kenmore Posted March 21, 2015 Posted March 21, 2015 Not sure where to put this thread but it's something that has been on my mind, and I think it makes most sense here. That title was what my STBX used for her Yahoo dating profile. It really hit home with me because I love to barbecue! It turns out she doesn't know crap about barbecue, but wanted a man who did. Not a problem! But now I must get back into dating. I have a few months before our divorce is final, so am looking toward the future. I'm thinking about my new Yahoo / Match (I see they are combined now, too bad IMO), and wondering if that is a decent line? It may be painful to use it since it meant something to me in the past, but OMG I love to barbecue!! Okay, I am a nerd, but I can't think of anything more wonderful than being in my backyard slow cooking meat until it's smoky, juicy and tender! Sorry for the drool! Okay, this is a self motivating post. I am reluctant to post and don't need any obstructions more than I put on myself. With months to go before an actual divorce and all this emotional baggage, do you all think I should now? Lord, I want to get laid! (now it belongs on the sex thread too!) Ken 3
Auspecial Posted March 21, 2015 Posted March 21, 2015 I don't see any reason why not! It makes me hungry thinking about it! 4
carhill Posted March 21, 2015 Posted March 21, 2015 In the spirit of guys showing love by actions instead of words, I recall having a standing invitation at my best friend's house for dinner during the year or so I was going through my D and he's a big BBQ'er and, rain or shine, one would often find us out on his patio BBQ'ing all sorts of things, not just meat. As a 'thank you' for that generosity, I ended up taking some of his ideas and developing interesting BBQ's for RV's and camping, the latest of which is a portable version of a restaurant slab griddle, just like a short order cook uses. Ha, I even made an old-fashioned bacon press to go along. These days, the time and energy that used to go into 'getting laid' now goes into doing stuff for friends and inventing and, of course, BBQ'ing! Time for sauce! 1
2.50 a gallon Posted March 21, 2015 Posted March 21, 2015 I married at age 35, meaning I had long ago learned to cook for myself and was especially good at BBQ. At the break up of my marriage I wanted to get back into the dating scene as quickly as possible. When we married we had quickly moved a thousand miles away in order for her to take a career job. So at the time of the break up I found myself with zero friends. When the lease ran out of our old place I got me a place in a very large apartment complex with lots of good looking ladies. When searching for an apartment I checked out the swimming pools on the weekends. Upon moving in I made two purchase, an electric ice cream maker and a large Weber. By the third weekend it was already established that I would be making home made ice cream almost every weekend. Prior to moving, I had decided to improve my cooking skills by teaching myself how to cook some gourmet meals. It was a win-win-win thing. Not only did I end up with a great meal, but also the longer time it took to cook was less time I had to think about the Ex. And yes it was big plus when I got back into dating. Then by accident over Thanksgiving, in order to keep busy I baked a number of cutout Christmas cookies, and decorated them to the ninth degree. These proved to be a big win with my good looking neighbors and I had several offers for assistance the next time I baked. 15 years later, second date, first kiss and I am head over heels with a gal totally out of my league. Third date she came over to help bake Halloween cookies, later it was Christmas cookies. We have now been together for coming up on 20 years. And there is no doubt that it was my cooking skills that helped win her over. I do all of the cooking. Tonight it will be some marinated overnight tenderized steaks on the grill. 2
Quiet Storm Posted March 21, 2015 Posted March 21, 2015 They say the way to a man's heart is through his stomach, but it works on women, too. I love when my husband BBQs. I also love when he makes breakfast. 2
Author kenmore Posted March 21, 2015 Author Posted March 21, 2015 I married at age 35, meaning I had long ago learned to cook for myself and was especially good at BBQ. At the break up of my marriage I wanted to get back into the dating scene as quickly as possible. When we married we had quickly moved a thousand miles away in order for her to take a career job. So at the time of the break up I found myself with zero friends. When the lease ran out of our old place I got me a place in a very large apartment complex with lots of good looking ladies. When searching for an apartment I checked out the swimming pools on the weekends. Upon moving in I made two purchase, an electric ice cream maker and a large Weber. By the third weekend it was already established that I would be making home made ice cream almost every weekend. Prior to moving, I had decided to improve my cooking skills by teaching myself how to cook some gourmet meals. It was a win-win-win thing. Not only did I end up with a great meal, but also the longer time it took to cook was less time I had to think about the Ex. And yes it was big plus when I got back into dating. Then by accident over Thanksgiving, in order to keep busy I baked a number of cutout Christmas cookies, and decorated them to the ninth degree. These proved to be a big win with my good looking neighbors and I had several offers for assistance the next time I baked. 15 years later, second date, first kiss and I am head over heels with a gal totally out of my league. Third date she came over to help bake Halloween cookies, later it was Christmas cookies. We have now been together for coming up on 20 years. And there is no doubt that it was my cooking skills that helped win her over. I do all of the cooking. Tonight it will be some marinated overnight tenderized steaks on the grill. Hey 2.50, that sounds so awesome! It was the opposite for me. I learned how to make gourmet meals while married, to share with her, because she loved my cooking and anything I could do to make her happy, I did. Looking back, that was probably my biggest mistake. I have heard from several sources that if a man tries to please his woman all the time, they lose respect for him. It seems being a certain amount of an assh*le is what keeps them happy. Whatever! But now that I'm out of the house, I have no desire to cook. I suppose when I start dating, that may change. It's difficult to put my mind there at this point. I'm currently living with relatives in a small room. All my cooking and barbecuing equipment is back at her house awaiting my getting a storage unit and moving it there. Either way, obviously I'm not using it anytime in the near future. The equipment that's here sucks! An old gas grill which has one of the two burners out, and puts out so little heat, it takes 20 min just to cook a burger. Every day I find myself lamenting my old stuff which made the job so much easier! Needless to say, that does not increase my desire to cook. Your post does give me hope for the future though, and thanks for that! I can imagine a time when I have my own backyard again and can sit out there and start enjoying it! That also makes me sad though...missing what I had. Ken
Shepp Posted March 21, 2015 Posted March 21, 2015 mmm BBQ!! I actually think BBQing is a great point cause its not just about food, its kinda a lifestyle thing as well! BBQing brings a whole image to mind that's different to just food. 2
2.50 a gallon Posted March 22, 2015 Posted March 22, 2015 My Ex took great pride in her non-existent culinary skills, so I backed off and stuck to only grilling. I caught her cheating, she flaunted it, then a month later did a 180 when she found out that I had shared our marriage bed with someone else. Then spent the next 3 - 4 years trying to win me back. Even though we were separated by a good 30 miles of big city, she some how heard about my cookie baking and used to hint that she would come over and help. I have always had great luck with women appreciating my cooking. As I posted, with my current lady I do almost all of the cooking and dish washing. While she does all of my laundry, then folds it and puts it away. Fair Trade. 1
2.50 a gallon Posted March 22, 2015 Posted March 22, 2015 As for the lack of a proper grill, try Goodwill. Every other Saturday, like yesterday is half price day. I see charcoal and gas grills on the floor a lot. Most could stand a good cleaning, but hey I have seen gas grills for $15 on up on half price day. I wanted a gas grill, but a few years back spotted an almost new large Weber for $15. We also like to dine on the holidays like royalty. A few years back I found an 8 piece setting of gold plated wear, still in the plastic bags, complete with a fancy box $7.50 We also take it with us when we go on picnics. We have a nice wicker picnic basket, complete with plastic plates, saucers and glasses. $1. 1
Author kenmore Posted March 26, 2015 Author Posted March 26, 2015 Agreed, Shepp, it's not just about the food, it's the activity! 2.50, I don't know. Your words make sense, but my brain just can't connect the dots. I would give them my BBQ. It would save me from having to store it, but it does have some weird sentimental value. You see, I won it in a contest. All it cost me was a cover and a rotisserie. A nice 3 burner with everything for around $150. My previous wife (the one who actually loved me) and I had just moved into a new house, and the timing was perfect. I remember my best friend coming over for dinner that night and helping me assemble it, and making our first meal on it. But it's old now and I have to store it. They don't seem to care, and since my cooking desire is out the window, I'm not sure I do either. Everything just makes me apathetic, so I do nothing. Maybe as a diversion from my pathetic apathy, I may just repair this old one. All I need is motivation...and time. We'll see.
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