nickname Posted April 11, 2005 Posted April 11, 2005 I have been with my boyfriend now for about a year. We have talked about marraige and being together forever, but now he is talking about moving back "home" (about 3,000 miles away). This just happened today so we really haven't talked about staying together yet. We have exactly a month and a half before he leaves and I don't know if we should stay together for the remainder or break-up now. I love him with all of my heart and I really would like to make the most of the time we have left together, but is it going to be the best thing when the time comes for him to leave and we are still going strong? I am so confused right now, please tell me what you think.
HoldOn Posted April 11, 2005 Posted April 11, 2005 How old are you? Here's my short advice: If you are planning on marrying, then stay together. If not, then break up. what's the point of a LDR, if it is not headed toward marraige. After one year, you both should know whether you want this.
RecordProducer Posted April 12, 2005 Posted April 12, 2005 Don't worry, if he loves you, everything will be okay. As a matter of fact, the distance might make him propose to you much sooner than he would otherwise!
Pocky Posted April 12, 2005 Posted April 12, 2005 I don't see any reason to break up. You have no idea what life could have for you just around the corner. Why lose this time together when you could be forming some beautiful memories and a bond that enables you both to overcome what life gives you.
Author nickname Posted April 12, 2005 Author Posted April 12, 2005 ok. he says that it is going to be much harder on both of us if we stay together until the day he leaves. i on the other hand want to spend as much time with him as i can while he is here physically with me and make more great memories. i have tried to understand his thinking but i dont at all. why break up before we absolutely have to?
HoldOn Posted April 12, 2005 Posted April 12, 2005 Oh, I think I see. You two have already decided that when he moves you'll be breaking up. Right? Who decided this? I guess you're not going to get married then, right? If you're not going to stay together after he leaves, then why stay together now.
Gemini02 Posted April 12, 2005 Posted April 12, 2005 I suppose the sooner you get it over with, the sooner you'll start to begin healing. The truth of the matter is, it would be VERY hard to stay together knowing that you're just gonna be breaking it off once he leaves- almost like you're faking it. It wouldn't be enjoyable to have that big black cloud looming over your guys's head for a month and a half...
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