice the eyes first. If you accentuate your eyes you will have there attention for sure.

 

Smackie you took the words right out of my mouth. Pretty (you have raw goods) but try to be more polished so you will be noticed. Importantly it will be a reflection of confidence and how much you care about yourself. If you do your eyebrows, that will be something that won't cause allergy problems and will have a wow impact. And hair. Concentrate on those two things first and then see if you can find some makeup brands to try. There are really a lot now. You can do eye makeup and colored lipbalm. No foundation necessary if you want to be a natural girl.

 

If being more natural is your thing, there are plenty of guys who like that. But girls need to look like they are putting effort into the look in some way, even if it's natural. So if you're less of a makeup high-maintenance girl, get your body especially on point. And work on outfits that accentuate feminine. Basically guys like feminine: so in your own way show them feminine you. It doesn't have to be overdone makeup--many guys don't even like that. But whatever avenue is most comfortable to you, maximize it. Body, hair, etc. Keep posting as you move along the steps and we'll be happy to help. :)

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men will only be interested in me if I wear makeup. I don't generally like to wear makeup as I have sensitive skin and hate the way it feels on my skin. When I told my friend she was said 'well duh, men like

 

This is not what you want to hear because the self-help mantra is to be yourself and love yourself. That is true for your own self esteem, but not true in the dating world. If you spend enough time around men in general and reading dating sites you will understand one thing.

 

Men search for hot women. Sounds very discouraging until you also realise....men's idea of a hot woman isn't very difficult to meet. It's basically not being overweight, wearing a dress and heels and wearing naturalistic full face makeup. What many men define as hot is just grooming that the vast majority of women can achieve. If you doubt this google pics of celebrity women (the hot ones) both with and without makeup. Without makeup they are often just as plain as the rest of us.

 

If you have good skin then foundation is unnecessary, a translucent powder will give the same effect and much lighter on the skin. Eyelash extensions negate the need for mascara and bit of lippy will do just fine. That is.....if being 'hot' is important to you.

 

I've spent my time in the hotness sun and to be honest I don't think it's worth the bother, considering the end result is that guys you really don't want to know, are the ones who will flock to you. But I do think it's good practice for every woman to have her little dash at being hot....just to find out what a waste of time and energy it is.

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@Buddhist I don't mind if I am hot or not. I'd just like to be thought of as pretty. I'll do the dress, heels, blusher and lippy not sure I'll ever do the full face of makeup. At the end of the day I just want my inbox to be that bit fuller online so I have more of a choice.

 

I've had my eyebrows shaped. I am getting my hair cut on the 1st so I can post a selfie after that time with a dress and heels.

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If you do not like full foundation make up on your face, try a tinted moisturiser.

I can't see your pic, seems to have gone, but if you have decent skin, then a tinted moisturiser is adequate, they come in all skin colours.

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I don't think that you need makeup, your skin looks lovely as it is and with a nice tone. I never wear makeup either, I hate the way it feels, and my skin looks fine 95% of the time. I only use concealer for dark circles and blush.

 

I like accentuated eyes on women with glasses. Eyeshadows, mascara, eyeliner. Whatever looks good on you. I only use eyeliner on my top lid, I skip the rest (I don't wear glasses 99% of the time though). I like your eyebrow shape the way it is.

 

And again, because you are wearing glasses, a nude lipstick would look great.

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I've added a new photo. This time its smiley but its not dressy, I've had my hair and eyebrows done since the last one. It took a while to get a smiley photo as I hate my photo being taken.

 

I was thinking of joining a dating site but need advice on how to present myself, I don't look good enough to join up at the moment (as internet dating is about appearance I feel I'd be wasting my time). Makeup/ tinted moisturize and/or different clothes for internet dating? Any suggests on styles you think might suit me.

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Omg I used to wear that exact tshirts lol guys loved it. Try wearing your hair up with a little height in the front. Ponytails are sexy.

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I have negative ratings on my photos most people hate them. I suppose the one in the pink t shirt is moody and the red one is not at all sexy. Those are the type of photos I've put on dating websites in the past and it shows I need to change! It probably means I am not going to getting anyone looking like that. The photos on dating sites where I am dressed sexy I am also not smiling. Will look into the ponytail options. If people give my ideas I will use them and re post a picture, if I try enough times I'll eventually get something which hopefully makes me look dateable!

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