Blackchick Posted March 21, 2015 Posted March 21, 2015 Hey everyone !So here's my situation. It is A little but complicated... But i hope you can tell me your opinions.I dated this guy for 5 years. We are now 24&26 years old. We started when we were 19 & 21 years old . We had the most exciting &beautiful first year together filled with love and a lot of good memories but it ended suddenly. We were separated for 3 months then got back together and ever since ,we had this on and off relationship type. We start dating,everything is going alright then me or he call it off for different reasons. Then,he ALWAYS find a new girl to date right away(like in 2 weeks-1month max) and "fall in love".I never understood if it was a coping mechanism for the breakup or that he was emotionally dependent or both lol. After an average of 5months with the new girls, he'd ALWAYS came back to me saying that i was THE ONE for him,that nobody was like me,i was special,nobody gets him like i do blabla etc (well,you get the picture lol) i ALWAYS accepted to take him back because i loved him with all my heart,i saw in him something that i didn't see in others,we had a really great chemistry and other reasons..We've been through so much over the years,like life threw us a lot of rocks both personally and on our relationship,we called us survivors lol.So the last time,HE broke up with me over a voicemail. I don't really know why but i can say that he was stuggling with The fact that he wasn't where he wants to be in life and other personal issues.One month after,he started dating a new girl who is 8years younger than him (26 and 18). Once again i don't know if it was a rebound or that he simply fell in love with her. While he was with her,he called me a certain morning like 5 times,telling me that he had regrets over the break up,that he was scared for this new relationship, that he was scared that he'd wake up someday and realize that he still loves me etc. I never responded because i was trying to move on for good and didn't want to start the "get back together circle". So 3months after those calls,i made a little research. I think they're not together anymore. Actually,im pretty sure that he left the younger girl.So i saw that as an opportunity because i still have feelings for him and if it´s possible i would like to get back with him BUT only under very special conditions. So i did contacted him and said something that would remind him a good moment we shared together and he replied "ok" after that i said "well hope you're doing great,have a nice day" , then he said that he didn't understand why i would contact him and said that he was "dead". Then i said "that something reminded me of an event that we both found really funny and that it made me smile for a while and if it had bothered /confused him that i was actually sorry and said have a nice day and he didnt reply back. I waited 3 weeks and contacted him again and he didn't answer. I don't know if he blocked my number or something BUT the same day he unblocked me from facebook! I was blocked since the begining of our breakup. I don't know why he unblocked me!It's been 6 months since he broke up with me. I think he started dating a new girl again. Well,actually im pretty sure...I think he moved on. What should i do? Thanks for your help!
mightycpa Posted March 21, 2015 Posted March 21, 2015 You should find another guy is pretty much what you should do.
OneBigIdgit Posted March 21, 2015 Posted March 21, 2015 You need to go total lifetime NC with this guy. He has put your through enough drama. Get him out of your head for a couple of months and then do some lightweight dating, just getting to know some people with no strings attached and see if you run across somebody that feels like home.
Author Blackchick Posted March 21, 2015 Author Posted March 21, 2015 Yeah you're right!.. I need to get him out of my head or i will become crazy! Thx for your help
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